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You're missing the point by focusing on a word, rather than the concept or principle

I may be wrong but "didn't this missing the real point" lead to all of mankind dying"?

Wasn't the acceptance of human concepts and principles what we bought in the garden?
 
Does anyone here really buy that we are just meat to fill a space????
 
Does anyone here really buy that we are just meat to fill a space????
Are you being deliberately pedantic to make a point or just to be annoying?

If you want specific accuracy, why don't you identify your gender? God made them male and female in the beginning. Which are you?

Start a new post to discuss the meaning of meat if it's that important to you.

I'm crabby right now. Does that mean I have a tough exoskeleton?
 
nfe, you're wasting time. Go back and re-read what I said about incarnation. Nobody here thinks we're "just" meat.
 
I'm crabby right now. Does that mean I have a tough exoskeleton
Not for me to judge friend...
But I promise that if I see anyone coming your way with a claw cracker,
I'll try to distract them while you slip away:D
Thanks for the light hearted chuckle:)
 
There was a point he was making there....
 
Not for me to judge friend...
But I promise that if I see anyone coming your way with a claw cracker,
I'll try to distract them while you slip away:D
Thanks for the light hearted chuckle:)
Troll
 
Is "flesh" any different than "meat"?
Flesh is used extensively in the Bible.
 
Yes and no. :p

The old English words flesh and meat were a bit different, in that flesh really focused on the muscle, fat, etc that we think of today as 'meat', whereas meat was really more of an all purpose word for things we eat that today we think of as 'food'. And that explains why the KJV talks about our physical bodies as 'flesh', but has verses like 'my meat (food) is to do the will of him who sent me' or 'they sat at meat (dinner)'. They were translating the Greek word sarx for 'flesh' (meat, fat, tissue), and another Greek word I can't recall that means nourishment or food for 'meat'.

Today, though, 'meat' is the animal flesh we eat, and the word 'flesh' has morphed from the physical muscle and fat and connecting tissue of our bodies through the idea of the limitations and weaknesses of those bodies into a word heard most often in connection with lust or porn (as in, sins of the flesh, fleshpot, etc).

News bulletin: We have physical bodies with muscle, skin, bone, blood, hair, etc. Shouldn't be a remarkable fact, but for those of us that spend most of our workdays in front of a computer, we occasionally need to be reminded....

To try once again to get this back to dating sites, a powerful argument against dating sites, and social media generally (and probably discussion boards, as well...:eek:), is that what you're seeing is a highly curated selective presentation of what the person on the other end wants you to know (assuming there is in fact a real person on the other end...). In meatspace, since way before the internet was a thing, since the beginning of time, really, people have been trying to present themselves falsely, but in the flesh you get intel from body language and voice inflection that is helpful in getting to know a person, even when, or especially when, most of it is being processed by your subconscious.

Be advised further that it doesn't take much effort to develop the set of skills necessary to manipulate people online into making an emotional investment in a relationship before the parties even meet. They can make it hard to say 'no' once you get together. It may not work in an individual case, but it will work in enough cases, making it a simple numbers game. A word to the wise is sufficient....
 
Is there a thread or any information on this site about polygamy dating sites? I often subscribe for fun, but I never pay.

I think there are no harm in some, but some of them are complete scams, and perhaps there ought to be a warning?

For example, Sisterwives.com. I keep getting e-mails from very attractive women between 20-25 who just can't wait to talk to me. And of course there is no way to respond except to upgrade the level of service. Normally I do not have such a strong appeal to members of this demographic. The only person that I can think of that would benefit from running a scam like this would be the site owner themselves. Are they all scams? Are there any legit ones?

Is this an area where BF can do some policing to protect the newbies?
Having some work experience in this industry I can say that even if the site owner(s) don't have anything to gain; there are entire criminal organizations in Russia and Nigeria which create fake persons on singles sites. The scammers can be quite advanced and it's really a numbers game. 2 special demographics to game for loneliness are religious people (more likely to send money to someone in trouble when the story finally goes that way) and singles in general (though not quite the sister wives genre) ... the lonely, hopeful heart ready to believe what it wants to believe. Even if 90% of people realize something is fishy, it's that 10% who will eventually send a few grand to a third world hottie that makes their efforts all worth while.

Here is an article which is old but still on target.
FBI warns about scammers on dating sites
It's very hard to catch all the scammers as some are quite sophisticated...

