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POLYGAMY IN THE LAW OF GOD - BIBLICAL TEXTS

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Polygamy in the Law of God – P1​



The issue of male polygamy (a man with more than one wife) is recurrent in church history, with treatises ranging from contextual acceptance (such as Luther accepting and even approving a king's bigamy) to complete demonization of the subject (as seen in much of the medieval church). However, rarely do we see a comprehensive treatment of the subject in terms of God's Law and Scripture - something we aim to address by examining the topic throughout the entire Scripture.

However, most who venture to address the topic immediately assume that family unhappiness came about because of polygamy and therefore conclude that such events must be a way for God to teach that polygamy causes conflicts (Jacob), breaks promises (Abraham), or goes against God's ideal in creation (Adam and Eve). All of these assumptions prove flawed not only due to cultural context (which we will address in part 2) but also by ignoring and breaking all the principles of biblical interpretation established by these same authors who oppose male polygamy.

After all, polygamy is a characteristic of "Christian" sects (Mormonism) or false religions (Islam), as well as a cultural element of ancient peoples among whom Israel found itself (Egypt?). We will address these questions in the second part, while in this part we will focus solely on polygamy in the Torah, or the first five books of the Bible.

And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. 23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. 24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. (Genesis 2:22-24)



GENESIS 2 - ADAM AND EVE

The first event noted is that God created one woman and not two for Adam. Then - concludes the monogamist - God did not allow Adam to marry more than one woman (in his mind, if God allowed Adam to marry two, logically, He should allow two husbands for the woman). The fact is that in the law, we clearly see the prohibition for a woman to have two husbands, but never for a husband to have two wives (Deuteronomy 21:15; 24:1-4; Exodus 21:9, 10; Leviticus 20:10). However, below, we will consider the subject from weaker to stronger points.



The minimum required

It ignores the clear context of the creation of Adam and Eve, who were created not only alone but in their minimal capacity (without children, without a home, without clothes, without eating meat, etc.), so that although today we use clothes, eat meat, and have homes and children (to the point of finding it absurd not to have some of these things - 1 Timothy 6:8a), they were not established in the creation of man. We must understand, therefore, that if God allowed man to have multiple wives later, it was because in creation, God's intention was to show that even a man with nothing can have, at least, one wife.



The structure of an order

Another problem is that orders are given in the singular. Look at God's commandments in general and see which ones are in the plural. You will notice that every command of God is in the singular, which clearly explains the command to unite with the woman in the text. "Thou shalt not kill" (do not murder), "Thou shalt not steal" (do not steal), etc., are always in the singular. However, the best example is "love thy neighbor" (Leviticus 19:18). Should I assume that because the commandment commands me to love only one neighbor (in the singular), I cannot love more people? Well, of course, the commandment is written like this because in the worst condition you are in, it is possible for you to love your neighbor (help an individual), and also to prevent abstractions from those who claim to love humanity (something impossible humanly). God knows we are limited, and He always orders in the context of the minimum required.

Note: Indeed, even the commandment to honor father and mother emphasizes singularizing the parental figures, avoiding abstractions: "Honor your father and mother," not "your parents," proving, in any case, that a commandment of God is singular.



The mercy of an order

However, suppose that God commanded a man, in this text, in the following way:

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wives, and they shall be one flesh

We would be demanding that men marry, at a minimum, with two women! God created Adam with nothing to show that even someone living in nature, without possessions, can at least have a wife, and if He created two women for Adam, He would be teaching us to burden individuals heavily. God made the world this way is the best way to allow polygamous marriage without lacking in mercy.



One flesh

It's funny that in our mindset, inherited from the Greeks, "one flesh" is seen as equal to 1 + 1. In the biblical mindset, it has never been like that. A man becomes one flesh with however many women he joins; for example, every time a man joins with a (cult) prostitute, he becomes one flesh with her (1 Corinthians 6:16 - not for a lifetime, as there is no contract). Now, if it is like this, why can't "one flesh" include two women and one man? Thus, they will all be one flesh, but with a marriage contract. We cannot deny that this contract was real with Abraham and Sarah, Hagar and Keturah, as well as with Jacob, Rachel, and Leah. All of them were one flesh with their wives, regardless of whether there were three or two (Deuteronomy 21:15).



Wife Bound to the Husband

It should raise suspicions that when Paul speaks of marriage, he always mentions that "the wife is bound to her husband" (Romans 7:2, 3; 1 Corinthians 7:39), but not that "the husband is bound to his wife." The issue is that Genesis 2 shows the reason: it is the man who joins "to his wife," therefore, the woman is "his," while he is not "hers," clearly establishing the marriage contract with freedom for the man and restriction for the woman. It is in this reasoning that Paul will always say that a woman can only remarry when her husband dies, but he never says this of the husband (Romans 7:2, 3; 1 Corinthians 7:39).



Interpretative Tradition

A great mistake looms over men who want to interpret Scripture from the history of the church, ignoring that Scripture itself establishes an interpretative tradition. Look, David interpreted passages from the Torah, so his interpretation is our tradition. In the same way, other prophets of God interpreted key passages of the Law that became clear because of them. Thus, we must assume that, since this text is one of those found in beginning of the scroll of the law, there was a great prophetic or theological tradition in the OT proving that its pointing was towards monogamy. However, this does not happen, and it does not happen because this text did not prove anything about monogamy.

See the case of David and Solomon. Both had the daily reading of the law for them (Deuteronomy 17:18), and David even said that he meditated on it day and night (Psalms 1; 19; 119); how did he, enlightened by the Spirit of God, see in the law the revelation of Jesus Christ or that God did not desire sacrifices (Psalms 40:6; 51:16, 17) even though the Law repeatedly mentioned the need for them, but did not notice the most basic of basics in a reading that, as it is now shown, would be extremely simple?

David, furthermore, had at least eight wives (Michal, Ahinoam, Abigail, Maacah, Haggith, Abital, Eglah, Bathsheba [the latter being the result of adultery, but not the others, interesting, isn't it?]), and he never noticed this? Even Solomon, when he fails to follow God's Law that limited the king's wives (Deuteronomy 17:17), has his mistake clearly pointed out, being contrasted with David, who kept many women without straying (1 Kings 11:4). Now, what does the interpretative tradition of this text (along with the rest of the Law) point us to? It seems quite simple.

