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Dallas Season 8 Bobby, Jenna, and Pam

Daniel DeLuca

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I am originally from the Dallas area, and my wife is from Romania, and the TV show "Dallas" was extremely popular over there. Honestly, I never watched the show, until I got married, but we are now working our way through Season 8. Last night we watched episode 8, where JR Ewing announces Bobby's wedding to Jenna at the Oilman's Ball, which as we find out earlier in the show, Bobby did not want to do, because he knew Pam would be there, but JR overheard her talking with Mandy, and Mandy told her to tell Bobby how she really feels about him.

This is just one of many examples where I see Hollywood shoving the monogamy theme down our throats, because the reality is, this is not an issue of concern at all, for those of us who have come to embrace Biblical polygamy. Sometimes, I just can't help myself, and that is not helping matters when it comes to getting my wife to come around on this issue, so just pray for me for wisdom in what to say. I recited to her the line from that "Lonesome Dove" song that goes, "Why do you have to hurt one to love another?" Lord, give me the patience I so desperately need! Lord give me wisdom as well.
 
Not sure Hollywood is forcing a monogamy theme so much ad relishing the sinful drama of encouraged jealousy, anger, strife and selfishness.

If poly suits their script to push some other titillating sin or bad habit, you can be sure they'll employ it.
 
Love, patience, and time, brother :)

My advice would be to not push and pressure her, but rather lead her in the direction you know you both need to go. I’m convinced that leading your wife to a biblical understanding of marriage is almost a right of passage for a husband who desires a plural family, at least in this culture. The leadership required to lead one wife to plural is the leadership level needed to lead two wives in plural relationships.

Try not to be frustrated with her, she can feel it, and it will be hard for her feel your love for her. Be patient and gentle, but firm in your direction for the family, and above all, be self sacrificially loving towards her.

I’ll be praying that God will give you wisdom and patience.
 
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Asforme&myhouse said:
Love, patience, and time, brother :)

My advice would be to not push and pressure her, but rather lead her in the direction you know you both need to go. I’m convinced that leading your wife to a biblical understanding of marriage is almost a right of passage for a husband who desires a plural family, at least in this culture. The leadership required to lead one wife to plural is the leadership level needed to lead two wives in plural relationships.

Try not to be frustrated with her, she can feel it, and it will be hard for her feel your love for her. Be patient and gentle, but firm in your direction for the family, and above all, be self sacrificially loving towards her.

I’ll be praying that God will give you wisdom and patience.
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Thanks brother, and you would know, as your wife has recently come on board, praise God! I am trying to draw the line somewhere between not pressuring her, and letting her know that I still have that desire. That is a good way of putting it, "firm in your direction for the family"; I like that.

I know that she understands that polygyny is not morally wrong, but has a hard time accepting the fact that this desire comes from God, and not from my flesh, but she does know that I love her, although at times she has expressed doubts, but I have consistently reassured her. The "trying not to get frustrated" part is the hardest part right now. I mean I can try, but I don't always succeed in that endeavor. Any way, I am excited about this weekend!
 
Much sage advice regarding your ongoing conversation with your wife has already been expressed.

I just want to comment on your comment about monogamy being propagandized to us in movies. I've watched in excess of 10,000 Hollywood films in my life. The times have been countless that I've noticed that a movie's entire premise would dissolve into thin air if the expectation were not that a man's only option is to choose between one woman and another. Just think of all the films that involve that plot line, and then narrow it down to the ones in which the relationship between the two women is destroyed because of the false choice, and you're still left with thousands of movies that fit that pattern. I always think, "What a shame that they don't just consider the option of a plural family."
 
Asforme&myhouse said:
Love, patience, and time, brother :)

My advice would be to not push and pressure her, but rather lead her in the direction you know you both need to go. I’m convinced that leading your wife to a biblical understanding of marriage is almost a right of passage for a husband who desires a plural family, at least in this culture. The leadership required to lead one wife to plural is the leadership level needed to lead two wives in plural relationships.

Try not to be frustrated with her, she can feel it, and it will be hard for her feel your love for her. Be patient and gentle, but firm in your direction for the family, and above all, be self sacrificially loving towards her.

I’ll be praying that God will give you wisdom and patience.
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There is much wisdom found in this man! Excellent!!!!
 
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