Frustration.....

[A&J]

I hope this is the right location for this post, more akin to a rant, but I had to get this out. While my wife and I have enjoyed, not recently as it has been way too busy, reading different posts and introductions and truly value the information and education we get from this site....we also have tried to locate some local groups. What an effort in futility that has been!! We live away from town and rarely enjoy going into to town but thought we would try the web to see if any groups posted, and found several. The frustration comes from what we read when looking at the information. Every group we looked at locally seemed to take what we value as a wonderful, spiritual and enriching thing and turns into a political, disgusting (opinion) and sex riddled circus. Is it too much to ask to simply meet people who believe that a man can love more than one woman, that respect within the relationships is mutually satisfying, that a strong and caring man who values morals, "old school" traditions and wants to pass those things and more on through the generations....is it? Each and every group has their own twist to what a "poly" relationship is, that for some reason you have to accept gay poly, bdsm poly, bi poly.....blah blah blah....in order to "live the lifestyle" I am sorry if it offends and maybe I will be shunned but I do not believe those things, I am not ok with trans gender, gender neutral, bdsm, etc. Judge me if you wish but if a man follows my wife, daughter or grand daughter into a bathroom I do not care how he associates himself or his sexual identity I will respond to what I deem a threat...period, no questions asked, no fluffy feel good talk, it will be physical removal from the location until I deem you no longer a threat to my family. Somehow this now makes me the bad guy, rigid, unforgiving, crude...and a whole bunch of other descriptions. When did we turn down this path? I am just frustrated.....sorry again and thank you for being here.

 

[FollowingHim]

Very understandable rant! Sadly, solid people are few and far between. The few single women out there hunting for families end up running into all the people you've mentioned over and over again until they too become completely disheartened with the entire thing. Whenever YHWH creates something good, Satan has a way of twisting it into evil.

I must qualify this by pointing out that I don't have a problem with people choosing to accept things like voluntary bdsm, that aren't explicitly spoken against in scripture, if that spins your wheels. We must remember that once we ourselves may have been deeply offended by the idea of polygyny, because of our cultural upbringing, but now we realise it is acceptable. There is a possibility that our revulsion towards some other things is equally cultural rather than scriptural, and it may be over time that our views change towards them also. We do need to be careful to not just react automatically to things, but consider them carefully in the light of scripture.

But there are certainly many people out there with ideas and behaviour that are very clearly immoral and unscriptural, and this is all due to Satan. The best way to meet up with sensible, moral people is to attend a Biblical Families retreat.

 

[UntoldGlory]

What we on this forum promote is a very specific form of poly fidelity. What is far more widely practiced is polyamory. It is frustrating that you'll likely have very little luck finding other people who fit the poly fidelity model we promote. Still, I personally find it nice to talk to poly amorous people or other "social outcasts" because they don't bat an eye at our particular lifestyle. It's a nice change of pace from being treated like blasphemous evil heathens.