Believers vehemently assert that no one (relevant) in the tradition or history of the church defended male polygamy, and suddenly, the "Xénos" and the "Magos" come to defend this? The question can be turned around: no one ever defended monogamy in the interpretative history of Scripture (from the OT and NT themselves), and suddenly, Greek and Roman believers (quite suggestive since they were monogamous) start defending monogamy?



The Shadow and the Reality

Finally, this text has a reason to be as it is that goes beyond itself. Fulfilling the fact that God announced the end from the beginning (Isaiah 46:10), Adam was a shadow of Christ (1 Corinthians 15:45-49). Now, the best way to literally symbolize the unity of the church was if God gave Adam only one wife. If God were to give Adam two wives, it would teach us a confusing message through the shadows of the Old Testament, suggesting to us that the Church could be double, without unity, or with permission to dispute among themselves (since two sisters enter into dispute if married to the same man [Leviticus 18:18]). The text is clear and does not compromise any message if we read it as God taught us to read His Law: by comparing it with itself (1 Timothy 1:8).

Note: Further below, we will see the case of Hagar and Sarah (as seen in Galatians), showing that the message conveyed by both is that Hagar foreshadows the Israel that persecuted the Church, while Sarah foreshadows the Israel that is free and persecuted. Therefore, if in a perfect world God were to give Adam two wives, it would symbolize through them bizarre things, such as the probability of cohesion between ancient Judaism and Christianity or the potential division within Christianity – something absurd.

Genesis 2 does not prove anything against polygamy; rather, it even presupposes it, given the need for the text to express other information beyond that.



GENESIS 4 – LAMECH, WICKED POLYGAMIST

Lamech is the first man recorded in Scripture to practice polygamy. Many assume that because he was wicked (having apparently killed two people, or we have a parallelism), everything he did in this regard is sinful. But a question arises: although I am not saved by what I do, can I act in accordance with the law in particular matters? Let's see how to deal with the passages regarding this issue:

And Lamech took unto him two wives: the name of the one was Adah, and the name of the other Zillah. (Genesis 4:19)



Now, the men might say: "God is implying that polygamy is a sin; look, Lamech was a wicked man, and look what he did." Yes, Lamech was a murderer (Genesis 4:23), but does that mean he was an adulterer? Furthermore, contradicting the interpretative tradition of the Old Testament clearly ignores the context of Lamech's wicked offspring:

And Adah bare Jabal: he was the father of such as dwell in tents, and of such as have cattle. 21 And his brother's name was Jubal: he was the father of all such as handle the harp and organ. 22 And Zillah, she also bare Tubalcain, an instructer of every artificer in brass and iron (Genesis 4:20-22).



Wicked sons of the wicked produced: tents and domestication of cattle, two musical instruments, and work with brass and iron. Conclusion: to domesticate cattle, play these two instruments, and work with iron and bronze is sin! Wonderful! Of course not, because you know how to separate wickedness from action. We could even invert it: if Lamech had only one wife (like many wicked men out there...), what would that prove against monogamy? Nothing! The difference is that I, a polygamist, have the honesty to recognize when a particular text does not serve to defend or oppose something...



GENESIS 6 – NOAH, THE SECOND ADAM

We've already cited a text (1 Corinthians 15:45-49) which says that Jesus is the last Adam (not the second), for Christ, in reality, is the one who does everything that Adam couldn't do: He redeems, gives life, rules the world, etc. Wouldn't it be obvious that if Christ is the last, there must be other "adams" between Adam and Christ? Even the neo-Calvinists acknowledge this! (Just read the book by Morales to notice). It's obvious that the representative role of Noah, who is a Christ before Christ, needs to take into account the only wife he had. The Church was saved because of Noah; he was the righteous man (the first in Scripture – Genesis 6:9), therefore, representing that he would save the world by his righteousness (doesn't it remind you of something?).

Moreover, remember that Genesis 6 takes place in a context of intense wickedness, after women had become corrupt (Genesis 6:2-4). If Noah was a righteous man, and all the other women in the world died, then all of them must have been wicked! Would you want a righteous man to marry one of those corrupt women? Clearly not, or it wouldn't be fair anymore.
 
GENESIS 16, 21 AND 25 – ABRAHAM, SARAH, HAGAR AND KETURAH

And Sarai said to Abram, "Behold now, the Lord has prevented me from bearing children. Go in to my servant; it may be that I shall obtain children by her." And Abram listened to the voice of Sarai. So, after Abram had lived ten years in the land of Canaan, Sarai, Abram's wife, took Hagar the Egyptian, her servant, and gave her to Abram her husband as a wife. And he went in to Hagar, and she conceived. And when she saw that she had conceived, she looked with contempt on her mistress. (Genesis 16:2-4)

There are so many misconceptions about this that it's hard to know where to start. Let's start from the 'beginning.' God had promised Abram that he would have offspring. This offspring would not be from a servant of Abram (Genesis 15:2-4), but someone who would come from Abram himself. Here, many suppose that Abram should understand the message and assume it would come from Sarai (Sarah). However, this reading is foolish, considering that the maidservants who bore children were counted as having borne them for their mistresses (see Genesis 30:1-24 [especially v. 6]). So, wouldn't it be nonsensical for Abram to imagine that his offspring would come from a servant of Sarai? Indeed, Sarai herself understands this in the above text. Do you think Abram failed to understand that God's promise would be fulfilled through Sarah? No, he didn't fail; it was necessary for it to be so (see below):



Hagar, a Concubine by Right

See how God deals with Hagar in all circumstances:

1 - After fleeing from home:

