I was going to follow this change in topic from this thread, but decided the topic might warrant a new thread.
It is obvious, once one understands biblical marriage, that the modern search parameters women are using, are radically different from what a woman in biblical times would have had.
I have at times over the years read craigslist personals, and even posted a few times. (It's cheap entertainment folks) I remember one Christian woman's post was titled "Looking for my Boaz," and I remember thinkin' "Lady, you will never find a single Boaz!" LOL
I realized too there is another way to take this thread title......even if I do deny searching...... .....um anymore.
Here is a post I wrote years ago that attempts to point out the insanity that is modern dating (non)morality.
Sane or insane, which are you?
They say that the definition of insanity, is doing the same thing you've always done, and expecting a different result. I think there are a lot of insane women out there, who keep sorting through the losers and players over and over again, hoping they'll find one who is different.
Proof of the insanity is that most of them are looking for a wonderful, ready to commit, family minded man, who is still single, and is OVER every other relationship he has had. The kind of man any woman would be proud to have by her side, but who no other woman has snatched up yet. LOL Yeah right!
Honestly, the family minded men who know what commitment means, are still with, and are committed to, the first woman they loved. And the kind that get over someone they love, will get over you too someday.
Maybe God knew what He was doing when He let women marry the best men out there, even if they already had a wife or two. A leopard can't change his spots, and many of the men still "available," are for obvious reasons, and will likely not change no matter how much you kid yourself about how much he loves you, and what a great catch you are.
The bad news is we are about four million men short in this country alone, and that is not counting all the gay men, or men who want to do the "fun thing" but not the
"family thing."
The good news is there are women out there (like me) who are married to one of the good ones, who are very willing to share him with a co-wife and be a supportive best friend to the lady.
You don't have to sort through the leftovers. God provided enough good and godly men.....we just need to share.
If you are willing to give up the insanity reply to my post.
Please put "I'm sane" in the subject line.
Good luck in your search. We're only four million men short. You might find a keeper in the men still available.
Here is another of my old posts titled ...
Anyone for country life?
If a good old fashioned country guy is what you are looking for, if you want an old fashioned life raising children and livestock and a garden in the summer time, if you prefer horseback riding or hiking in God's country to a day at the mall, then here is the critical question.
Can you be objective about something that perhaps goes against the way you were raised, programed and conditioned to think??????
No one wants to admit they have been more or less programed, but how else do you explain the insanity of women choosing an available loser over a man that time has proven is a good and loving husband and father, who has a wife that would LOVE a co wife to share in all the ups and downs of raising a family?
You would never choose a contractor with a lousy record to build your house, someone that has walked off of jobs when he got in over his head, why settle for that kind of man when you are talking about building a future life?
The advantages are many, but not often thought of by the single ladies looking for someone.
If you are willing to consider a different kind of happily ever after put something in your reply that shows you read the whole post.
Please be aware, I am a straight, happily married wife who is seeking a friend in a co-wife.
If you have questions, please feel free to ask. If this is not your thing I wish you well in your search.
Thanks for reading.
One more because copy and paste is so easy! Lol
What if?
You could have the kind of man you always wanted and hoped to meet, and more then you expected too. I mean what if you could have a capable country guy, who is family oriented and loved kids, the kind who is honest, dependable, God fearing and clean living.... AND another best friend to help you with the domestic side of life who would always have your back?
What is a great roll model for your sons worth? Do you want the kind of man by your side that you will be able to look at in ten years and still feel like you are the luckiest gal around to belong with him? Would you appreciate the kind of man who likes to talk with you about anything and everything? The kind who values your opinions and wants your input?
I know just such a man, as he has been my best friend and hero for a number of years. I also know myself and am convinced that I am not the jealous sort, and would appreciate another best friend for life in a co-wife.
I am capable, have a wide variety of interests, and am good at most of what I do. I have been told I would be a tough act to follow. I am also understanding, and non judgmental, very apt to make allowances for someone. I like to teach too, so if you have an interest in something I can help you with, I am more then willing.
I see many women willing to date a man who has children, why not a man with children who's mother is still in the picture, and who models, with their father, a healthy relationship for those children? Do you like to see two people who care about each other walking hand in hand? It always puts a smile on my face, why not make that a regular part of your life?
We both like to learn, and can think outside the box. We like the outdoors and being self reliant. Very family oriented, we like the time we can spend together with our children.
What I'm proposing is an uncommon life in this modern world. Most women are not thinking straight and think that a man who is over every other love he has had is a better bet, or perhaps the man who has managed to play the field and have multiple relationships without ending up with any 'baggage' is preferred?
If you are willing to be friends with a woman who has an old fashioned idea of what family could be, or would like to meet my wonderful husband, reply to my post.
Please, to ensure a reply, change the subject line to something that shows you read the whole thing.
And good luck in your search. We're only four million men short in this country. Maybe you'll find a wonderful, family minded, ready to commit SINGLE guy, who will do right by you. One can always hope....but it might not be wise to bet your life on it.
Please understand. I am a happily married, straight wife, who is seeking a friend in a co-wife.
Yes, real people would reply, and some of them were friendly, and even encouraged me with their simple non judgmental acceptance of who I am. Never met any in person, and definately haven't bothered with posts like this in years. But once upon a time, I did.
The most hilarious thing that happened back then, was a woman my husband had already met in real life, who even seemed interested in him!!. ... replying to yet another post I wrote. She was a high school English teacher, who missed what she wasn't looking for, that the post was written by a wife looking for a co-wife. She never responded, and I doubt she knew who we were. Kinda funny huh?
