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"Understanding Biblical Marriage" by Titus Strahl

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So, for someone whose introduction said they'd be lurking and listening more than being heard, here's my second Book Review post in 24 hours.


Understanding Biblical Marriage
by Titus Strahl

With a scant 63 pages (and I really wish he'd added page numbers himself so I didn't have to count them by hand to know that), Titus Strahl's little pamphlet isn't exactly an end-all compendium. However, what it lacks in volume it makes up for in willingness to get straight to the heart of the matter with none of what I call "Biblical Stammering" (abbreviated BS). It starts with the same basic stance that most pro-polygyny books do; pointing out the fact that there is not a single condemnation of polygyny found within the Bible. The author even trolls the reader by quoting "Hezekiah 3:16 ... Thous shalt not have more than one wife" multiple times before finally, on the very final page, saying "there is no Hezekiah 3:16, you can stop looking."

What the book (or pamphlet) sets out to do is to answer some of the prickly questions that plague students of Biblical theology, and he answers every one of them not only by quoting the original Biblical text in its original language, but by going one step further. Each time the author challenges an interpretation or translation, he goes on to cite other examples within the Bible where the same word he is pointing to is translated the same way, rather than the way contemporary English translators have used. This enables him to cut through a lot of the verses many pastors (even Patriarchal Polygynous pastors) are wishy-washy about.
For example...

No, 1 Timothy 3:2 does not prevent a Church Leader from having multiple wives. It merely prevents single men from being Church Leaders (p. 48 - 58).
Yes, a man does have a Scripture-sealed obligation to marry every woman whose virginity he has ever taken (p. 7 & 42 - 45)
No, a divorced woman is not at liberty to remarry unless her first husband is dead, even if he was the one who divorced her (p, 18 - 27).

There are other examples, but I don't want to give too many spoilers.

While the book is meticulously researched (and the author's oft-demonstrated linguistic skill comes into play early and often), its biggest shortcoming is that it tends to take a "once is enough" approach when making any point other than correcting common English mistranslations. When a book tackles a subject as controversial as polygyny, it would seem prudent to support one's point with repeated examples to alleviate a reader's fears of "what if that's just out of context?" In the end, I'd say I give it the same verdict as J. A. Farmer's book that I reviewed elsewhere: a great tool for those of us who have already acknowledged that the Bible allows a man to exercise Headship over multiple women (both books do provide solid Biblical reinforcement and sound answers to common questions polygynists have to answer), but not an approachable gateway to the subject for the uninitiated. I guess the best way to say it is "give this to the potential second-wife you're courting who still has some worries and hesitations about the Biblical legitimacy of it, not to someone in Mainstream Churchianity who hasn't already gotten their feet wet."
 
No, a divorced woman is not at liberty to remarry unless her first husband is dead, even if he was the one who divorced her (p, 18 - 27).
Does he really fail to read Deuteronomy 24:1-3 for comprehension? And Yahushua's (properly translated,* Matthew 5:31-32) reiteration?

No need to rehash the obvious here (it's been done more often than I can count) - but it's an indicator.



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* PS> And it's NOT right in the KJV!

PPS> Typo [sic, for the anal retentive] corrected. But the KJV is still wrong.
 
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Does he really fail to read Deuteronomy 24:1-3 for comprehension? And Yahushua's (proprerly-translated,* Matthew 5:31-32) reiteration?

No need to rehash the obvious here (it's been done more often than I can count) - but it's an indicator.



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* PS> And it's NOT right in the KJV!

I appreciate your well-thought-out and delightfully organized rebuttal. Or rather, I would have appreciated having one.
For clarity, it is generally considered good form to limit one's critical commentary to books one has read, especially when sardonically mocking a point made therein (after all, how can you claim to refute what you have not read?). Suffice it to say your rudely sarcastic and mocking question is quite well and truly answered in the book. I don't mind if you disagree with it and in fact would love to here commentary from another reader, even one who disagrees with the author (in fact, especially one who disagrees with the author), provided that it is from another reader, not someone with no knowledge of the book being discussed other than what can be had from a three paragraph review. To mock what one is unfamiliar with while holding up that unfamiliarity as a virtue, is the universally acknowledged hallmark of the juvenile narcissist.
Enough about the adolescent manner of your response. I'm curious about the expertise you profess therein. Tell me: where did you study Hebrew and what's your fluency level? I know the author's answers to both, and mine and my husband's answers to both (my Husband's Hebrew is better than mine and the author's is better still), but I'm not really sure who you are or what credentials you're laying claim to while sneering about someone else's lack of comprehension and translation. Considering that I haven't read a single post from you on this site that doesn't fall into the "I have a smattering of knowledge that I think makes me an expert so I'm going to mockingly deride everybody for everything at every chance I get" category, I feel inclined to ask.

P.S. The word is "Properly," not "Proprerly," and the phrase "properly translated" has no hyphen. When you set out to mock someone's grasp of their ninth language, make sure to have a handle on your first.
God Bless.
 
For clarity, it is generally considered good form to limit one's critical commentary to books one has read, especially when sardonically mocking a point made therein (after all, how can you claim to refute what you have not read?).
Answer: If I find a blatant, obvious error, I ask a question:

Did he really make that assertion? You didn't answer. Unless you count:
sneering about someone else's lack of comprehension

That topic, and the error, has been addressed here, as I said, without REHASHING kilopages of "been there, done that." (!)

I have personally answered the question dozens, if not literally hundreds of times, from the Hebrew. You could easily find many here if you actually read that volume of posts, before going unhinged:
...after all, how can you claim to refute what you have not read?

