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Don't tell me God is good.

Jennifer

Jennifer

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Can I be honest? When something "good" happens, I often hear, "Isn't God so good!" I get the sentiment and I often say it myself, but to be honest it bothers me. Is God only good when things go right? Was he not good when I was born blind in my left eye and sickly? Where was he when I was bullied all through elementary school and my mom had to change my school? Was he not good when a man broke into my apartment and I woke to a knife at my throat? I almost lost my life and the guy I was engaged to at the time ended up killing himself because he could not handle the losses that came because of the event. So I was assaulted then because of that event someone I loved lost his life. Where was God? Didn't he think I had had enough? Was He not good when our house was destroyed and we had to live in a hotel for three months and while at the hotel my husband's father passes away? Oh and that's not the end of the house story.....not even close. It came to the same fate again a few years later!!!! Was he not good when my children came into this world with less than perfect health? Not one, but all three. How about my three miscarriages? Is He not good during my present struggles? My husband is away and nothing is going right! I say all this to remind you to be careful when you only say, "God is good" when things are going right. To be honest my life hasn't really gone right since I was born and I have been through things most people won't ever experience. If I believed God was only good when things go right, I would have stopped believing in Him a long time ago because life hasn't shown me much of what the world defines as good. I have had to redefine the meaning of good to survive. Just a thought as I have to head back out after a long night of nothing going right and I honestly don't expect today to be any different, but I know God is good all the time. And as I type I hear my son has just woke up and it doesn't sound good. It's going to be another very hard day. But God is good
 
And please continue to keep Ephraim in your prayers. I dread meeting this pediatric neurologist today. I met him years ago because of Natalia. For a lack of better fitting words, he's a complete arrogant dick!! I am going to get a lecture and possibly deal with CPS threats. He tried to put my daughter on a medication that another epilepsy specialist said she should never be prescribed because it would make her condition worse. When we refused the medication, mind you there's other medications, he became enraged and threatened CPS. I have no other choice except to meet with him, unless I want to drive 3 hours to COA.
 
Praying here too.

Here is a verse from the gospel of John because from what I can tell you are living this admonition out! ((Hugs))


John 16:33 King James Version (KJV)
33 These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.
 
Sometimes it’s hard to remember that YHWH is not our Sugardaddy, there to help us avoid all unpleasantness.
My go-to story is that of Joseph with (my paraphrase) “This was meant for evil, but YHWH will use it for good if I will maintain a righteous walk.”
 
Cap said:
Job. He tells the same story. It's not over yet. There is peace ahead. Have faith daughter of God.
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I like what Cap said, “Job”. Perfect answer.

In all of our lives we go thru trials and tribulations. Frankly speaking, I hate em’. I’m the type that when I need patience, I want it now, not in one hour, notbtomorrow, I want the patience I need NOW! Fat chance that’s gonna happen.

I went thru a Job time in my past. I failed. I said something to God I should never had said. A couple of years later, I repented and God was faithful and just and forgave me. But during that time, I did not sense His presence at all. It was the most empty feeling. I still regret what I did, but know that I am loved by Him. And my love for Him is stronger.

This trial WILL end. Those of us who have been thru the fire, as well as you, know the fire will die down and extinguish.

There is a strength in you that is not your own strength, but the strength of Christ. Draw on that strength, lean on that strength, know that He loves you. Heck, how many of your friends are with you, praying for your family, and care deeply.

This day will pass, :), your God will remain.
 
Another thought on the cps threat. I processed this idea when supporting a relative with a sick baby.

You may consider calling cps yourself if it looks like a serious disagreement. Some doctors are arrogant beyond belief and abuse the duty to report laws. If you think you have that sort, and cannot get a different dr, call CPS yourself. They are kind of automatically on the side of the person who was concerned enough to report. That can be you. You are NOT ignorant or a fool, and you certainly have your son's well being motivating you.

With medical malpractice a modern reality with life threatening possibilities, your concern is real, and should not be taken lightly by social workers.
 
I’m reminded of a saying that my high school principal always said. He would say “God is good” the students would reply “all the time” he would say “all the time” students reply “God is good”

Our human definition of good is not the same as his... “his ways are not our ways”
 
Joleneakamama said:
Another thought on the cps threat. I processed this idea when supporting a relative with a sick baby.

You may consider calling cps yourself if it looks like a serious disagreement. Some doctors are arrogant beyond belief and abuse the duty to report laws. If you think you have that sort, and cannot get a different dr, call CPS yourself. They are kind of automatically on the side of the person who was concerned enough to report. That can be you. You are NOT ignorant or a fool, and you certainly have your son's well being motivating you.

