I have recently had some major paradigm shifts and attitude changes concerning my husband's first (legal) wife. She has been in declining health for 15 years, long before I met them. I don't know her extremely well, but have always been upset on how she treated him. Only the Father knows how long she has left and I am trying to be of help to her, when allowed. She is VERY private and doesn't let anyone too close. Prayers for all of us please, but especially her as she is really suffering physically, spiritually and emotionally. Husband is her caretaker...I do not live with them, but we may change that if we can get her on board. Thanks everyone.