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Tre901

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Hey, my name is Tre.

I currently live in Tennessee and I’ve been married for 9 years.

I was an ordained pastor in a presbyterian denomination for 3 years. I recently discovered the truth of polygyny earlier this year and found out about this group from watching Rob Kowalski, Peter Rambo, and Bible Marriages videos on YouTube.

I’m starting to see that the “support” system I had when I promoted monogamy only is non-existent now. I’m glad to know that this space is here and look forward to connecting with families who’ve known and lived this truth for years.
 
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Good to have you aboard.
 
Tre901 said:
Hey, my name is Tre.

I currently live in Tennessee and I’ve been married for 9 years.

I was an ordained pastor in a presbyterian denomination for 3 years. I recently discovered the truth of polygyny earlier this year and found out about this group from watching Rob Kowalski, Peter Rambo, and Bible Marriages videos on YouTube.

I’m starting to see that the “support” system I had when I promoted monogamy only is non-existent now. I’m glad to know that this space is here and look forward to connecting with families who’ve known and lived this truth for years.
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Praise Yah for leading you to this truth about marriage. Thank you for choosing to accept this truth when it was presented to you. Too many choose the other path - doing violence to the truth - and teaching others likewise.

Study yourself approved. Line by line. Precept by precept. A little here. A little there. Rightly dividing the word is something the majority in christianity have a massive problem with. But if you truly love your Savior - and know that he is indeed the Word made flesh - you're doing him a major dis-service by twisting his word in order to hold fast onto the traditions of men. This is the exact sin that the pharisees were confronted about in Mark 7:8.
 
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OttoM said:
Praise Yah for leading you to this truth about marriage. Thank you for choosing to accept this truth when it was presented to it. Too many choose the other path - doing violence to the truth - and teaching others likewise.

Study yourself approved. Line by line. Precept by precept. A little here. A little there. Rightly dividing the word is something the majority in christianity have a massive problem with. But if you truly love your Savior - and know that he is indeed the Word made flesh - you're doing him a major dis-service by twisting his word in order to hold fast onto the traditions of men. This is the exact sin the pharisees were confronted about in Mark 7:8.
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Otto, I’m thankful that God opened my eyes. I’m definitely experiencing the blessings of this truth in my life and marriage. I pray that God would be gracious to the brothers I’ve ministered with and allow them to repent from this twisting of and adding to God’s word. I think fear of straying from certain traditions has paralyzed some. They know what’s right, but the cost of acceptance is too much for them.
 
Tre901 said:
I think fear of straying from certain traditions has paralyzed some. They know what’s right, but the cost of acceptance is too much for them.
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Just tell them to look out the window, and look at the times and seasons we are living in. Everything evil is being pushed out to the masses. It’s time to choose a side instead of being lukewarm regarding his Word. Stand on truth or be ashamed of his Words:

Mark 8:38
If anyone is ashamed of Me and My words in this adulterous and sinful generation, the Son of Man will also be ashamed of him when He comes in His Father's glory with the holy angels.
 
Shiloh.F said:
Welcome Tre, curious, were you ever actively pastoring? And how did you discover the truth?
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Thanks for the welcome, Shiloh.

I served in campus ministry as staff for 4 years. After that, I served as an assistant pastor for a church plant for 3 years.

How I discovered the truth?

The short version is I was dealing with shame and suicidal thoughts because I started to develop a desire to cover other women. I thought there was something deeply broken inside of me and the only way to prevent myself from destroying my marriage and bringing pain to my wife was for me to die.

During that time, I asked myself “How did men in the Bible deal with these emotions and desire for women?” So I went back to God’s word and it hit me that these men didn’t suppress those desires because God didn’t condemn them. I didn’t know if I was alone in my understanding so I started to search for Christian polygamy online and learned more than I ever thought I would.

How did it come about for you?
 
Tre901 said:
Thanks for the welcome, Shiloh.

I served in campus ministry as staff for 4 years. After that, I served as an assistant pastor for a church plant for 3 years.

How I discovered the truth?

The short version is I was dealing with shame and suicidal thoughts because I started to develop a desire to cover other women. I thought there was something deeply broken inside of me and the only way to prevent myself from destroying my marriage and bringing pain to my wife was for me to die.

During that time, I asked myself “How did men in the Bible deal with these emotions and desire for women?” So I went back to God’s word and it hit me that these men didn’t suppress those desires because God didn’t condemn them. I didn’t know if I was alone in my understanding so I started to search for Christian polygamy online and learned more than I ever thought I would.

How did it come about for you?
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I felt a similar desire and guilt, although it never reached an intensity that suicide was on the table. One day while studying I felt God ask me what changed on polygamy between the Old and New Testament. I gave the usual half baked answers, realized they were half baked, and He said I should look into it. After studying and wrestling with it for almost 2 years it finally clicked. Nothing had changed.
 
For me - I came from a non-religious background. Long story short - I was lead to read the scriptures on my own accord. Started randomly at Matthew. Than went back to Genesis and read it all.

Within a year of starting - something popped up on my YouTube feed - a debate - and the guy said polygyny was never called a sin. A light bulb immediately went up - because I read the entire scriptures - and not once did I recall that it was condemned as sin by the Creator.

Ofc - this lead to studying myself approved, and I knew passages like Matthew 5:28 (lust/adultery) that seemed to contradict this truth; but after rightly dividing the word, it was clear that adultery must involve another man’s wife. Further studying only solidified that polygyny is not sin. The problem is as Paul said - let the Word of Elohim be true and all men liars. I appreciate men’s translations of the word into modern English, but not one translation is perfect. If something appears to be a contradiction - it most likely is an mis translation or a twisting (word hasn’t been properly divided).

The Word is consistent because the Creator does not change. He’s the same yesterday today and tomorrow.
 
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I felt a similar desire and guilt, although it never reached an intensity that suicide was on the table. One day while studying I felt God ask me what changed on polygamy between the Old and New Testament. I gave the usual half baked answers, realized they were half baked, and He said I should look into it. After studying and wrestling with it for almost 2 years it finally clicked. Nothing had changed.
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God is good. Bringing us to the word so that in it we can find life.

I’m having conversations/debates with a few pastors about the change in perspective on polygamy from the old to new testament. It’s pretty impressive how a lot of us have been taught that God “allowed” polygamy then, but He “prohibits” it now without any scripture to show God’s change of heart.
 
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