7 And the angel of the Lord found her by a fountain of water in the wilderness, by the fountain in the way to Shur. 8 And he said, Hagar, Sarai's maid, whence camest thou? and whither wilt thou go? And she said, I flee from the face of my mistress Sarai. 9 And the angel of the Lord said unto her, Return to thy mistress, and submit thyself under her hands. 10 And the angel of the Lord said unto her, I will multiply thy seed exceedingly, that it shall not be numbered for multitude. 11 And the angel of the Lord said unto her, Behold, thou art with child and shalt bear a son, and shalt call his name Ishmael; because the Lord hath heard thy affliction. (Genesis 16:7-11)

Compare this with when a sin was committed:

Howbeit, because by this deed thou hast given great occasion to the enemies of the Lord to blaspheme, the child also that is born unto thee shall surely die. (2 Samuel 12:14)

Having committed adultery with Bathsheba (Abram did not commit adultery?), God doesn't even accept giving a name to the child born of this sinful relationship (and causes the child to die at seven days old, to prevent circumcision [2 Samuel 12:18]). Instead, He promises that the child will die, even with Bathsheba suffering greatly – having already lost her true husband. Now, God does not contradict Himself; either Hagar's child is the result of adultery, or it's just one of those things permitted by God (concubinage).

2 - After being driven out of the house:

12 And God said unto Abraham, Let it not be grievous in thy sight because of the lad, and because of thy bondwoman; in all that Sarah hath said unto thee, hearken unto her voice; for in Isaac shall thy seed be called. 13 And also of the son of the bondwoman will I make a nation, because he is thy seed. (Genesis 21:12, 13)

15 And the water was spent in the bottle, and she cast the child under one of the shrubs. 16 And she went, and sat her down over against him a good way off, as it were a bow shot: for she said, Let me not see the death of the child. And she sat over against him, and lift up her voice, and wept. 17 And God heard the voice of the lad; and the angel of God called to Hagar out of heaven, and said unto her, What aileth thee, Hagar? fear not; for God hath heard the voice of the lad where he is. 18 Arise, lift up the lad, and hold him in thine hand; for I will make him a great nation. (Genesis 21:15-18)



People tend to believe that Abraham doubted God's promise by lying with Hagar, but the text is so clear that it should leave no doubts: God's promise was intended for any descendant of Abraham (Genesis 21:13). God's goal was to bless any descendant of Abraham to become a great nation, not just Isaac. It was Hagar who did not yet understand God's promise, which extended to both Isaac and Ishmael. However, God had promised that Ishmael would not die before becoming great. Therefore, unlike what He did with David, God understood that Hagar was Abraham's concubine by right, and thus blessed her along with her son.

Note: Many argue here that this was out of God's mercy, which is pure falsehood. Hagar was blessed and Ishmael grew up because God said he was Abraham's descendant, and God promised to bless the offspring, whoever it was. Therefore, God fulfilled a promise and did not bless an act of sin.



The Shadow of the Old Testament and the Reality in the New Testament

24 Which things are an allegory: for these are the two covenants; the one from the mount Sinai, which gendereth to bondage, which is Agar. 25 For this Agar is mount Sinai in Arabia, and answereth to Jerusalem which now is, and is in bondage with her children. 26 But Jerusalem which is above is free, which is the mother of us all. 27 For it is written, Rejoice, thou barren that bearest not; break forth and cry, thou that travailest not: for the desolate hath many more children than she which hath an husband. 28 Now we, brethren, as Isaac was, are the children of promise. 29 But as then he that was born after the flesh persecuted him that was born after the Spirit, even so it is now. 30 Nevertheless what saith the scripture? Cast out the bondwoman and her son: for the son of the bondwoman shall not be heir with the son of the freewoman. 31 So then, brethren, we are not children of the bondwoman, but of the free. (Galatians 4:24-31)



Why did Abraham need to expel Hagar from home? Because Ishmael persecuted Isaac (Genesis 21:9). What Paul shows is that this had a clear message: Hagar, being a slave and able to give birth without the need for the Holy Spirit, bore a son who persecuted the one born by the power of the Holy Spirit (this is the contrast between flesh and Spirit here). Since Hagar did not need divine intervention, her lineage was carnal and blessed by God's promise to Abraham (I know, the text says that only one is of the promise, hold your thumbs).

Hagar could have children by Abraham without God's promise, meaning just by being with Abraham. However, Sarah could only have a child from Abraham through a miracle, and miracles are fulfillments of promises. Therefore, the true Child of the Promise is Isaac, not Ishmael.

Hagar prefigures Jerusalem, which persecuted believers, the Jews who hated Christianity, even though they were actual descendants (according to the flesh) of Abraham. Note the need to understand the shadows and figures of the Old Testament: Isaac, from whom the nation of Israel came, is understood to have fathered children of the flesh, while believers, who have no blood relation to the Jews, are the true children of Abraham.

Was there any mistake on Abraham's part? Without the Law, there is no sin, but the Genesis story foresees certain things that would later be adopted in the Law. Deuteronomy 21 provides that the firstborn son should receive all privileges, not the one who comes afterwards, in the case of a man who has two wives (we'll get to the text). The truth is that Abraham ended up prioritizing Isaac (obviously it was a miracle), so in such circumstances, there was unnecessary conflict between Sarah and Hagar because Abraham's priority should have been the firstborn son.



Was there any mistake on Abraham's part?

Without the Law, there is no sin, but the Genesis story foresees certain things that would later be adopted in the Law. Deuteronomy 21 provides that the firstborn son should receive all privileges, not the one who comes afterwards, in the case of a man who has two wives (we'll get to the text). The truth is that Abraham ended up prioritizing Isaac (obviously it was a miracle), so in such circumstances, there was unnecessary conflict between Sarah and Hagar because Abraham's priority should have been the firstborn son (as Jacob with Leah).



Keturah, Abraham's third wife

The funny part is that, as we only focus on disasters and problems, we don't notice that Abraham had another wife besides Sarah and Hagar. In fact, the case is so peaceful that there are no issues in the text. And Abraham, of course, wanted to be the father of many nations. If it depended only on Isaac for that, it would be somewhat complicated...

