This topic came up in the Ladies only section and I did not feel qualified to respond in that forum.
Recently someone posted that she felt that she was not enough for her husband because of his desire for another wife. I thought I might try to explain it from one man's perspective.
I have one wife and 5 children. All blessings. Would one child have been enough? Yes. But that does not mean I did not want to be blessed even more. 5 children are a great blessing. There are such a great blessing that I wanted as many children as God would give me. The fact that I wanted more than one child is not in any sense from an idea that the first child was inadequate in any way. In fact the opposite was true. The joy of having one child encouraged me to eagerly desire more such joys.
The scope may be different. For example, it is perhaps easier to support a dozen children than it is to support a dozen wives, but, at least for me, the psychology is basically the same.
On the rare occasion when my wife and I are on the outs I do not feel like finding a live in replacement because she is inadequate. No. Rather what I feel like is quite the opposite: I feel like being single.
So if the man wants to be a polygamist it is a complement to the first wife and a vote of approval. He views you as a great blessing, a blessing that he would love to have more of if the Good Lord sees fit to grant it to him.
I hope this helps.
Recently someone posted that she felt that she was not enough for her husband because of his desire for another wife. I thought I might try to explain it from one man's perspective.
I have one wife and 5 children. All blessings. Would one child have been enough? Yes. But that does not mean I did not want to be blessed even more. 5 children are a great blessing. There are such a great blessing that I wanted as many children as God would give me. The fact that I wanted more than one child is not in any sense from an idea that the first child was inadequate in any way. In fact the opposite was true. The joy of having one child encouraged me to eagerly desire more such joys.
The scope may be different. For example, it is perhaps easier to support a dozen children than it is to support a dozen wives, but, at least for me, the psychology is basically the same.
On the rare occasion when my wife and I are on the outs I do not feel like finding a live in replacement because she is inadequate. No. Rather what I feel like is quite the opposite: I feel like being single.
So if the man wants to be a polygamist it is a complement to the first wife and a vote of approval. He views you as a great blessing, a blessing that he would love to have more of if the Good Lord sees fit to grant it to him.
I hope this helps.
