brYce
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This was written by a Jewish lady named Mayim in a Facebook group I belong to:
Comments?I can explain it in biological terms based on evolutionary principles driven by natural selection if you like.
Ok, first we have to assume that each individual has some differences in their genes that confers positive or negative traits to their abilities to survive.
Second, evolution occurs when those with survival traits have more children that survive in the next generation.
Third, men have a very much larger ability to father children than women, who are limited to one every couple of years.
Evolution has favored the drive in men to have as many children as possible, but hang on, there’s an opposing selective pressure on this drive.
Women, because they are so heavily burdened with pregnancy and child care by the dependency of human babies (long time of helplessness and extended childhood), are driven by selection to pick men to mate with that are willing to stick around and help raise the kids.
This female choice acts as a selective force on the behavior of men. Men who have ‘helping and nurturing’ genes get favored by women.
Also, the more resources the male has, the more favored he is by women as a mate.
On the flip side, men have little ability to know which offspring that a woman has belongs to him. He will favor a woman who appears faithful to him and to him alone. The man who ‘put a fence around' his woman/women’ is the one who would have the most genetic representation in the next generation, therefore, that trait persists.
So, under this scheme, men who could accumulate wealth and power were looked on favorably by women as mates because he could provide for her offspring. His faithfulness only mattered in so far as he didn’t shirk his support of the earlier children. But his demands for faithfulness of his wives doesn’t lessen, no matter how many of them he might have.
From the female perspective, she’s better off selecting a wealthy and powerful mate even if she’s a second, third or fourth wife, because her children will fare better than if she picks a weak mate with poor ability to help her raise her children. However, in situations were wealth and power is more evenly distributed and men can’t accumulate enough wealth to provide for more than one family, women’s choice dictates monogamy.