Then again Abraham took a wife, and her name was Keturah. 2 And she bare him Zimran, and Jokshan, and Medan, and Midian, and Ishbak, and Shuah. 3 And Jokshan begat Sheba, and Dedan. And the sons of Dedan were Asshurim, and Letushim, and Leummim. 4 And the sons of Midian; Ephah, and Epher, and Hanoch, and Abidah, and Eldaah. All these were the children of Keturah. 5 And Abraham gave all that he had unto Isaac. 6 But unto the sons of the concubines, which Abraham had, Abraham gave gifts, and sent them away from Isaac his son, while he yet lived, eastward, unto the east country. (Genesis 25:1-6)



This text is used to say that the reason polygamy was tolerated in the Law was for the Earth (the world) to be populated. And it's true that here we have such a circumstance, explaining well the reason for Abraham sending all the sons to the East. The big problem that arises is that, after the world was populated (back in Deuteronomy...), we still see not only permissions for polygamous marriages but even the defense of them (and this throughout the Scripture). It's not possible that no prophet or sage noticed that the world already had “enough” people...



Sara, an example of a submissive wife

In 1 Peter 3:6, Sara is mentioned (basically the only woman in the Old Testament mentioned as an example of submission). The question is that, being an example of submission and seeking these practical examples in the Old Testament, we basically find 3 moments:

1 - Sara calling Abraham "lord" (not mere cordiality, otherwise, it would not make sense for Peter to point that out - we will see this in our text about family).

2 - Sara omits information at Abraham's command (we will also address this in another text).

3 - Sara, thinking about God's plan, submits to Abraham and gives him Hagar as a concubine so that, submitting to Abraham, she may have a child.

Now, women find Sara's example of submission very beautiful, but they never stop to think about how she actively exercised this submission. In this last case, she submitted knowing that she should give Abraham (her lord) descendants and, therefore, did not become an obstacle for Abraham to have another woman.

How many women from the biblical femininity movements would have the courage to do this? Certainly none, because they are focused on a model of woman that deviates from the standard stipulated in the Scriptures.



Abraham's burial

Having our great patriarch expired, where would he be buried?

(a) With Hagar, who left years ago?

(b) With Keturah, whom he sent to the East contributing to the population of the Earth?

(c) With Sarah, who was not sent away but was kept together because of Isaac?

I leave the answer to the reader.



GENESIS 29, 30 – JACOB, RACHEL AND BILHAH, LEAH AND ZILPAH

The text is too long to put it here, so I suggest you read Genesis 29 and 30.



Disputes, the argument of the minimum

How many times have you heard: "God prohibits polygamous marriages because they cause problems"? I want to know when, in a place where there are more people, there are fewer problems? These same people often argue that a woman should have about 4 or 5 children... forgetting that when there are more people under the same roof, there will be more problems. But hypocrisy doesn't allow them to notice that they use different standards.

Furthermore, they start from the wrong premise to interpret the text. After all, if Jacob had many problems because he married two sisters, it's because polygamous marriages are being discouraged, isn't it? Tell that to the text of Leviticus 18:18:

Neither shalt thou take a wife to her sister, to vex her, to uncover her nakedness, beside the other in her life time.



Jacob spent his life cheating, so Laban gave him a problem for life: he would have two women who would always be rivals because they are sisters. Jacob knew he suffered, but he couldn't go back. He married Leah (whom he didn't want), but his contract was for Rachel.

Note: The text of Leviticus 18 has undergone a significant reinterpretation. Many force a translation like this: "And you shall not take another woman with your wife," but such a translation completely ignores the term [ָותֹאח - āḥôṯ] (sister), used several times in the Law in this clear sense (Genesis 4:22; 12:19; Genesis 24:59; Leviticus 18:11-13 [in the same context]). Not to mention that the concept of "becoming a rival" is present not only in Leviticus but also in the story of Jacob, perfectly summarized in this verse (and in Ezekiel 23, which we will return to later).

The bizarre thing about all this is that in the history of theology, the Church Fathers (terrible at biblical interpretation) always thought that Jacob married two women because of "his appetites and passions," when in fact Jacob hardly shows strong sexual desires, being constantly pursued by the two women: the ones filled with "passions" in the text are Leah and Rachel, not Jacob, who is not recorded as seeking relations with all of them at the same time – he only wanted Rachel, and ended up with 4 women in his house.

Speaking of four women, even though Jacob had relations with Rachel and Leah's maidservants, do we see any rivalry between them? No, of course not, because the maidservants were not sisters, nor were they sisters of their mistresses. They also didn't enter into a situation like Hagar, who had conflict because of Ishmael and Isaac, and the attention and contempt of Sarah. Therefore, what is the lesson from Jacob's life with Rachel and Leah? Never marry two sisters, you will have problems.

Note one detail: are all of Jacob's sons treated as bastards or as the founders of the nation of Israel? If they were bastards, they could not be sons (Deuteronomy 23:2).



Jacob’s Burial

Jacob died and was buried next to Leah (Genesis 49:31, 32; 50:13), his first wife. So – as the squeaky-clean Roman believers deduce – God only recognized Leah as Jacob's true wife. They just forgot to mention that Rachel died far away from where Jacob was, making it impossible for her to be buried elsewhere (Genesis 48:7; 35:16-20). Where did Leah die? We don't know, but close enough to be buried in Machpelah, the place where Abraham and Isaac were buried, which would be relevant to the Promised Land (and Israel's story begins from this field...). Furthermore, even if burial with the first wife carried a relevant message, it would only be in relation to what the Law would later state in Deuteronomy 21, showing that even if we do not love the first wife, we should not deprive her of her rights. Remember that we do not guide ourselves by subliminal messages, leave that to conspiracy theorists and traditionalists regarding monogamy.



GENESIS IN GENERAL

We notice two characters in Genesis who were monogamous (I won't even argue about Esau's polygamy, because they'll say He’s wicked, as they do with Lamech…), they were: Isaac and Joseph. As observed at the beginning of the text, there is no 'moral' obligation for polygamous marriage, in fact, there is no 'moral' obligation for marriage at all (see the text about The Marriage Contract). So, it is only natural for Isaac to have been practically monogamous. Moreover, there are several texts that say Isaac frequently conflicted with Rebekah, indicating that their marriage would have been troubled... interesting, isn't it? No man needs to justify the reason for having a single wife (just as being a eunuch or having none). It's none of our business, and the biblical text remains silent on it.

