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2011 Census Predictions

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"The iconic American family -- married couple
with children -- will account for a mere 22% of households."

The most prevalent type of U.S. household? Married couple with no kids, followed closely by single-person households, according to Mr. Francese's projections.

The Census will give Americans 14 choices to define household relationships. Mr. Francese says this will "enable the Census Bureau to count not only traditional families
but also the number and growth since 2000 of blended families, single-parent families and multigenerational families, as well as multiple families doubling up in one household
 
Very interesting! On another post there was talk about ministering to single parents... well, it may be time to work towards that direction!
 
To minister to a single mom is truly a kind thing to do. Our family has ministered to single moms at times because we understand how hard it can be....and other people have ministered to us. A week and a half ago when my oldest child had the swine flu, my friend, Julie, dropped off hamburger fixins, chips and fruit. I was not expecting her when the knock came at the door and what a relief it was. We live in the country and I had not made it into town yet for groceries because I couldn't take my daughter (who had a high fever) and didn't want to leave her alone either...so I was planning to make pancakes (again), when she showed up. My goodness..we were singing her praises! We usually only have chips and dip at parties so it felt like a party! The next week when I wrote her a thank you note, it was really hard to even put into words how grateful I was and what a difference she made for us. I think part of it was just knowing that someone cared and was thinking of us during a hard time. So something that may seem small to you is big to single moms. I really admire those who have a heart to minister to them.
 
My family is praying about perhaps using "faith based" funds to reach out to single mothers as well as others. Who knows what God could do through that kind of reach out.

On another nothe, Love, do people in your family or church know what you believe about poly?
 
My family does know (parents, brothers, extended family,etc.)....and all I can say is that Thanksgiving of 2007 was not fun. I think I would have gotten a less extreme reaction if I had told them that I had a terminal illness and only a week to live. It was pretty extreme.
I would like to encourage anyone who experiences rejection, anger, accusations ("That kind of marriage is RIPE for child abuse! What about Shelby!) that God is still in control and still able to do "exceedingly and abundantly above all we ask or imagine." For me also, because most of my family members are not believers, I am accustomed to my family of believers that I know being my "family." I think that it is ok to still love and respect your family, but for your brothers and sisters in Christ to be your real family. I think that if I ever get married I would just not explain to them the exact nature of the relationships. Although I keep in touch by phone, email, cards, etc, I don't see them often enough to open that can of worms again. I think they would probably rather not know anyway. But every family should do what they believe is right for them.
 
I have a similar situation with my family. Although my mom knows about my marriage and is happy about it everyone else acts like it doesn't exist. My cousin actually reffered to my new family recently as "those people" in casual conversation. i had to bite my tongue real good! I feel like Matthew 12:48-50 big time!
 
Love said:
My family does know (parents, brothers, extended family,etc.)....and all I can say is that Thanksgiving of 2007 was not fun. I think I would have gotten a less extreme reaction if I had told them that I had a terminal illness and only a week to live. It was pretty extreme.
I would like to encourage anyone who experiences rejection, anger, accusations ("That kind of marriage is RIPE for child abuse! What about Shelby!) that God is still in control and still able to do "exceedingly and abundantly above all we ask or imagine." For me also, because most of my family members are not believers, I am accustomed to my family of believers that I know being my "family." I think that it is ok to still love and respect your family, but for your brothers and sisters in Christ to be your real family. I think that if I ever get married I would just not explain to them the exact nature of the relationships. Although I keep in touch by phone, email, cards, etc, I don't see them often enough to open that can of worms again. I think they would probably rather not know anyway. But every family should do what they believe is right for them.
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So, thanksgiving was the "revelation day"!? I know that some have told my family it would have been better if we would have told them we were homosexual - they would have accepted that! Strange!

Concerning the child abuse nonsense, if people were to base marriage based upon the statistics in monogomous only marriages - no one would get married! There are good and bad marriages in both mono and poly. One or the other does not guarantee a good marriage. This is why I believe we should "do marriage intentionally". Too many people do not desire to concentrate on continually working on their marriages. I know men who are blown away when I suggest that they should have a regular date night with their wife/wives. Acquiring a wife should never be a mere notch on one's belt. It is about building relationships. On the other hand, it doesn't mean everything will work totally the way you may envision it either. You may want to do marriage intentionally with all your heart, but sometimes things/jobs/situations get in the way. However, after these things are resolved (and without losing perspective...i.e. "will things every change"), it is important to get back on track, making relationships the major priority.

So, I am assuming then, your church family doesn't know anything though?
 
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I have a similar situation with my family. Although my mom knows about my marriage and is happy about it everyone else acts like it doesn't exist. My cousin actually reffered to my new family recently as "those people" in casual conversation. i had to bite my tongue real good! I feel like Matthew 12:48-50 big time!
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It is amazing sometimes how our families react to our decisions. "We" are considered more outcast then homosexuals in many circles, yet, Scripture embraces our lifestyle. Very strange indeed!
 
“To minister to a single mom is truly a kind thing to do.”
This is so true, even unto it being pure and undefiled faith being revealed through our works.
Jas 1:27 Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world.

I know that this has been posted before, but the affliction is them not having a husband and father. We have to give time and emotion into these families when we give the food and clothing. I am not saying that you all did not know this, but a kid needs a man to tickle them, and rough them up lovingly just as much as that coat or peanut butter and jelly. I won’t talk about the woman’s needs, only to say that just as much as a woman likes to see her kids playing and happy, the kids like to see mom smiling and blushing. We can’t make a direct impact on the whole world, generically speaking, but if we can make a difference in the life of one child, or one woman, then that is our mission field.
 
I am fascinated by how many non married women are christian and understand poly, but come from families that are not believers. How does this happen?
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Speaking strictly from personal/anecdotal experience, I would say that it's because such folks have been challenged at one point or another to critically EXAMINE their beliefs. That forces an honest reading of the Bible, with an attitude of challenging assumptions.

What that leads to, I submit, is obvious... ;)
 
Love said:
Our family has ministered to single moms at times because we understand how hard it can be...
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I believe that single mothers should take a higher priority, but don't forget about single fathers. Sometimes they need help with groceries and the gas bill too, but what they need more than anything is a supportive community who will help them raise their children as well as raise up elligible and competent women as potential spouses. (Essentially the same as single mothers, if they are willing to accept it.)
 
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