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Poodles

Poodles

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I love this life-style!! It is so wonderful having a sister wife who loves you and enjoys helping with our beloved husband! As we grow closer in the Lord, in our family, and love with Ron, we see so many daily miracles occurring. We have freedom to be alone, to be together, to do things with or without each other. We have an ability to help without asking, almost as if we can read each others minds. Even when we have disagreements, which we can often :), we try to handle them with time out :)) or by understanding how and why the other thinks that way. We each can come into a room and while one does some cleaning (usually Jan), the other sees something else to do to help!! (Long time coming, as those who know us are aware!) And we all have a wonderful sense of humor!
So sister wives, don't give up! Keep your sense of humor and love of the Lord! These will carry you through life. When things seem darkest, then the light of the Lord shines more brightly. We are in this lifestyle because we each love the same man. So, because of that, we are then called to become part of his family, loving, fighting, laughing, spending time with each other and together with him. We look forward to those night with him, and then enjoy those nights alone (you can do what you want, be up as late as you wish, catch up on tv, movies,correspondence, sewing, whatever you want to do)! This seems a strange concept of sharing one's husband and one's life, but it a blessing for all involved. And your man will blossom in this life, when you and the other wife work together to make him happy! He then responds in loving ways and does his best to make you happy.
Although there will be many, many challenges and stretching for you, (life itself is not so easy for the monogamous marriage!), the rewards are a satisfied life, filled with miracles and laughter surrounded by people who love the Lord first, and then each other.
 
Couldn't agree more, Poodles! Love to you and your family.
 
Thank you all for your kind words. We also can't wait until we all meet again. Give your families hugs and kisses from us.
 
Fighting between Sisterwives

Every day, you have a choice to hate or to love. these choices will direct your actions and the way you look at and respond to actions of your sister wife. As for Jan and I, we choose to love each other no matter how upset either one can get at the other. 1 Corinthians 13 is a great chapter to study as a family, and we found that that really helped us in our marriages. Remember that love is a choice! We also found that if we tried to understand each other, then we could to tolerate the actions of the other by saying to ourselves, oh, that is just Jan or Mariechen! That way, we can talk to each other, to iron out some differences and to choose actions that will help the other. I know this sounds simple but from our experiences in this lifestyle, this takes time to work. IT IS WORTH IT!
Also the husband has a pivotal role in all the turmoil in the family. Treat both wives equally, and whatever the rules are for the family, follow them. Let each wife feel that you love her unconditionally, and that she is so special to him! Try to have a bible study each day. If you do this, never have the subject of the study attack either of the wives. All of you want to have peace in the family. Have family meetings and find ways to compromise and Follow what you agree upon!
Our prayers are offered for all families that have unresolved issues.
 
Thank you! My love to all of you!
 
Poodles said:
I love this life-style!! It is so wonderful having a sister wife who loves you and enjoys helping with our beloved husband! As we grow closer in the Lord, in our family, and love with Ron, we see so many daily miracles occurring. We have freedom to be alone, to be together, to do things with or without each other. We have an ability to help without asking, almost as if we can read each others minds. Even when we have disagreements, which we can often :), we try to handle them with time out :)) or by understanding how and why the other thinks that way. We each can come into a room and while one does some cleaning (usually Jan), the other sees something else to do to help!! (Long time coming, as those who know us are aware!) And we all have a wonderful sense of humor!
So sister wives, don't give up! Keep your sense of humor and love of the Lord! These will carry you through life. When things seem darkest, then the light of the Lord shines more brightly. We are in this lifestyle because we each love the same man. So, because of that, we are then called to become part of his family, loving, fighting, laughing, spending time with each other and together with him. We look forward to those night with him, and then enjoy those nights alone (you can do what you want, be up as late as you wish, catch up on tv, movies,correspondence, sewing, whatever you want to do)! This seems a strange concept of sharing one's husband and one's life, but it a blessing for all involved. And your man will blossom in this life, when you and the other wife work together to make him happy! He then responds in loving ways and does his best to make you happy.
Although there will be many, many challenges and stretching for you, (life itself is not so easy for the monogamous marriage!), the rewards are a satisfied life, filled with miracles and laughter surrounded by people who love the Lord first, and then each other.
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Have you posted a back story? Take us through how this all happened. Thanks.
 
Hi there, my name is Mariechen Higgins and I am the first wife of Ron Higgins. My sisterwife is Jan Louie and we have been in this lifestyle for 8 years.
The first 4 years were very rocky, as Jan had been my best friend for 28 years and Ron was my best friend and husband of 20 years. Her beloved husband of 37 years had died, and so we took her everywhere with us on our many trips around the country, to Alaska, Lousiana, Carribean, etc, as I did not want her to be alone. Living in AZ, we brought her down to stay with us for a year before this subject came up. I believed that we were to take in widows and care for them, but I did not think that we were seriosly considering poligamy.
Once the subject was brought up, I freaked. I did not know anyone who practiced this and if it was even scriptual. Over the years Ron and I had talked about it and intellectually I could see benefits, esp. for young mothers, senior citizens, widows, women who had never been married and wanted to be, and for many other situations, but not for me. So, I went on a journey through the bible to find out if it was ok scripturally. It was. Then what about the church history of it, if there was any? Again, it was a common practice until the 16th century when the Catholic church denounced the lifestyle for all people.
So, if it was ok with God, now how was I to cope with it? I felt betrayed, alone, angry, lost, that I was not 'good enough' for Ron, blaming both of them for hurting me, and it was terrible. However, I found out that Ron still loved me and he became a better, more loving husband towards me, not the other way around. I would try it for about 6 months and then I would kick Jan out of my home, and after 4 months I would invite her back in, then I would kick her out again. This happened twice, before finally I accepted the reality of this lifestyle. It was so hard on everyone and lots of fighting occured. But I never stopped loving Jan and wanted only good for her.
So, over time, we all started finding our different roles and places within our family. As Ron often told us, this commitment before God was binding and could never be broken. As they had a covenant marriage, as or more binding that our own legal marriage, divorce was never an option. And, despite the advice from family, friends, and churches, I would never leave Ron! We lost friends, family members (although most of these came around), and church membership. (Ron decided to ask all kinds of pastors if they could prove, in the Bible, that this was against God's laws. Each time, the pastor would admit that he could not find anywhere that it was a sin. But all admitted that they would lose their congregation if they preached it from the pulpit.)
As I came around, the marriages flourished. Jan and I worked out our differences, as we both loved the Lord beyound our very lives, loved Ron absolutely, and each other as sisters. And we have found a better way to live, encouraging and supporting each other (treating each one with kindness and love).
Having been through the fire, I can truly say it is so much better than if it had been just Ron and me to face the future alone. Over time we realized, and God showed us, why He had brought us together in this lifestyle. It was to, together, face the future of Ron and his ALS. We have seen the need to support each other through it all. And it will get worse for us, this disease. But with God and each other, we will make it.

A previous post of mine. I hope this is what you are looking for.
 
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