Joseph is a special case, as he was a ruler in Egypt and Egypt was a monogamous nation (despite tolerating concubinage). How about that? Of the clear cases of monogamy in Genesis, 50% (of the clear cases) can be explained by the cultural environment… quite suspicious, isn't it? We'll return to this topic in the next text. We can clearly conclude that Genesis offers no message against polygamy. Below, we'll move on to Exodus.
 
EXODUS 1 – MULTIPLICATION

10 Come on, let us deal wisely with them; lest they multiply, and it come to pass, that, when there falleth out any war, they join also unto our enemies, and fight against us, and so get them up out of the land. 11 Therefore they did set over them taskmasters to afflict them with their burdens. And they built for Pharaoh treasure cities, Pithom and Raamses. 12 But the more they afflicted them, the more they multiplied and grew. And they were grieved because of the children of Israel. (Exodus 1:10-12)



Pharaoh was clever. He knew that a polygamous people would grow more than the Egyptians (Jz 8:30), who were monogamous. Peoples inclined towards polygamy multiply more, as a man can have more wives and impregnate more women than one woman can bear children (cf. Jz 8:30). What we consider a miracle in Exodus is the normal means for a people to maintain multiplication. But Pharaoh's greatest cleverness lay in something that nowadays nobody seems to pay attention to: he sought to put men to work more outside the home, avoiding their relationships as much as possible... poor thing, this works in a monogamous world, where the job market will naturally decrease the tendency to be interested in having children, but it doesn't work in a polygamous world, where a man can rely, for example, on two women to take care of the children, depending less on him (among the Jews, women were the ones who cared for the children - Pv 14:1; 29:15). Interesting, isn't it?

Then Pharaoh orders that baby boys be killed (not girls) - Ex 1:15-17 - because, clearly, he wanted to control the number of people being born in the long term. Now, the fact that only boys were killed proves the point again: a woman takes longer to bear children, so he would equalize the number of people between the Egyptians and the Hebrews (Ex 1:7), so that the Hebrews would remain at a lower reproduction rate. Now, if the issue were simply to kill all newborns, Pharaoh could simply have ordered the killing of all babies, something he clearly did not do.



EXODUS 6 – BIRTH IN ERROR (A CONTRAST)

In Exodus 6:20, we see that Moses and Aaron were born to Jochebed, the aunt of Amram, and his wife. Wait, aunt and wife? According to God's law, such a relationship is prohibited (Leviticus 20:19) — God forbids the relationship that brought Moses into existence. Thus, even the relationship that gave rise to Moses's life is clearly prohibited, but we do not see a prohibition of polygamy. These men who come to accuse us of sin are digging into the Bible for subliminal messages against polygamy (as is the case with an article in Desiring God, which literally says this), taking texts out of their contexts, and asserting what the Bible never affirms. What happened to "the clearer texts interpret the more obscure ones?" — in this matter, do you abandon this principle?



EXODUS 20:14 – YOU SHAL NOT COMMIT ADULTERY

In the same law that allows having two wives (Deuteronomy 21...), it is written that adultery is prohibited. Do these men who see monogamy in everything think that God is schizophrenic? God says that the adulterer must die (Leviticus 20:10), so how, in sound conscience, would male polygamy be adultery if no one in the relationship dies because of sin according to the law?

Think about it this way: Moses, who received this commandment from God, did not see any conflict between it and a man having multiple wives. Such a thing would be absurd because it would be a clear, direct contradiction that wouldn't require the New Testament to be known. The commandment is clear and must be understood as it was conceived (by God). If, when God said this, the concept included polygamy and concubinage, it cannot, after 2000 years of being written, mean something different. I know many may say, with the air of superiority that only a liberal would have, that in the New Testament Jesus clarified this, revealing Himself to also be against polygamy. I didn't read that part in the New Testament, however, if that's true, and if the law did not sufficiently clarify the concept, then the Law was not competent to teach about Christ and God, nor to express the nature of God (as these same theologians say), because it lacked a new word that said that what was allowed before is no longer allowed, based on the same words.

But let's do another mental exercise: suppose I am a faithful believer with two wives, believing I am not committing adultery. Suddenly, Christ says that having two wives is adultery. Would I go to hell, that's the only explanation. Unless, of course, these men suppose that if I'm already married then there's nothing to be done, and I won't go to hell (even if I'm having sex with two women... that seems suspicious, doesn't it?). Would I have gone from being a friend of God to an enemy of God, or would I remain a friend?

In these matters, the wildcard answer is always: "it was because God had mercy." We'll see more about this argument ahead.



EXODUS 21 – IF I GET ANOTHER WIFE?

9 And if he have betrothed her unto his son, he shall deal with her after the manner of daughters. 10 If he take him another wife; her food, her raiment, and her duty of marriage, shall he not diminish. (Exodus 21:9, 10)



The father gave his son a wife and then another one. Wow, Moses, right after prohibiting adultery, you're going to authorize a father to give his son two wives? Wouldn't it be better to say that whoever is already in such a situation should stay that way, but from now on, all of this is adultery? What's even more interesting is that both women have marital rights, which puts both the husband and the wife in servitude, meaning they must be ready to give their sexual strength to each other when necessary.

Here I will also address another point: the text is not regulating polygamy for it is something bad. The law is fulfilled in love; if a man loves the women he has properly, he will not diminish the provisions or marital rights of the first. What the Law aims to do is protect the first wife from possible unlove from the husband, and it does not mean at any point that by regulating this, polygamy is a sin—it's the same as saying that because the law regulates weights, the sale of products is a sin.



EXODUS 22 – MANDATORY MARRIAGE?

