Let’s face it...sometimes it’s just not that easy to make it all work. And it’s not for your lack of trying. You’re working that job (or maybe even that second job), taking care of the little ones, maintaining a household, and if you are really, really lucky, you MIGHT get a bit of free time for yourself.
Meanwhile, you are concerned about not just making it day-to-day, but also how you can best secure a future for your children as well. What about their emotional needs? What about creating a positive, moral environment for their growth, and also for your own well-being?
If you are a single mother trying to balance children, work, school, and everything that life is throwing at you, rest assured, there is HOPE! If you don't have children yet, but you recognize the benefit in joining an established household, with a proven loving husband and father, Biblical Families is here to be of service to you.
Take a big breath, throw your preconceptions out the window, grab your Bible, and read on. “Study for yourself”, in other words, rather than just believing what you’ve been told.
You may have even been told to “wait on the Lord” to provide you with a good husband. Surprise! That man may already be waiting for you…but you did not see how he could be available.
Imagine a family where the father is such a trusted husband, and the wife so secure, that she is open to sharing him with another wife. Think it's crazy? Think again - it's only our Roman-influenced, easy-divorcing, post-Biblical Western culture that has convinced you of that. In fact, MOST cultures throughout history have accepted plural marriage at some level. We don't claim it's for everyone, but for the right people, the blessings and benefits are huge. And even for those who don’t decide to practice “polygyny” (the more technically correct term), there is a real blessing for learning God’s ENTIRE truth about marriage!
We live a culture where divorce, and therefore serial-polygamy ("many wives, one after another") is rampant. In large measure because of this, we have a society with way too many single mothers and fatherless children. It breaks our hearts, and we know it breaks God's. He told us to provide for the "widows and orphans", but today’s single mothers are our modern-day windows and orphans! And "providing" doesn't mean handing a few dollars every month - women and children have emotional and relational needs, too. We think God wants to provide families for them, but we all know there are not enough quality single men available to meet that need.
That's where plural marriage comes in. Believe it or not, we know many families who are just waiting for God to send the right lady to join their family, and be a loving, fully-integrated part of it. We also have Godly single men, who already have it laid on their hearts to someday provide for more than one wife.
And we see that the prophet Isaiah has written about such a time as well. It has happened before, and will happen again – and God says it will be a glorious time. (Isaiah 4:1-2)
This is nothing new - God referred to Himself as polygamist (Ezekiel 23 and Jeremiah 3), made laws governing the taking of second wives (Exodus 21:10), and loved and blessed many polygynists (David, Jacob, and many more). It's our modern sensibilities that are out of tune with His. When we get past that, suddenly the possibilities are astounding: pick the best man you can find, not pick from "what's left over". The benefits for women are obvious. But what is still more important is that when we learn to follow God and His plan for our lives, we can be blessed beyond our imagination – just as He promises.
We want to be clear: we are not Mormons, nor Muslims. We are Christians. We come from many different church backgrounds. We have no interest in underage or coercive marriages, or in any cult-like groups. We want to read the Bible for what it really SAYS, not what we have been incorrectly taught that it SHOULD say. We recognize that when half of all “Christian marriages” fail, and that rampant divorce and serial monogamy is considered preferable to actually following God’s Word, there is a problem.
Take a look around our siteand read more about covenant marriage. Did you know that there is no word in the Biblical Hebrew language for “polygamy”? There’s just marriage. The rules that He wrote for it are clear, and all of them are consistent in showing that a man who follows Him may have more than one such lifetime Covenant.
Have a look at how people are walking lovingly in plural families in our forums . Ask questions of the ladies there. Pray about it, ask God what he might be willing to do for you.
When you are ready, check out our Introductions service for the best way to meet a Godly family.
Feel free to contact us at staff@biblicalfamilies.orgor our women's ministry at femina@biblicalfamilies.org
