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Bright Hearth Podcast "The Glory of an Unfussy Wife"

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I just wanted to share this podcast episode. I think it is very important for both husbands and wives. If I could change one thing, I would ask that they define "high maintenance."


They added a reading list at the end of the episode and I thought I would collect links on those for those interested and for my own benefit.
 
Lots of good information. Seems like he might be using the term sin incorrectly. Is a wife being cold actually sin? Or is it foolishness? Sure she should give her husband reverence and honor, but I'm interested to hear if anybody can provide the law where she is transgressing. I genuinely don't know my opinion on this. Just jumped out at me while listening. Sin is transgression of the law. Foolishness is transgression of the law?
 
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I think the idea of "being cold" is a symptom of a rebellious heart. It is intended as a punishment towards her husband. In that sense I think it could be labeled a sin. It is not being submissive (voluntarily giving up your liberty to another) and it is not being meek or gentle like wives are commanded.

You ask an interesting question. Jesus gave what seems like a command in Matthew 6:25 "Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes?" Does that make worry a sin, or was Jesus offering advice that isn't exactly a command or Law.

My old definition of sin is disobedience to God. That was when I basically dismissed the Law. Now I am learning to value the Law, but still not sure to what extent it is binding. There is also the idea that our own conscience determines what sin is to a point (Rom. 14:23). I think transgression of the Law might be too simplistic a definition under Christ. Jesus said the law could be summed up in 2 commands. I think Matt. 22: 34-40 might hold the key. Speaking of, this is an interesting article on that passage that might be helpful.

www.bereanpatriot.com

In Greek, the Greatest Commandment isn't About "Love" - Berean Patriot

I put love in quotes because our English word “love” has a lot of linguistic baggage. It has so many meanings it’s almost meaningless these days. Not so with the Greek word(s). Like a lot of Greek words, it has a specific and technical meaning that is often completely lost on English readers...
www.bereanpatriot.com
 
Flowery language is nice and all, but sin is simply transgression of the law. It's explicitly stated as such multiple times in scripture. The only places I've seen where it is expanded to mean other things is in the opinions of men. Sermons, blog articles, commentaries, books, lots of men have lots of opinions. Scripture witnesses multiple times that sin is transgression of the law.
 
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Flowery language is nice and all, but sin is simply transgression of the law. It's explicitly stated as such multiple times in scripture. The only places I've seen where it is expanded to mean other things is in the opinions of men. Sermons, blog articles, commentaries, books, lots of men have lots of opinions. Scripture witnesses multiple times that sin is transgression of the law.
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What about Rom. 14 when something is sin based on conscience instead of law but clearly stated as sin?
 
Where does it say that?

14 Him that is weak in the faith receive ye, but not to doubtful disputations.

2 For one believeth that he may eat all things: another, who is weak, eateth herbs.

3 Let not him that eateth despise him that eateth not; and let not him which eateth not judge him that eateth: for God hath received him.

4 Who art thou that judgest another man's servant? to his own master he standeth or falleth. Yea, he shall be holden up: for God is able to make him stand.

5 One man esteemeth one day above another: another esteemeth every day alike. Let every man be fully persuaded in his own mind.

6 He that regardeth the day, regardeth it unto the Lord; and he that regardeth not the day, to the Lord he doth not regard it. He that eateth, eateth to the Lord, for he giveth God thanks; and he that eateth not, to the Lord he eateth not, and giveth God thanks.

7 For none of us liveth to himself, and no man dieth to himself.

8 For whether we live, we live unto the Lord; and whether we die, we die unto the Lord: whether we live therefore, or die, we are the Lord's.

9 For to this end Christ both died, and rose, and revived, that he might be Lord both of the dead and living.

10 But why dost thou judge thy brother? or why dost thou set at nought thy brother? for we shall all stand before the judgment seat of Christ.

11 For it is written, As I live, saith the Lord, every knee shall bow to me, and every tongue shall confess to God.

12 So then every one of us shall give account of himself to God.

13 Let us not therefore judge one another any more: but judge this rather, that no man put a stumblingblock or an occasion to fall in his brother's way.

14 I know, and am persuaded by the Lord Jesus, that there is nothing unclean of itself: but to him that esteemeth any thing to be unclean, to him it is unclean.

15 But if thy brother be grieved with thy meat, now walkest thou not charitably. Destroy not him with thy meat, for whom Christ died.

16 Let not then your good be evil spoken of:

17 For the kingdom of God is not meat and drink; but righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost.

18 For he that in these things serveth Christ is acceptable to God, and approved of men.

19 Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, and things wherewith one may edify another.

20 For meat destroy not the work of God. All things indeed are pure; but it is evil for that man who eateth with offence.

21 It is good neither to eat flesh, nor to drink wine, nor any thing whereby thy brother stumbleth, or is offended, or is made weak.

22 Hast thou faith? have it to thyself before God. Happy is he that condemneth not himself in that thing which he alloweth.

23 And he that doubteth is damned if he eat, because he eateth not of faith: for whatsoever is not of faith is sin.
 
I see a chapter devoted to highlighting how a weak and foolish man thinks eating meat is sinful, and by doing this he judges himself as sinning. This passage does not create a new category of sin but describes a weak man as believing he is a sinner when he isn't.
 
NickF said:
I see a chapter devoted to highlighting how a weak and foolish man thinks eating meat is sinful, and by doing this he judges himself as sinning. This passage does not create a new category of sin but describes a weak man as believing he is a sinner when he isn't.
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I interpret Romans 14:23 to mean that if you believe something is sinful, and then do it anyway, you are sinning. Because God judges the heart. And in your heart you had made a conscious decision to sin. You might have been wrong, maybe it wasn't actually sin, but that's not the point. You made a conscious decision to disobey God, so you are a sinner.

Same principle as hating your brother = murder, and lust for a married woman = adultery. What matters is the intent more than the action.

So if a woman believed she should "never be cold" to her husband, and believed that to be "cold" would be sinful - yet chose to do so anyway - she would be sinning (as she had consciously decided to disobey what she believed was God's law). However, if she didn't think that in the first place, she wouldn't be sinning unless it were an actual transgression of a real law.
 
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