16 And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife. 17 If her father utterly refuse to give her unto him, he shall pay money according to the dowry of virgins. (Exodus 22:16-17)



For some Puritans, mere flirting made marriage obligatory. Thankfully, God never listened to the Puritans to establish His laws. Here we have a mandatory marriage that may not become marriage if the father so desires. Clearly, even sex does not create a forced covenant between man and woman, but note below:

Did you notice that the man is not killed? I thought the wages of sin were death... but here we don't have death, we have something else, because the man did not commit adultery, and for this reason the text does not even consider whether he was married before or not. If he is married and lies with a girl who lives under her father's authority, then he is obliged to marry her (unless the father refuses). Oh, well. Adultery? No, the possibility of a marriage added to the first.

If Exodus does not prohibit polygamous marriage, then I must assume that such texts allow themselves to be practiced in a context of polygamy. It's obvious. However, note that not much is said, as polygamous marriage is already taken for granted, similar to what happens in Leviticus:



LEVITICUS 18 - DO NOT LIE WITH YOUR SISTER (CONTRAST)

9 The nakedness of thy sister, the daughter of thy father, or daughter of thy mother, whether she be born at home, or born abroad, even their nakedness thou shalt not uncover. (Leviticus 18:9)

11 And Abraham said, Because I thought, Surely the fear of God is not in this place; and they will slay me for my wife's sake. 12 And yet indeed she is my sister; she is the daughter of my father, but not the daughter of my mother; and she became my wife. (Genesis 20:11-12)



Could Abraham and Sarah's crisis have been caused by this? We do not know, but what we do know is that God prohibited even this type of marriage, practiced by Abraham, but did not prohibit polygamy. How can we accept such a poor interpretation of Scripture as monogamists do? If God wanted to, He would have forbidden polygamy, and Leviticus 18 was a good opportunity. Note, however, that Amnon sinned by lying with Tamar by breaking this prohibition in the Law; we have a clear example that Amnon was punished with death, even though the one who killed him sinned in the act (this will be discussed later).

The nakedness of thy father's wife's daughter, begotten of thy father, she is thy sister, thou shalt not uncover her nakedness. (Leviticus 18:11)



Perhaps your father has another wife, besides the first, so the biblical text already prohibits your relationship with your sister, even if only on your father's side.

Neither shalt thou take a wife to her sister, to vex her, to uncover her nakedness, beside the other in her life time. (Leviticus 18:18)



We have already explained this text, but it is worth noting two details here...

In the best chance to prohibit polygamy, the biblical text merely issues a warning (without a death penalty) that marrying two sisters would bring problems for a man – not marrying two women in general. This is as close as the text gets to saying that any polygamous marriage is a sin.

Furthermore, the second part of the verse " uncover her nakedness, beside the other in her life time" suggests that polygamous intercourse could involve two (or more) women at the same time (which is the sense of ["על - before", "next to", "upon", “besides”] in this context, indicating the physical proximity of the two while naked – this is also the same interpretation found in the LXX of this text. The phrase "every woman is either bipolar or 'bisexual'" is somewhat humorous to hear, expressing a certain truth. However, the text cannot remain hanging in the air, proving that, despite claims that this was culturally uncommon, it was never prohibited (if you read our text on Polygamy in the New Testament, you will see the explanation of "women abandoning natural relations" in Romans 1).



LEVITICUS 19 – DIFFERENT PENALTIES

20 And whosoever lieth carnally with a woman, that is a bondmaid, betrothed to an husband, and not at all redeemed, nor freedom given her; she shall be scourged; they shall not be put to death, because she was not free. 21 And he shall bring his trespass offering unto the Lord, unto the door of the tabernacle of the congregation, even a ram for a trespass offering. (Leviticus 19:20, 21)



The man is guilty of sin, but since the woman was a slave (meaning she already had a law upon her shoulders), God does not allow them to be punished with death, so only flogging and offering for sin (the death of an animal) are required. But notice how the situation changes: now, if a man lies with a betrothed slave woman, there is already a penalty... but nothing for polygamy.



LEVITICUS 20 – PENALTIE FOR ADULTERY

And the man that committeth adultery with another man's wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour's wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death. (Leviticus 20:10)



How many innocent men have wrongly died based on this text! The text only punishes with death if a man lies with another man's wife, and since sin is the transgression of God's law (1 John 3:4), we cannot assume that the text condemns as sin a man who lies with a woman who belongs to him (or who is not yet, but may be). Naturally, the explanation is clear, there is no adultery committed between a man and two women who already belong to him. To contradict this is to contradict the clear texts of God's Law, as well as the less clear ones.



LEVITICUS 20 – MAN WITH MAN NOT... BUT TWO WOMEN CAN

If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them. (Leviticus 20:13)



Not everyone notices what is missing in a text. Notice that neither Leviticus 20 (nor 18) condemns the relationship between two women. After all, in polygamy, do you think a man lies with one at a time? Thus, the text shows that if a woman marries two men, she is adulterous and the man is a sodomite. On the other hand, there is no need to prohibit a man with two women or two women lying together, because in polygamy, two women will certainly lie with their husband at the same time! It is clear that the text simply allows women to lie together because they will be married to a single man! Leviticus teaches quite a lot by contrast.
 
NUMBERS 5 – JEALOUSY

Proving that all texts directly and indirectly approve of male polygamy, we come to this one, which is the only one that describes jealousy in complete detail:

12 Speak unto the children of Israel, and say unto them, If any man's wife go aside, and commit a trespass against him, 13 And a man lie with her carnally, and it be hid from the eyes of her husband, and be kept close, and she be defiled, and there be no witness against her, neither she be taken with the manner; 14 And the spirit of jealousy come upon him, and he be jealous of his wife, and she be defiled: or if the spirit of jealousy come upon him, and he be jealous of his wife, and she be not defiled: 15 Then shall the man bring his wife unto the priest, and he shall bring her offering for her, the tenth part of an ephah of barley meal; he shall pour no oil upon it, nor put frankincense thereon; for it is an offering of jealousy, an offering of memorial, bringing iniquity to remembrance. (Numbers 5:12-15)

28 And if the woman be not defiled, but be clean; then she shall be free, and shall conceive seed. 29 This is the law of jealousies, when a wife goeth aside to another instead of her husband, and is defiled; 30 Or when the spirit of jealousy cometh upon him, and he be jealous over his wife, and shall set the woman before the Lord, and the priest shall execute upon her all this law. 31 Then shall the man be guiltless from iniquity, and this woman shall bear her iniquity. (Numbers 5:28-31)



Feel free to read the entire chapter, but look at what I ask you: Who is jealous in the text?