It is obvious, once one understands biblical marriage, that the modern search parameters women are using, are radically different from what a woman in biblical times would have had.
I have at times over the years read craigslist personals, and even posted a few times. (It's cheap entertainment folks) I remember one Christian woman's post was titled "Looking for my Boaz," and I remember thinkin' "Lady, you will never find a single Boaz!" LOL
I realized too there is another way to take this thread title......even if I do deny searching...... .....um anymore.
Here is a post I wrote years ago that attempts to point out the insanity that is modern dating (non)morality.
Sane or insane, which are you?
They say that the definition of insanity, is doing the same thing you've always done, and expecting a different result. I think there are a lot of insane women out there, who keep sorting through the losers and players over and over again, hoping they'll find one who is different.
Proof of the insanity is that most of them are looking for a wonderful, ready to commit, family minded man, who is still single, and is OVER every other relationship he has had. The kind of man any woman would be proud to have by her side, but who no other woman has snatched up yet. LOL Yeah right!
Honestly, the family minded men who know what commitment means, are still with, and are committed to, the first woman they loved. And the kind that get over someone they love, will get over you too someday.
Maybe God knew what He was doing when He let women marry the best men out there, even if they already had a wife or two. A leopard can't change his spots, and many of the men still "available," are for obvious reasons, and will likely not change no matter how much you kid yourself about how much he loves you, and what a great catch you are.
The bad news is we are about four million men short in this country alone, and that is not counting all the gay men, or men who want to do the "fun thing" but not the
"family thing."
The good news is there are women out there (like me) who are married to one of the good ones, who are very willing to share him with a co-wife and be a supportive best friend to the lady.
You don't have to sort through the leftovers. God provided enough good and godly men.....we just need to share.
If you are willing to give up the insanity reply to my post.
Please put "I'm sane" in the subject line.
Good luck in your search. We're only four million men short. You might find a keeper in the men still available.
Here is another of my old posts titled ...
Anyone for country life?
If a good old fashioned country guy is what you are looking for, if you want an old fashioned life raising children and livestock and a garden in the summer time, if you prefer horseback riding or hiking in God's country to a day at the mall, then here is the critical question.
Can you be objective about something that perhaps goes against the way you were raised, programed and conditioned to think??????
No one wants to admit they have been more or less programed, but how else do you explain the insanity of women choosing an available loser over a man that time has proven is a good and loving husband and father, who has a wife that would LOVE a co wife to share in all the ups and downs of raising a family?
You would never choose a contractor with a lousy record to build your house, someone that has walked off of jobs when he got in over his head, why settle for that kind of man when you are talking about building a future life?
The advantages are many, but not often thought of by the single ladies looking for someone.
If you are willing to consider a different kind of happily ever after put something in your reply that shows you read the whole post.
Please be aware, I am a straight, happily married wife who is seeking a friend in a co-wife.
If you have questions, please feel free to ask. If this is not your thing I wish you well in your search.
Thanks for reading.
One more because copy and paste is so easy! Lol
What if?
You could have the kind of man you always wanted and hoped to meet, and more then you expected too. I mean what if you could have a capable country guy, who is family oriented and loved kids, the kind who is honest, dependable, God fearing and clean living.... AND another best friend to help you with the domestic side of life who would always have your back?
What is a great roll model for your sons worth? Do you want the kind of man by your side that you will be able to look at in ten years and still feel like you are the luckiest gal around to belong with him? Would you appreciate the kind of man who likes to talk with you about anything and everything? The kind who values your opinions and wants your input?
I know just such a man, as he has been my best friend and hero for a number of years. I also know myself and am convinced that I am not the jealous sort, and would appreciate another best friend for life in a co-wife.
I am capable, have a wide variety of interests, and am good at most of what I do. I have been told I would be a tough act to follow. I am also understanding, and non judgmental, very apt to make allowances for someone. I like to teach too, so if you have an interest in something I can help you with, I am more then willing.
I see many women willing to date a man who has children, why not a man with children who's mother is still in the picture, and who models, with their father, a healthy relationship for those children? Do you like to see two people who care about each other walking hand in hand? It always puts a smile on my face, why not make that a regular part of your life?
We both like to learn, and can think outside the box. We like the outdoors and being self reliant. Very family oriented, we like the time we can spend together with our children.
What I'm proposing is an uncommon life in this modern world. Most women are not thinking straight and think that a man who is over every other love he has had is a better bet, or perhaps the man who has managed to play the field and have multiple relationships without ending up with any 'baggage' is preferred?
If you are willing to be friends with a woman who has an old fashioned idea of what family could be, or would like to meet my wonderful husband, reply to my post.
Please, to ensure a reply, change the subject line to something that shows you read the whole thing.
And good luck in your search. We're only four million men short in this country. Maybe you'll find a wonderful, family minded, ready to commit SINGLE guy, who will do right by you. One can always hope....but it might not be wise to bet your life on it.
Please understand. I am a happily married, straight wife, who is seeking a friend in a co-wife.
Yes, real people would reply, and some of them were friendly, and even encouraged me with their simple non judgmental acceptance of who I am. Never met any in person, and definately haven't bothered with posts like this in years. But once upon a time, I did.
The most hilarious thing that happened back then, was a woman my husband had already met in real life, who even seemed interested in him!!. ... replying to yet another post I wrote. She was a high school English teacher, who missed what she wasn't looking for, that the post was written by a wife looking for a co-wife. She never responded, and I doubt she knew who we were. Kinda funny huh?
