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Curtis's wife Shawna....

Shawna

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Hi! My name is Shawna. I am Curtis's wife. We have been married for almost 15 years (Oct. 1) and have 5 kids ranging from 2-14. We are very family/home-oriented--homeschool, home fellowship, home birth, and work at home! Whew! Life is good!

Curtis first brought this whole subject up to me about a month ago (8-09). I was in major shock, as well as dismay! I was mad, hurt, jealous, confused, just to name a few! I studied it out myself, and with lots of prayer and lots of talks with Curtis, I'm astounded at the progress of what YHWH has done in both my life and Curtis's. In fact, I think this has brought about one of the deepest works of YHWH in my whole life. Issues that I've dealt with for many years are being brought down.

I've been a big proponent of the book "Created to be HIs Helpmeet" and thought I was doing a decent job implementing it, although wasn't getting the results I was hoping for. I now realize that parts of my foundation were wrong, and since have had great breakthroughs. I still have my moments, but have grown tremendously in my trust of both YHWH and my husband. I'm a work in progress, but at least its in progress! "He who has called you will be faithful to complete the work he began in you."

I am joining to study up more and connect with others.....

Thanks!
Shawna
 
Shawna,

Welcome to the board! I know that you have already made contact with a few of the ladies online, but if I could give you any advice as you guys proceed:

1. Go slow....
2. Go very slow...
3. Ask LOTS of questions!

Blessings,

Doc
 
Shawna,
You amaze me. You are indeed a woman of substance. I was so blessed to meet you in Dallas and I look forward to growing with you.

SweetLissa
 
Welcome Shawna,

We look forward to meeting you guys...we also agree with Doc that you need to move VERY slow with this.

Kscouple
 
"Slow, slow, slow" is great advice encouraging prudence and caution leading up to the actual act of marriage itself regardless of singularity or plurality. Truly there are few decisions that impact ones life more significantly and enduringly, not to mention the practical fulfillment of their purpose. May no one ever sacrifice the purposes of YHWH on the altar of their own idolatry. (Eze.14:4)

Without sharing details, just allow me to say that for us to move forward on adding to our family at all, would require an absolute miracle of divine connection preceded by years of advance orchestration of YHWH reaching back into the days already gone by. I honor the heart of those who reach out to women and single mothers in need and invite them into their families with enduring love, commitment, and protection, but the road map of our personal future is probably only suitable to the most adventurous. The faint at heart need not apply!

We must be sure of a fit on many levels with that confidence extending far beyond our own reason.

I'm sure we all fully agree that "slow, slow, slow" is a fitting encouragement in the context above, but it is not to apply to the pace in which YHWH works in the heart and the Word cleanses the mind.

As I trust that all would affirm, may YHWH do a speedy work in all of us, to the full cleansing of the soul and to the full embodiment of His purposes.

We look forward to meeting you all in person in the future.

Sincerely and Respectfully,

Curtis

P.S. I know, I know, sometimes I am too much a stickler for accuracy. :)
 
Welcome Shawna!

So glad to have you join us here.


Blessings,

Rebeka
 
Welcome, Shawna!
Our profiles are so similar!

Hi! My name is DeeAnn. I am Paul's wife. We have 5 kids ranging from 1-13. We are very family/home-oriented--homeschool, home fellowship, home birth, and work at home! Whew! Life is good! (We haven't done any home births because I had a heart condition, but I'm a big advocate for it).

Our only difference is how we came to realize the truth of biblical plural marriage. Three years ago I decided to read the Bible front to back and skip over nothing. I kept reading about all of the polygynous families and kept waiting for it to be outlawed. When I came to 2 Chronicles 24 and it says that King Joash did right in the sight of the Lord all the days of Jehoida the preist and the preist gave him two wives, I pretty much knew that God approved of it, at least for the OT. I ran to my husband and asked him where it got outlawed. He said, "I've never thought it was wrong, but we can look for it together." Even though I was shown this truth by YHWH Himself rather than my husband, I have gone through the same emotions that you have. I have had many times of "That stuff is fine for other people, but I don't want it." I also know that there are more single christian women than men and my heart weeps for the women who want to be a mother, but the odds of them catching a christian man are slim. I do not want to be selfish with what I have been blessed with.

If you have not signed up for the women's forum, I would like to encourage you to do so. There are some good discussions over there.

Nice to meet you!
 
Thanks for all the welcomes!

I've enjoyed reading up on some of the threads. This is all so new and it seems that this is a quality community that I could glean a lot from (in my free time away from of homeschooling, helping my husband, cooking, etc)! I also have never been a part of a forum and talking with people online, so this is a bit new also!

Lissa, I also enjoyed meeting up. I've read a lot of your posts and I keep thinking, "Where did this woman come from?" You have such wisdom!

DeeAnn,

I appreciated hearing part of your story. Will I be able to meet you in Las Vegas?

Thanks again everyone and I look forward to knowing you all better!

Shawna
 
Sadly, no. We're not planning to go to the Vegas retreat. We live in GA, so that's quite a trip for us. If you come to a retreat in Orlando, we will probably be there. All of my family is in the DFW area, so we have thought about planning a family trip around the TX retreats, it just didn't work out for this last one. I forgot to tell you that I, too, love the Helpmeet book. I've read it 3 times. I couldn't believe there was so much scripture about women's roles that I never heard in 30 years of church! Amazing how much stuff is left out. That's probably what prompted me to read the Bible cover-to-cover in the first place.
 
Greetings & Blessings Shawna!

Welcome to Biblical Families, as it's nice to have you here! :D It takes allot of faith in Yeshua and in our dh's to venture out into the unchartered waters of pm. Bless your heart for the love & devotion you have for Yeshua, your dh and family. We've truly enjoyed getting to know your dh and gleaning new Godly insights and wisdom through the sharing of his heart and his own personal journey with Yeshua and you the lovely wife of his youth, through this new journey of pm that Yeshua has you on.

I also look forward to getting to know you better, as we too have things in common. I also home school our precious kiddos, which we are blessed to have 3 young men of God. Our eldest, whom will always be my baby just graduated home school this past summer. I also have read "Created to be His Helpmeet." I'm studying, learning and striving to be the Biblical Submissive, Modest, Faithful to follow his lead in all things/Loving Helpmeet that Yeshua calls all Christian women to be for their husbands. My dh would love to work from home more, as he sometimes has that option. We are always in discussions of wanting to be able to start a family owned business to one day pass onto our sons.

We are hoping to one day be able to attend one of the awesome retreats that B.F's host. However our current finances don't allow for us to be able to attend one just yet. We are hopeful that Yeshua has plans to pave a way that will allow us to attend one in the future. Btw before I close, I must say that your dh seems to have balanced, respectful, compassionate & wise insights into Yeshua's will for your lives. Hold on closely to Yeshua and your dh down this new path He has you both on. Pray, pray & pray more. Talk as much as you and your husband are able to, studying together & growing closer to one another, all the while doing your best through Yeshua's Might & Power to follow your dh's lead in all things. Curtis's last bit of advise that he recently shared is Wise indeed, as I and many others will agree: Proceed SLOWLY, Cautiously, and Selflessly seeking Yeshuas will in all things and not just your own will. God sees and knows the motives of our hearts, and will bless us all accordingly. Take care and go forth in His Holy Name, being a blessing to others & being blessed along the way. :)

Warm Wishes,
HIS WILL BE DONE

Faithful (Not Perfect) Servant
 
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