With medical malpractice a modern reality with life threatening possibilities, your concern is real, and should not be taken lightly by social workers.
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Maybe that would work in AZ, not in other states. In many places CPS and the doctors are complicit in each others crimes. Doctor's will not hesitate to make a false report to CPS in order to put pressure on you to do what they want or even to just enact revenge.
 
rockfox said:
Doctor's will not hesitate to make a false report to CPS in order to put pressure on you to do what they want or even to just enact revenge.
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This is why the parent's report being made first may be helpful. The parent is not making a false report. If your concern is a medication with contra indications for example, and the warning is on the product information sheet, the social worker may not share your concern, but at least they have a record that YOU as the parent had concerns and were being bullied by the doctor who is after all "practicing" medicine and is insured in case he screws up.

It is a matter of fact that "preventable medical error" causes more deaths then "gun violence" in our country, and as a child's parent and guardian we have a duty to do everything we can to prevent them from becoming a sad statistic.

It also shows you are not afraid of them. We know they can be our enemy, but behind every social worker's desk and title is a flesh and blood person you can appeal to. An appeal for help from a kind and rational protective mother may go a long way, and land someone who could be an adversary on your side.

Edited to add. The important thing is we follow the leading of the holy spirit. This is only a possible course of action. It may not be the one God wants taken.
 
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I would have to know more about the policies and practices of CPS in a given jurisdiction before recommending the preemptive report. For one, they'll take the doc's side every time and two, I'm not sure they even have a procedure to follow for what you recommend. They may not even know what to do with it and you run the risk of needlessly getting on their radar.

Too often that flesh and blood person has 1 and only 1 goal: look for any excuse to take the child. That you came to them first will mean little and the record of your initial concern even less in their kangaroo courts.
 
Here anyone can report anyone anonymously. Make the call from the hospital and phrase things in the third person and they might think it was a nurse who didn't want to lose her job claiming the dr is bullying a parent prescribing un needed drugs. Not saying I would do that....but.....
 
I know our God is with you. He'll give you wisdom. He'll give you the words to say and help you think fast on your feet. I'd also go for a 2nd and 3rd opinion. It's your right to do so.
 
Maybe a call from a 'nurse' would help, try anything if you're stuck in a bad way. But don't count on something like that to save you because very often CPS is in on the con with the hospitals. Anonymous reporting is common in most if not all states, it's one of the ways they get people because it needn't be true and there is no defense. Anyone can report anything for any reason and too often it's just revenge over petty stuff.

This will vary hospital to hospital and state to state (probably worse in children's hospitals) but here is how it goes down in at least some of them...

They have an entire procedure for this worked out. If the parent shows resistance they'll bring in a whole team of doctors, as well as intimidating hired muscle, and put pressure on the parent to comply. You're not allowed to leave with your child. You're not allowed to get a different opinion. It's not a discussion, they're just there to convince you to go along and if you don't they'll threaten CPS. They may even forceably remove you. When CPS shows up what they hear is a team of doctors as reviewed it and decided the predetermined course of action is necessary for the safety of the child. It's not you vs. one bad apple but you vs. the whole pediatric team and you'll lose.

If they can, they'll try and isolate mom from dad or both parents from the child in order to put maximum pressure, do treatments while you're gone, or claim you abandoned the child.

From the moment you walk in the door the game is one of trying to catch you out. You'll be interviewed using interrogation techniques to try and catch you out in an inconsistency or get something out of you that could be used against you to get the child. They'll try to pit mother against father, even offering for her to rat on him about abuse.

And this isn't about differences in opinion about treatment for the problem you came for either. Some of these places are just farming the government/insurance for money and so they'll order a whole raft of unrelated, unnecessary treatments and do everything possible to keep in you there as long as possible.

This isn't just a danger with kids either. They'll do this to the elderly as well (elder abuse). I've seen it so bad that doctors spend more time interrogating an elderly patient rather than treating the injury.
 
rockfox said:
Maybe a call from a 'nurse' would help, try anything if you're stuck in a bad way. But don't count on something like that to save you because very often CPS is in on the con with the hospitals.
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I'm never going to count on my actions to save me, only offered an idea that may be considered. I know the abuse of power and corruption are beyond the belief of most, as decent people cannot understand the selfish, destructive evil that is out there. Watch the movie "The Changling" for a glimpse into what lazy law enforcement would do to hookers, and a concerned mother who's son was abducted. Good movie based on a true story, but not a happy feel good one.
 
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