Hello there Rt29palms...
I finally gave up on seeking a husband and prayed "Okay Lord, YOU bring the husband You have for me. I give up!" Within one month I met my husband and we became betrothed three days later! It was absolutely orchestrated by the Lord and all three of us recognized that. Eight months after that we had a public covenant commitment ceremony. Our two-year betrothal anniversary is coming up on December 29th, which is cool because we will be at the winter retreat in Florida, which is also where we became betrothed. Ahhhhh...sentimental amazing works of God.
Often times, when we give up our own will, it makes room for the will of the Lord to move. Too often we are in the way for Him to have His way in our lives. I think half the time the Lord is sitting back saying, "Finally, you are choosing to stop your attempts on things and allowing me to move in your life!" It is best to ALWAYS ask that the Lord's will be done in your life rather than numerous attempts at your own will.
I hope this helps. It was a life-changing prayer for me.
In Him,
Deborah