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Jesus didn’t complain about following
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I've never understood this comparison... It's a heck of a lot easier to follow the Lord than it is to follow another flawed, sinful, and prideful human. Yes, essentially wives are obeying the Lord by following their husbands, but that doesn't make it easy. God is clear, concise, and consistent, most men are not. I think that is where the "complaints" stem from.
I guess it's also not another woman's job to measure the complaints of other women about the roles within their own marriages. Especially when those women may not be married to men as good as your own husband.
I agree, that the argument/teachings on their own are likely sound advice. But the example speaks for itself without the little jabs about "complaining," particularly within a flawed comparison.
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What you said is true, but here's another angle. Yes, any Husband is flawed and sinful, but so are we. We can say "yeah Jesus followed but He was following a sinless God." But the rebuttal is "yes, but He was sinless too. We're not. He still followed"
Submitting and following isn't easy. Neither is, say, dying for the Gospel. But we may be called to the latter. Why should we think we get an exemption from the former?
Besides, we've got it easy. We get to choose the man we submit to and follow. Until a handful of centuries ago, that wasn't the case. Your parents marched you out to meet a man and told you "your his now." When you think about the fact that the New Testament command to serve your Husband as dutifully as you would serve Christ was given to women who had no say in who their husband was, and yet they were still expected to follow that command...
...It makes you realize, "serving a man who you selected personally, giving yourself to a man you chose instead of one who was chosen for you, isn't so hard after all."
Submitting isn't easy, just as you said. And yes, the man you are submitting to will screw up, every day. But the only way to be the bride of a perfect man is to become Catholic and be a nun.
I've considered this as well and personally it just makes the comparison even more unrelatable.
I actually used to think this way as well. I still do, sort of... I'm not attempting to take away the burden and responsibility that men have when leading a family when I say this. But thinking this way often times puts the blame on women for the actions of men. I've lived long enough now to see that people change; sometimes it's not for the best. Imagine you're dealing with a man that you "chose" who isn't as he originally portrayed himself to be or that has changed for the worse for whatever reason. Sure, I don't think the best course of action is to attack him and begin hurling complaints his way. But when you're in a situation such as that, it's also not helpful to have other women making statements like "Hey, don't complain because Jesus didn't complain when he submitted to God."
I've listened to the lady in the video multiple times, she often makes inconsiderate, blanket statements towards other women that I just don't find particularly helpful. Not a fan.
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