***after thought***
when I used to peruse singles sites as I was working in Europe, I'd post something like "travelling American ..." and years later found out this was a scam used against Europeans (usually by Russians/Nigerians and the "travelling" part was to excuse inability to have video conferencing)

*** after after thought ***
That said there are some cultures where it's totally normal and often desirable for the younger gals to seek out mature men. Slovak cultures and Filipino culture come to mind.
The spread in Slovak cultures (Russian, Ukrainian, Moldavian, Slovak, Czech, Serbian, etc..) seems to be that a woman doesn't want a guy who isn't at least 8 years older but usually not more than 20 years older.
This spread is larger in Indonesia & Philippines where it's totally normal for the age range you mentioned to seek out 45+ in a serious fella. So depends who was contacting you...
 
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Poly dating sites are laughable to a large degree. There are so many couples, and the ratio is so out of balance, I doubt many single women could keep up with the messages they likely receive.

I have noticed that I get messages from time to time, that of course cannot be replied to without upgrading to a paying account. With the last few I just took a quick peek at the list of people who had recently viewed my/our profile, and since none of the "single women" messaging had even looked, I wrote them off as spam/form letters.
Out of the few who sounded really neat or interesting that I have messaged over the years, very few ever responded. So that free account is pretty much for laughs or fun.

In my opinion, real interactions, about real issues on a forum like this one are far more likely to result in friendships or relationships.
Amen! Again, I two, three . . . can't walk together in mind and spirit (The Word) the relationship has great potential for failure.
 
Yes and no. :p

The old English words flesh and meat were a bit different, in that flesh really focused on the muscle, fat, etc that we think of today as 'meat', whereas meat was really more of an all purpose word for things we eat that today we think of as 'food'. And that explains why the KJV talks about our physical bodies as 'flesh', but has verses like 'my meat (food) is to do the will of him who sent me' or 'they sat at meat (dinner)'. They were translating the Greek word sarx for 'flesh' (meat, fat, tissue), and another Greek word I can't recall that means nourishment or food for 'meat'.

Today, though, 'meat' is the animal flesh we eat, and the word 'flesh' has morphed from the physical muscle and fat and connecting tissue of our bodies through the idea of the limitations and weaknesses of those bodies into a word heard most often in connection with lust or porn (as in, sins of the flesh, fleshpot, etc).

News bulletin: We have physical bodies with muscle, skin, bone, blood, hair, etc. Shouldn't be a remarkable fact, but for those of us that spend most of our workdays in front of a computer, we occasionally need to be reminded....

To try once again to get this back to dating sites, a powerful argument against dating sites, and social media generally (and probably discussion boards, as well...:eek:), is that what you're seeing is a highly curated selective presentation of what the person on the other end wants you to know (assuming there is in fact a real person on the other end...). In meatspace, since way before the internet was a thing, since the beginning of time, really, people have been trying to present themselves falsely, but in the flesh you get intel from body language and voice inflection that is helpful in getting to know a person, even when, or especially when, most of it is being processed by your subconscious.

Be advised further that it doesn't take much effort to develop the set of skills necessary to manipulate people online into making an emotional investment in a relationship before the parties even meet. They can make it hard to say 'no' once you get together. It may not work in an individual case, but it will work in enough cases, making it a simple numbers game. A word to the wise is sufficient....
Amen Andrew! Hence the retreats. I believe they are critical for everyone to try to attend. Though we may not agree or "see" everything the same, we will all be able to look in the same direction. Looking to God through Jesus Christ. While I'm on retreats, can you send me info to me about Novembers retreat. My wife n I will be attending. Really looking forward to it. Thank you.
 
Is there a thread or any information on this site about polygamy dating sites? I often subscribe for fun, but I never pay.

I think there are no harm in some, but some of them are complete scams, and perhaps there ought to be a warning?

For example, Sisterwives.com. I keep getting e-mails from very attractive women between 20-25 who just can't wait to talk to me. And of course there is no way to respond except to upgrade the level of service. Normally I do not have such a strong appeal to members of this demographic. The only person that I can think of that would benefit from running a scam like this would be the site owner themselves. Are they all scams? Are there any legit ones?

