Hi, my husband announced plurual marriage to me like a year ago. We have been married for about 7 years. I had run into this site at the time, and believe that was God helping me, in the beginning of learning more knowledge and sharing my husband. I did not take it as well as I should have I was furiours that he came across polygamy. Like are you crazy, and he began reading to me the old testament scriptures with David having seven wives, Solomon with 700 and so on, and I just accepted it, b/c it was sooner or later starting to make more and more sense. It made sense b/c I came across the scriptures before wondering why we dont practice this today. The world changed but God never changed. I have learned so much from sweet Lisa's post, about jealousy and overcoming fears, I even chatted with her before. Her post really spoke to me at that time.
Well in overcoming fears, jealousy and the like, MEN have a right to be jealous if their wife is with another man, and God has a right to be jealous if we serve other God's or idol's. But women have no right to be jealous because God created women for men, and it should be normal. America and its laws against plurual marriage has got in our mind, and have us think of polygamy with jealousies and fear because we are not use to this way of lifestyle,(polygamy). But what I do is put myself in situations in my mind and meditate, on him going on dates, him being in the bed with another women, (I look at this like I know he's doing a good job isn't he?), or how did it go, sharing time with him, not having him as much. But I dont think it would be any different that if he had to travel or go away for work, or the like. And I know and trust my husband to give me time, and to equally love us all. I trust him to be there when I need him most, just like I trust in God to be there when I need him most. I just put myself in the most deepest situations, so i can be prepared. I have learned to always be prepared and be excited for him, and in agreement with him on polygamy for this to work, because this God's doing, and whatever God wants I will do. I had to ask God to transform my mind, and remove Jealousy from my heart. I had to pray about polygamy. Just like I have to pray about anything else. God has transformed my mind and my way of thinking because of prayer. So ask God to help you and he will. Because the world has our mind warped.
My husband has been across a few women that he has liked and I listen and , also some times feel akward, obviously I need more work. My adjustment is getting better, but I still have inner struggles, secret struggles that I see and have to confess. So its just a transformation process. He works and comes across women that he tells me what he likes about them, and how they act towards him,thier respect, their comments, ect. And I have recently found out that I try to compete, that's another one to watch out for.
thanks for asking these questions on the post, b/c i been wanting to say alittle on this subject.
