Here is what I feel makes the biggest impact for DeeAnn:
Pray with your wife,
Tell her you love her constantly,
Tell her she is beautiful constantly,
LISTEN to her and truly care about her feelings, don't try to explain them, just understand and your wife will get through it with God by herself,
Live a Godly life.
Reassuring DeeAnn becomes easier for me everyday. She is so beautiful, so wonderful, so smart, so witty, so discerning, so diligent, so giving to others....reassuring her is so easy when all I have to do is tell her what I feel in my heart for her.
I pray for her everyday, three times minimum, that God would let her reap the harvest from the work of her hands, and that she would be encouraged by seeing the fruit of her labor, with the children, the household duties, and with her emotions and thoughts regarding plural marriage. I think that these things are the best way for her to be reassured because the reassurance comes from God.
For me, each morning i try to wake her up by kissing her face and telling her that she is gorgeous and I don't stop telling her every few minutes until we actually get out of bed, and I purposefully make time in the mornings to spend the first part of our day together. I pour out my heart in humility in prayer to God in front of her and I hug her just about every time that our paths cross during the day. I tell her constantly that nothing will or can separate me from her, and I make a point of telling her whenever I feel led to do so. I am also not ashamed or afraid to embarrass myself to her by letting my emotions be known.
I stop everything that i am doing when she speaks, I turn toward her physically and look at her in the eyes during the conversation, and I make every effort to listen to her without interrupting until she is finished expressing herself. I ask God to help me understand what she is feeling, and to give me memory and compassion toward the things she needs or would like, and I ask Him to strengthen me so that I can provide those things for her, whether they are physical, material, emotional, or spiritual. No job is too small or too belittling for me to do, trash, sweeping, etc., everything is my opportunity to show her that I want to take care of my family. She loves that.
Most importantly, I cast myself on my Saviour, asking HIm to keep me on a straight path, in purity and righteousness of heart and mind. For DeeAnn, knowing that I am following God in everything that I do is the biggest, most important, and most impactful way that she is reassured.
She is a wonderful wife that would make any man proud and I am so blessed that God has entrusted this particular daughter of his into my care. She is special, unique, and deserves a husband that is fully submitted to God in his service to her as her husband. I love her like a fat kid loves cake and i hope that I make her feel safe, loved, appreciated and cherished.
I think it's a GOOD sign! 