Is this an area where BF can do some policing to protect the newbies?
I'm a member on that website Sister Wives. Com you find a lot of problems with people lying saying they want to become a sister wife and most of the younger ones that are on there are scams and try to get money out of you or what not I'm an upgraded member haven't found not one but the administrators are nice other than that no luck there and don't know any that are real and now these days so many people are adding their own definition to Poly this and Poly that to justify their own sexual needs or whatever
 
these days so many people are adding their own definition to Poly this and Poly that to justify their own sexual needs or whatever
Great point. I'm not aware of any dating site that is exclusively for biblical Christian families seeking sisterwives or biblical Christian women seeking plural families. @Nobodyyspecial, do you know of any such site or really any site you'd recommend for bible-believing Christians?
 
Me and my wife are looking for Sister Wives we pray everyday and hoping that God will bring us Sister Wives that are loving caring honest just like my wife but I do believe a while back the older version of this website would have a personal area but I couldn't find it since they've updated it if I'm correct anybody have any ideas and is her chatrooms hear that I wouldn't be punished or kicked out or banned that we can talk to other like-minded women that are searching for a husband and sister wives
 
Great point. I'm not aware of any dating site that is exclusively for biblical Christian families seeking sisterwives or biblical Christian women seeking plural families. @Nobodyyspecial, do you know of any such site or really any site you'd recommend for bible-believing Christians?
No I don't know of any this is probably about the closest that I could find but I haven't found any personal ads here or women that are looking it's really really tough sometimes my wife says it's just probably not meant to be but I still keep praying and hoping that one or two might come at some I just got to keep praying and hoping and always remember not on our time but God's time even though sometimes you want to ask God to hurry up LOL
 
We've never done personal ads, though we did formerly have an "Introductions" service, where we could match people we knew if they indicated they were looking. Don't really do that anymore either, except on an informal, ad hoc basis.

We're still not at the point culturally where plural marriage is accepted enough for the word to get out to 'all the single ladies' that there's an opportunity there. So mostly what dating sites and personal ads sites look like is lots of families trying to recruit a few young single women, which drives the 'price' of those women through the roof and invites a lot of scammer activity. Are you involved in any church or other activities where you have the ability to meet and get to know single women?
 
We've never done personal ads, though we did formerly have an "Introductions" service, where we could match people we knew if they indicated they were looking. Don't really do that anymore either, except on an informal, ad hoc basis.

We're still not at the point culturally where plural marriage is accepted enough for the word to get out to 'all the single ladies' that there's an opportunity there. So mostly what dating sites and personal ads sites look like is lots of families trying to recruit a few young single women, which drives the 'price' of those women through the roof and invites a lot of scammer activity. Are you involved in any church or other activities where you have the ability to meet and get to know single women?
No Andrew we don't attend but we do believe I was brought up in a Pentecostal background baptized Catholic but always looking and praying and all you might hoping that you would find a real one or I should say sister wife but like I said nothing so far been searching or 5 years we live in Southern California I believe I can talk to somebody from the website here before I think the only way it's going to happen is figure out a way how to get to one of these Retreats that you guys offer and hope maybe you know by mingling finding somebody that's available or so on I stumbled across you guys website a while back when you guys had the old format yeah I know the the sole purpose here is for being here for families or Christians can meet and fellowship and stuff like that but maybe somewhere in the near future that maybe you might have the capability of offering women that are seeking our families that are seeking a new sister wife I don't know maybe you can lead me in the right direction intermingling with people from different states cuz I know there's really nothing going on here in Southern California there were a few people in California on that Sister Wives website but like I said not saying literally that non Godly websites you're really just digging through whatever when you get the women that say they love you he said they want to come home to you and then at the last minute you get catfished or they disappear or they want you to send them money I've been through it all LOL and because I am calloused and I've talked to some of these women and not trying to be rude to them in any way but telling them I'm not going to send them any money so when they kind of show up at my front door and say honey I'm home then LOL but just being truthful when you know but if there's any ladies that are here that you know that are looking and searching and have a good heart in good hands on the shoulders I'm always open for the idea to say hello and let God lead the way from that point crossing my fingers LOL
 
Better as a response to the cultural thing you know we should be out there fighting as much as the gay and lesbians are fighting for their rights as well I know it's tough because there's a lot of discrimination and against family members children everything but just so word of thought I guess and I'm sure the other part is the rejection and so on from parents siblings friends and Neighbors
 
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