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Christopher Huggins

Christopher Huggins

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Hi! My name is Christopher, but y'all can call me Chris. I'll be 31 next month, and my wife of 8 years will be 29 in December. We have known each other our whole lives and grew up together. We are originally from Mississippi, but moved to Omaha, NE in 2018. I am currently a Home Health Aide pursuing a career as a nurse and my wife (Lisa) is the General Manager of a uniform store. We don't know much about polygamy, and I think I'm slightly more interested than her. We've discussed the possibility of finding another woman to add to our family for a couple of reasons. We have been unsuccessful getting pregnant for the entirety that we've been together (10 years) and we both want kids. I find myself with a strong desire to love others as much as I love Lisa. I'm slowly realizing that the guilt I feel for wanting more than just Lisa isn't entirely warranted, however I still feel bad for it. I don't know how to accurately explain my interest and curiosity towards polygamy, it's almost like I'm being drawn to it. I'd like to be the first to say I'm glad to meet everyone and i look forward to hearing from y'all!
 
Welcome. It's always a pleasure to have new folks join us here and we wish you every blessing. :)
 
Shalom and welcome. Many resources and lots of wisdom available on this site. Dig in, go slow, pray alot and love your first wife madly!
 
Welcome!
 
Welcome
 
Welcome, Chris. It's entirely unnaturally natural to feel guilt about having the desire to love more than one woman. We swim in a sea of humanity hypnotized by the propaganda of both religion and feminism to believe that the only legitimate eros love is limited to being focused on one individual alone, a stance which inadvertently stunts the ability of nearly everyone to express agape love. @PeteR's advice is spot on. Welcome, but go slow -- and for now focus even more than you already have on directing your love to Lisa and further becoming the kind of man who takes 100% responsibility for everything that happens in his family.

I'm glad you're here.
 
I had a youth pastor who had done drugs in his youth, and he and his wife weren't able to get pregnant. He really got into homeopathy, and while I myself don't really believe in the cures that homeopathy promotes, it worked for him, in that his wife was able to have four or five children, and he suspected it was because of the fact that he was not taking traditional medicines.

As far as your desires, they are what they are. God is the One who gives us desires, at least desires that He does not disapprove of. If we know that God does not disapprove of having more than one wife, we can be assured then that the desire to have more than one, comes from God. I am in the same boat with you, as I have greater desire for a second wife, than my wife does, but that is much further along than where we were two and a half months ago.
 
Thanks everyone! I'm glad to have been met with such fellowship and understanding. I guess my fear regarding the conversion (when I'm ready) would be that Lisa isn't accepting of it, but I suppose that's an issue for late .
 
Welcome!
 
conversion, or conversation?
 
Shalom and welcome from Mo
 
If the fundamental concern that has drawn you in this direction is a desire to have children, if you haven't checked out the Billings method of natural family planning yet, do look it up. Might not help, but it would be fun to experiment. ;)

And welcome!

Also, if when you do broach the subject more strongly Lisa gets worried that this evil bunch of polygamists has tried to persuade you to take another wife, do point her back to this thread and the fact that both @Daniel DeLuca and myself have actually encouraged you to find the answer to this particular issue within monogamy, with her. Our focus isn't polygamy, but marriage, and that first and foremost means her marriage to you. It might also hypothetically include discussing another marriage with us at some point in the future, but that's only a possibility, while your marriage to her is a certainty.
 
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