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Hello from NC...

JasonTedder

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I am a Protestant Christian living in NC. Through personal study I came to the conclusion that polygny is Biblical and, after looking around the internet, found your site.
I have discussed the subject briefly with my wife, but I am still not sure how she feels or how hard it would be to find a Christian woman for a second wife. I know it would be easy to find someone who is not a Christian but I firmly believe in not being, "unequally yoked together."
I'm looking forward to meeting people online and learning from their experiences with plural marriage.

Thanks,
Jason

ps) I would love to meet folks who are on Facebook as well!
 
Greetings brother.

We look forward to getting to know you.

One word of caution to begin with. If you and your covenant mate now have just come to the idea just focus on serving the Lord and his people. I noticed you used many terms below that pertain to the reformation heritage of thought, i.e. the solas.

Have you ever met someone who has just embraced the doctrine of election? It is like when they embrace the doctrines of unconditional elective love they then need to be locked in a closet for months until they can settle into the new found belief. I recall back in my undergrad days watching various students embrace this truth or that and then got so excited it became there sole focus. Or have you ever met someone who just receives some spiritual gift and they run around with a focus on that gift with almost a sole focus on that. You probably have, most of us have.

Likewise, there are those in this movement that embrace the idea and they get on a fast track rushing to try and find someone. So to answer your question: it probably is not hard to find someone if you just want someone. But, as it sounds you indeed want a godly woman. So, as my way of saying hello, glad you found us, and looking forward to getting to know you I offer that one word of wisdom for you. Take it slow, meet new people, build friendships, and let God work in his sovereign timing. In time if this is his will you and your mate will move in that direction.

What a blessing it is to have you join us here.

Feel free to contact brother Nathan as well. You may want to get to know him and even attend some of the local retreats that are on the Southeast. That is one of the best ways to get to know others and to build friendships with like minded believers.

Grace to you brother.

Dr. Allen
 
Welcome, Jason! I love where you live. It is one of my favorite states. I hope your wife will be willing to read things on this site also. We would love to have her join in. I am a first wife myself. I would be happy to answer any questions she might have. Just drop me a PM anytime. Hope you find some new friends here!

His Blessings,
Julieb
 
Thanks everyone for the kind welcome! :D

And thanks for the advice Dr.Allen, I know what you mean. I actually came upon this topic about 1.5 years ago. At first I was a little passionate about it, but I kinda put it on the side burner for a while. But I have recently come to a theory that may have been discused here before.

I see how the Muslims practice polygny and they spread through the world like wildfire (just look at how they are taking over Europe). They, on average,have around 8 children per household where we have 1.5. What if polygny was God's design to spread the Gospel over the world? Christian couples producing 8 or 10 children to inhabit the land (Lord willing to become Christians themselves) as opposed to 1 or 2. It certainly would make a difference I think. I wonder if anyone has done any sort of study correlating the greater birth rate of pagan peoples with the drawing away from God that our country has experience over the last 100 years? I would bet that at least some of it has to do with fewer of the new generation having come from Christian homes!

Just a thought...
 
Interesting that you bring that point up. Those who hold to postmillennial ideology would naturally be inclined more towards this idea and many among the Reformed are so indeed of that persuasion. But one need not hold to that view, as did the great Jonathan Edwards, to arrive at a similar conclusion. Recently Dr. Danny Akin, an Evangelical Baptist Dispensationalist, who presides as president of the Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary there in your state of NC, came to similar conclusions that Christians need to reproduce more than they are. However, of course neither he nor Edwards arrived at the same conclusions about polygyny. Well, I suppose Edwards has now that he is with the Lord, but Akin has yet to arrive to that conclusion. Practically they have the right idea, as you do, that with more children the more ground with the gospel can be covered, but the solid, astute, and brilliant Dr. Akin and of like company with him hit a problem because few and far between percentage wise can actually afford to have more than the standard one to two children due to financial constraints. So they are stuck in a difficult conundrum. They have the right idea but have not got the right structure to support the idea.

Yet on the other hand, some, more than I care to mention, among the polygyny tradition, grasp the right structure but so often they get so fast paced that when they do form the right structure they fail to have the right theological or spiritual maturity behind them to sustain what they have initiated. Or, some get the right theology but then embrace a form of separatist fundamentalism that leads them towards isolationism instead of evangelical engagement. Of these some fail to make the gospel the priority and make something lower on the doctrinal scale the key. Thus they are in a conundrum because they produce a lot of children who are not spiritual or believers in the gospel. So the goal of having more children to cover more ground with the gospel is undermined and it turns out to be nothing more than just more people without the passion for the gospel.

The solution is for there to arise a solid group of solid, well educated, evangelically passionate, mature, theologically astute set of saints that see the holistic picture: (1) The need to produce as many children in a responsible fashion according to their means and abilities without over extending their emotional and physical stewardship means (with polygyny being accepted as a norm) and (2) the need to not seclude themselves from the culture in a neo-monastic secluded bubble culture but instead are engaging the culture as Christ engaged the culture and as the early saints engaged the culture with the pure gospel of grace driving the whole enterprise which (3) has the strength of solid financial backers from those who have achieved greater wealth to help fund the mission through the application of godly biblical principles for the structure of the family as both a missiological center as well as a financial hub for missiological endeavors.

Hopefully, we will make headway towards the solution herein along with other endeavors that the Lord orchestrates through his sovereign plan as history progresses forward towards the ultimate culmination point.

Dr. Allen
 
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