We follow the same principle as Leviticus 20:13: what does the text not mention? It does not mention jealousy from the woman! Of course, she cannot be jealous; the husband will have other wives besides her, duh! The idea of a woman being jealous is as contrary to the biblical text as her trying to have two husbands. Just as God is jealous for Israel, only the man can be jealous of his wife (1 Corinthians 10:22; Deuteronomy 32:16; Exodus 34:14). If the woman is jealous of her husband, of course, he cannot have another wife, or it will greatly complicate the relationship. We are still searching for a text that, at least indirectly, contradicts polygamy in the law. Therefore, let's move on to Deuteronomy.



DEUTERONOMY 17 – THE KING AND HIS WIVES

15 Thou shalt in any wise set him king over thee, whom the Lord thy God shall choose: one from among thy brethren shalt thou set king over thee: thou mayest not set a stranger over thee, which is not thy brother. 16 But he shall not multiply horses to himself, nor cause the people to return to Egypt, to the end that he should multiply horses: forasmuch as the Lord hath said unto you, Ye shall henceforth return no more that way. 17 Neither shall he multiply wives to himself, that his heart turn not away: neither shall he greatly multiply to himself silver and gold. (Deuteronomy 17:15-17)



Finally! We found a text prohibiting someone (the King) from multiplying wives! Now, this seems like an ideal pointed out in the law, doesn't it? Ah, how much context matters. Read it again and note this: if it is true that prohibiting multiplying wives implies that the King (only the king) should have only one, then I should assume that the king should also have only one horse, as it is in the same prohibition structure.

But you see, for consolation, I suggest you note that this text only speaks of the king, exclusively of him, so even if it pointed to monogamy, the reason would be clear. Look, not even gold should the king multiply, and yet we don't want the king with just one gold stone, do we? Perhaps if it weighs several tons, it could be considered one. What is the text saying? It's just an administrative instruction: don't multiply these things, for the more you have, the greater the chance your heart will become corrupt. After all, the same goes for money. You can have plenty, but be careful, if you grow too much financially, your heart may be ensnared by what was meant to give you freedom.



DEUTERONOMY 21 – TWO WIVES (LOVE BOTH)

15 If a man have two wives, one beloved, and another hated, and they have born him children, both the beloved and the hated; and if the firstborn son be hers that was hated: 16 Then it shall be, when he maketh his sons to inherit that which he hath, that he may not make the son of the beloved firstborn before the son of the hated, which is indeed the firstborn: 17 But he shall acknowledge the son of the hated for the firstborn, by giving him a double portion of all that he hath: for he is the beginning of his strength; the right of the firstborn is his. (Deuteronomy 21:15-17)



Please, if you have two wives, make every effort to love both, for this text is saying that if you love one and despise the other, you risk treating the situation unfairly. See, God does not say it's a false love, but that a man not only can, but should love two women when he is married to two women. It's the same instruction as Paul's: "Husbands, love your wives" (Ephesians 5:25). The law is fulfilled in love, therefore, if a man despises a woman, what this order from Deuteronomy aims to prevent is that the man's lack of love results in penalties for the children and the despised wife. What God wants to regulate is not polygamous marriage, but the consequences of lack of love for one of the two wives.

Note: Previously, God also regulates the lack of love in verses 11 to 14. If you, in a war, take a woman home, you should not sell her afterwards; instead, you should act with love and set her free if you are not pleased with her (v. 14). Love is the fulfillment of the Law, so it's clear that when God regulates these issues, He wants to prevent lack of love from causing you to act in any way towards another person. Notably, commanding love for both wives regulates polygamy as much as commanding a husband to love a single wife regulates monogamy – meaning, it's not monogamy that's being regulated, but rather the lack of love.

An example of how lack of love for the wife who gives the first child can be harmful for everyone is the case of Leah and Rachel. Jacob loved Rachel, who did not bear him children, while God made Leah, the first wife, give him children (Genesis 29:19-31). Nevertheless, Jacob persisted in his failure, because when Rachel gave birth, it was Joseph who was born, to whom Jacob gave privileges (Genesis 37:3 [remember that Benjamin was born after Joseph]), to the point that the other brothers envied him, leading to malicious acts against him (Genesis 50:20). Thus, we learn from this story that lack of love will naturally result in intrafamily conflicts. The husband's order of love should begin with the first wife, and that is what biblical history always teaches.

Of course, the man should love all his wives. It is not, as people influenced by philosophy think, that if you love one, you will not love the other – they are not enemies like God and Mammon. How many marital conflicts would be resolved if it were simply understood that a man can love as many women as he has! This dialectic of the husband's love only exists for those who have not carefully studied the biblical text:

But king Solomon loved many strange women, together with the daughter of Pharaoh, women of the Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Zidonians, and Hittites (1 Kings 11:1)



Do you think Christ would come and simply put an end to it, as if it were nothing?



GENERAL CONCLUSION

Jean-Marc Berthoud, a theologian, says that God discarded polygamy in the law and pointed to monogamy as the ideal mode of love and marriage. Unfortunately, they forgot to deliver this message to God, who clearly established in His Law polygamy, not as a command, but as permission for a man who desires it. The desire, of course, is not sinful; we are not ascetics – nor Greeks. If our desires do not contradict God's law, there is nothing against them, unless, of course, my desires covet my neighbor's property or his wife (Exodus 20:17).

We cannot address opposing arguments such as cultural, economic, theological issues, etc., in this text. Therefore, in the next text, we will specifically address these arguments before continuing to explain the other biblical texts. To our sadness, men cling too much to their cultures and customs, and therefore, they miss out on what God permitted in the biblical text for the joy of both men and women.



CONCLUSION

There is nothing in the Law against male polygamy;

God commands a man to love his wives, in order to avoid injustice;

Love fulfills the Law when it is within what it allows.

