Hello I come to Christian polygamy by way of secular polyamory. I spent years looking for a couple to be a second wife to. I had some wonderful experiences but nothing was permanent. One of my motivations for seeking a polyamorous arrangement was my own infertility. I didn't (and still don't) want to end a man's chance of being a father. I had never heard of modern day Christian polygamy in a first world country (except for Fundamentalist Mormon sects) until I discovered this forum a couple of days ago. Despite my desire and attempts to be a second wife, I am surprised that I now find myself in a one man-one woman marriage! And my husband is absolutely confident that my infertility issues can be overcome with proper medical attention. My mind is blown away by the reports from doctors that seem to indicate that with appropriate intervention and help I might be able to have a child maybe. And yet, I still feel strongly that I want a fertile sister wife in the family! I just have no confidence in my own ability to have a child. I have been remembering childhood Sunday school stories about barren women going to great lengths to help their husbands have a child. I understand those stories better now. My questions are: 1) Am I wrong (according to the Bible) to be talking to my husband about a second wife? 2) Are there women - not just Fundamentalist Mormons - who believe Procreation really is the purpose of marriage? And would therefore be happy in a polygamous relationship where they know they were sought out specifically for Procreation not for some fantasy kinkyness or even for grand romantic ideas? 3) Do any of you have any experience with this? Will you please advise me? 4) Have any of you experience with both religious based poly relationships and secular polyamory? If so, how have you found them to be similar or different?? Thank you!