PS> You caught a typo. Pat yourself on the back, BFD. But you can't catch the simple difference in Hebrew between the shoresh "shalach" and what a "sefer keretutah" is for? I did point out the easy, undeniable error in the KJV. But you didn't even 'respond' that that.

But your review (kudos) did give me enough information to recognize there are clearly better books that get marriage right. Won't waste my money on that one.


I asked a question. Perhaps wondering if you mis-statement about 'divorce' was a typo. I guess it was just a failure in your masterful reading of the simple Hebrew in Deuteronomy 24.
 
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I asked a question. Perhaps wondering if you mis-statement about 'divorce' was a typo.
No, you framed an accusation (namely, that an author of a commentary on the inaccuracy of Western Biblical translations had not even read the Bible) in the form of a sneeringly sarcastic (and quite obviously rhetorical) question in the juvenile and mocking manner of an insecure ninth grade jock.
And in the brief time I have had an account here, absolutely every one of your posts that I have made the mistake of reading has been likewise: long and self-righteous sarcasm and derisive arrogance, short on substance, and absolutely saturated with a firm conviction of your own self-superiority. Every post I have seen from you is a case-study in Luke 18:11. I find your manners (if they can be called that) abhorrent and your attitude makes my skin crawl. In the interest of retaining my ability to maintain a joyous spirit there is nothing left I can say to you other than to give you the dubious distinction of being the founding member of my blocked list (something I did not expect to even have to use on a site that professes to be based upon the teachings of Christ, especially not this quickly).
With that, a bientot.
 
No, you framed an accusation (namely, that an author of a commentary on the inaccuracy of Western Biblical translations had not even read the Bible) in the form of a sneeringly sarcastic (and quite obviously rhetorical) question in the juvenile and mocking manner of an insecure ninth grade jock.
And in the brief time I have had an account here, absolutely every one of your posts that I have made the mistake of reading has been likewise: long and self-righteous sarcasm and derisive arrogance, short on substance, and absolutely saturated with a firm conviction of your own self-superiority. Every post I have seen from you is a case-study in Luke 18:11. I find your manners (if they can be called that) abhorrent and your attitude makes my skin crawl. In the interest of retaining my ability to maintain a joyous spirit there is nothing left I can say to you other than to give you the dubious distinction of being the founding member of my blocked list (something I did not expect to even have to use on a site that professes to be based upon the teachings of Christ, especially not this quickly).
With that, a bientot.
I see you have met Mark C.
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Thank you for the book review, and welcome to the forum.
 
No, a divorced woman is not at liberty to remarry unless her first husband is dead, even if he was the one who divorced her (p, 18 - 27).
Yeah, that one’s gonna be a failure to thrive.

I wish him well in using the print media to make people aware of what Yah has for us in marriage, but he does have more to learn.
 
Yeah, that one’s gonna be a failure to thrive.

I wish him well in using the print media to make people aware of what Yah has for us in marriage, but he does have more to learn.
There's something extremely unsavory about telling women whom YHVH has said "may become another man's" and saying, "No, He lied; they can't."

I have seen the nasty, bitter fallout from that particularly heinous lie for too many years to sit by silently while women are un-Scripturally condemned to spinsterhood.
 
Yeah, that one’s gonna be a failure to thrive.

I wish him well in using the print media to make people aware of what Yah has for us in marriage, but he does have more to learn.

To begin with, I'd like to thank you for having enough tact and class to approach the topic with some humility. It was, let's simply say a "Marked improvement" (pun quite definitely intended) over certain chattering personages.

With that said, I note that your response, much like others, is "well, I know better," without even examining the evidence put forth in the book (which is rather rock-solid). I'd counsel that when one's appraisal of Scripture is challenged by one who is fluent in the original languages, the mark of maturity is the ability to ask "am I sure of that? Or am I the one with a lot to learn?"
 
I'd counsel that when one's appraisal of Scripture is challenged by one who is fluent in the original languages, the mark of maturity is the ability to ask "am I sure of that? Or am I the one with a lot to learn?"
I’d council that you live by your own council.
Your position is no different than my own. We both believe: “I’ve studied it and have come to the only correct conclusion, therefore you don’t know what you are talking about.”

In the meantime, your conclusion condemns women who have been rejected by their husbands, for whatever reason, to a life of loneliness and despair. Your God is more legalistic than mine is.
 
In the meantime, your conclusion condemns women who have been rejected by their husbands, for whatever reason
You presume I am the one making judgement. I am merely reading the command that has already been rendered.

Your God is more legalistic than mine is.
I thought this site was polygynous, not polytheistic. There is only one God.
Cheers.
 
You presume I am the one making judgement. I am merely reading the command that has already been rendered.
You are the one posting the statement and defending it.
I thought this site was polygynous, not polytheistic. There is only one God.
You are correct, but you seem to somehow have a different god than the one that I honor.
 
You are correct, but you seem to somehow have a different god than the one that I honor.
My God is the one who was known as "I Am," "The Lord of Hosts," and "The Everlasting Father;" the one who spoke to Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob, who came to Earth at Bethlehem in the person of He who in Greek is called Jesus, the Christ. And His words are His words, not what I'd feel more comfortable believing they were. If your God is a different one... *shrug* ...That's your affair.

And let's see... we can now add "idolater" to the list of thinly-veiled insults you've lobbed, while I haven't returned fire once. Oh, but I'm the one who's "too prickly" because I had the audacity to point it out.
 
You are the one posting the statement and defending it.
No, good sir. The God of Abraham is the one posting it. He posted it by means of His Prophets thousands of years ago. All I'm doing is pointing out that there is a book that quotes it. Your response was "I don't need to read it to know that's not true, because I refuse, without examination, to accept God would do that."
 
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