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I figure I should say hello as I have been lurking for a couple years now and it's probably encouraging for folks here to know that there are more invested parties out there than just the regular forum posters. Honestly, I was so new to this conversation that I really didn't have anything of value to add so I have just been learning quietly.

It was while reading the article on the main site: "Marriage, From the Bible Alone" that I felt an internal transformation that must have been from God.

I am married, just once, with kids, and have been a Christian from before I can remember. My wife is also a Christian, but opposed to PM.

What I would most like is to be able to actually meet and fellowship with like-minded families in my area. I know that is the stated purpose of the retreats but it's nice to know if there are local families in your own community, which is the second reason I am posting. I think the benefits are twofold. This is otherwise an isolating belief, and community is the antidote. And secondly, I want my wife to witness PM as something real, tangible, and practical, and not just something culturally irrelevant, and emotionally damaging, which is her current position.
So if there is anyone living in the Front Range area, please reach out.

Thanks to everyone for what you do to make this such a solid, honest, accessible, and informative community.
 
Welcome.
 
Welcome to Biblical Families! It's great you've spoken up after having been lurking for so long, I'm glad you've gotten lots out of this site in the meantime.

tps26 said:
It was while reading the article on the main site: "Marriage, From the Bible Alone" that I felt an internal transformation that must have been from God.
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I'll tell hubby this, he'll be pleased! He spent a long time writing that, and it's been helpful to a lot of people. I'm glad that God used it to speak to you too :).
 
Shalom and Welcome
 
Welcome!
 
Welcome! Welcome! What part of the Front Range do you call home? We live in OK, but Ive got a brother in Laramie and we drive up to visit him from time to time.
 
I am in the same boat you are in with my wife being against poly, but we have good friends that we live in close proximity to, and we have hung out with them quite a few times this past year. We may not be able to locate others in your vicinity, who are like minded, but we can coach you in how to bring up this topic, to win some of those friends over to our side. Even if they don't fully embrace polygamy for themselves, if we can win the argument over where the Scriptures stand, encourage them to lurk here as well, and to follow some of the online debates that have raged over this topic. Winning hearts and minds is a huge deal, and once you have won them over, you will have people you know that you can fellowship with.

As far as finding someone who actually is living poly, that is not likely to happen outside of one of the retreats. I have joined a few poly Facebook groups, including a regional group but I was not able to find anyone there that lived it, who could hang out with us. Your best bet is to get her to go to one of the retreats. That is tricky because you may find it difficult to get her to allow you to go to one yourself, but the operative word there, is "allow", as the authority in your home, rests with you, not her.

I went to this past Summer retreat, and it was great, but my wife did not want to come, and I didn't make her go. This next year will be different. I will insist that she come, and I have come to understand that it is my responsibility to make her more submissive, which I know is controversial even around here, but I have put some techniques into practice. While I won't force her to accept a sister wife, I will use what I have learned to attempt to get her to come along with me. I am convinced that anyone who wants to have a second wife, MUST have a submissive first wife, in order for that to work out, and for a long time, I blamed her for not being submissive. When I realized that it is my responsibility to make her more submissive, things drastically improved. My little boy wants to go to a retreat, and we have gotten into arguments over that, where she has raised her voice at me, but instead of getting him to come, and then hoping that persuades her to come along, I know that I have to go directly to her, and tell her that she needs to go.
 
Welcome. Glad you are hear and glad you spoke up and especially glad to hear about God working in your life.

Fellowship is a primary reason for Biblical Families. We have retreats because most people do not live near others, and so it is a great joy to finally get together in person. But local fellowship is encouraged whenever we can get it, too. Daniel (above) and I live in the same city so that is a blessing, but it is a rare one. Most people do not have others close to them to fellowship with.

But with more people speaking up like you did there is always hope!
 
cnystrom said:
Welcome. Glad you are hear and glad you spoke up and especially glad to hear about God working in your life.

Fellowship is a primary reason for Biblical Families. We have retreats because most people do not live near others, and so it is a great joy to finally get together in person. But local fellowship is encouraged whenever we can get it, too. Daniel (above) and I live in the same city so that is a blessing, but it is a rare one. Most people do not have others close to them to fellowship with.

But with more people speaking up like you did there is always hope!
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Yes, indeed it is! Chris started an online polygamy meetup group, and I wasn't aware at the time that he was part of BF, as I was new to BF myself, when I reached out to him.

As with any movement, it will never get started, unless a few brave souls are willing to stick their necks out. We are more of a grassroots organization, and the roots are spread out so thinly, that all you tend to see, are little clumps here and there, but as we plant the seeds of truth, we will eventually see a nice growing field of like minded people, all around us. For the most part, when I bring this up with people, a common response I get back, is "To each his own". While I do not agree with that statement, and I find myself correcting the person I am speaking with, and telling them that we must stay within the parameters that God has set forth, I do find it encouraging somewhat, to find people who are not rejecting our message. It is not so difficult to persuade people that we must follow God's ways, when they are not already stuck in a rigid mindset of what His ways actually are.
 
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