Therefore, Male Polygamy is blessed by God.​
 
David, furthermore, had at least eight wives (Michal, Ahinoam, Abigail, Maacah, Haggith, Abital, Eglah, Bathsheba
Interesting article, thank you. I've only read thus far, so you may have noted this elsewhere, but I'll post this comment here as I keep reading.

David had at least 10 wives. We are given the names of eight of his wives: Michal (1 Sam. 18:27), Abigail (1 Sam. 25:42), Ahinoam (1 Sam. 25:43), Maacah (2 Sam. 3:3), Haggith (2 Sam. 3:4), Abital (2 Sam. 3:4), Eglah (2 Sam. 3:5), and Bathsheba (2 Sam. 12:27). However, we are told in 2 Sam. 5:13 David took more wives (plural), so that necessitates a minimum of two additional wives (but likely more than two).
 
Interesting article, thank you. I've only read thus far, so you may have noted this elsewhere, but I'll post this comment here as I keep reading.

David had at least 10 wives. We are given the names of eight of his wives: Michal (1 Sam. 18:27), Abigail (1 Sam. 25:42), Ahinoam (1 Sam. 25:43), Maacah (2 Sam. 3:3), Haggith (2 Sam. 3:4), Abital (2 Sam. 3:4), Eglah (2 Sam. 3:5), and Bathsheba (2 Sam. 12:27). However, we are told in 2 Sam. 5:13 David took more wives (plural), so that necessitates a minimum of two additional wives (but likely more than two).
There's also Abishag, whose situation is a little different but is yet another woman whom David took.
 
Yes, she is different. We are told David did not know her so she had a non-sexual relationship.
Doesn't matter if the marriage isn't consummated. She would have still belonged to David as one of his women/wives.

Deu 22:23
If a damsel that is a virgin be betrothed unto an husband, and a man find her in the city, and lie with her;
Deu 22:24
Then ye shall bring them both out unto the gate of that city, and ye shall stone them with stones that they die; the damsel, because she cried not, being in the city; and the man, because he hath humbled his neighbour's wife: so thou shalt put away evil from among you.
Deu 22:25
But if a man find a betrothed damsel in the field, and the man force her, and lie with her: then the man only that lay with her shall die:
Deu 22:26
But unto the damsel thou shalt do nothing; there is in the damsel no sin worthy of death: for as when a man riseth against his neighbour, and slayeth him, even so is this matter:

A virgin is called the wife of a man in this universal situation. Ergo, all betrothed virgins are "wives" according to scripture. Despite the lack of consummation of the relationship, she is still a virgin wife. Sex isn't required to call her a wife.
 
We're splitting hairs if we debate over whether Abishag should technically be called a "wife" or something else, and that's really quite irrelevant. My point was that she was one of David's women. She was a woman assigned to David. She was a woman that he took to be his. One more on the list of women that were David's women, and so could not be anyone else's women (during his lifetime at least). If we're saying "how many women did David have", she has to be on that list.
 
Yes, she served David. 1 Kings 1:3-4 So they sought for a lovely young woman throughout all the territory of Israel, and found Abishag the Shunammite, and brought her to the king. The young woman was very lovely; and she cared for the king, and served him; but the king did not know her.
Doesn't matter if the marriage isn't consummated. She would have still belonged to David as one of his women/wives.
David, furthermore, had at least eight wives

Abishag is specifically spoken of as being in a non-sexual relationship - something quite unusual and it warranted a specific mention in the text - and I was just noting the number of wives spoken of, the named and un-named. The article by @meryc is referring to wives, not concubines, or women in other forms of relationships. All belonged to David, but as you say...
We're splitting hairs if we debate over whether Abishag should technically be called a "wife" or something else,
Perhaps, but she was in a different relationship as is specifically noted in the text. Shalom
 
Yes, she served David.
But how did she serve him?

"Now king David was old and stricken in years; and they covered him with clothes, but he gat no heat.
Wherefore his servants said unto him, Let there be sought for my lord the king a young virgin: and let her stand before the king, and let her cherish him, and let her lie in thy bosom, that my lord the king may get heat." 1 Kings 1:1-2

She was very explicitly his hot-water bottle. You can't get much more wifely & intimate than that. And David's problem is also described very clearly - he had problems with blood flow which made him perpetually cold (I am sure that we all know an elderly person who has suffered from this, it's normal when you're at the end of life and your heart is worn out). Which also means that David would have been incapable of maintaining an erection, for the exact same reason, so he "knew her not" - again this statement simply confirms for us the medical condition he was suffering from.

If you've got a woman whose job description is "go to bed naked with him and snuggle into him so he can be warm", I don't know how else to describe that other than "his woman". She's not a tealady.

But this is a bit of a pointless tangent! Although the majority of this forum consists of pointless tangents... :)
 
But how did she serve him?

"Now king David was old and stricken in years; and they covered him with clothes, but he gat no heat.
Wherefore his servants said unto him, Let there be sought for my lord the king a young virgin: and let her stand before the king, and let her cherish him, and let her lie in thy bosom, that my lord the king may get heat." 1 Kings 1:1-2

She was very explicitly his hot-water bottle. You can't get much more wifely & intimate than that. And David's problem is also described very clearly - he had problems with blood flow which made him perpetually cold (I am sure that we all know an elderly person who has suffered from this, it's normal when you're at the end of life and your heart is worn out). Which also means that David would have been incapable of maintaining an erection, for the exact same reason, so he "knew her not" - again this statement simply confirms for us the medical condition he was suffering from.

If you've got a woman whose job description is "go to bed naked with him and snuggle into him so he can be warm", I don't know how else to describe that other than "his woman". She's not a tealady.

But this is a bit of a pointless tangent! Although the majority of this forum consists of pointless tangents... :)
I have always taken the “get heat” as getting a rise out of him to bring him alive. Embracing him in ways more animated than a hot water bottle.
Not that it matters.
 

POLIGAMY​


I'm going to hazard a guess that this is when you have too many politicians?
Yeah, and they taste gamey.
 
That one cleared my head by a good foot.
 
Right hand smacking the landing strip.
 
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