looking for advice

[sweetshorty]

hello. I am asking for advice. I am a single mother of three. I was getting to know a family who I thought one day I will be a part of. We were even trying to make plans for me to move closer or with the family, but soon after the planning started I found out that I wasn't the one. I feel kinda hurt by this situation. I have dealt with rejection before. How do i move forward? Are there any single parents who have gone through this and can you give me advice? Thank you so much. God bless you.

 

[Dr. K.R. Allen]

First, I am sorry for the hurt you have experienced.

Yet, secondly, this is a normal process of growth in life. When we hurt it is a time for reflection. We can always reflect on what we learned from that providential time that God used in our life.

Third, reading over James chapter one about the trials can be an encouragement as well.

Fourth, some time spent with some friends can be a great aid to God's grace working in your life. Sometimes just being around others who love and care about you can do great things to fill your heart and mind with new hope.

Fifth, read the book of Philippians too, as it can be really inspiring, as well spend some time praying as you worship the Lord. Sometimes a time observing nature or God's wonderful creation while reading his word can restore a sense of hope and refresh your spirit.

Sixth, be honest and evaluate what went wrong? Is there anything in your life that God is highlighting that he would like to grow or mature you in with your own character? Was God using this preliminary round to show you something that he is going to mature you in before he does indeed place you with the family he has sovereignly ordained?

Seventh, when you feel too stressed and overwhelmed with emotions and prayer is not enough go exercise and allow the natural physical design of the body to help you relax and find peace again.

"Lord, my sister here is hurting and I ask that you touch her spirit and encourage here. Help her to relax, to see what you are doing in her life, and protect her. Lord give her a refreshed spirit and motivate her to stay focused on you and your sovereign rule over every element of your universe. Use this time to grow her, and as she grows may she find your Spirit to be comforting to her in the days to come. Place some friends close by her to help her enjoy life and your goodness. In the name of Jesus I pray this, Amen."

 

[Isabella]

I am sorry to hear this Sweet, I can't imagine how painful that can be. You have to think of it as a lucky escape, thank goodness that you did not actually move and uproot yours and your childrens lives and then find out that it wasn't going to work.
It is a learning curve and there are many other families out there that would suit you better obviously so it is probably a good thing.

good luck,

Bels

 

[steve]

dear sweet,
i wish that in at least this little corner of the world righteousness would prevail. sadly, it does not. in fact it seems that the enemy dislikes this truth especially, and is trying hard to disrupt relationships and bring discouragement.
i am sorry to read of another example of his success.
there is a part of this board that is dedicated to introductions to prescreened families, click on the upper left image to get to the homepage and find it,

 

[CecilW]

I second what Steve said, and add that the trials along the way only make the success all the sweeter. For whatever it is worth, the "Bring On The Popcorn" mentality really helps.

 

[sweetshorty]

Thank you very much for the encouraging words. Please continue to pray. I know that God will prevail and have His way in my life.

 

[DiscussingTheTopic]

I imagine being rejected by a married man, is the same in a sense as being rejected by a single man.

Sometimes people dislike other people because they make the right choices instead of the wrong ones. If so know that God is pleased with your right choice.

If you were rejected because you did something wrong, know God's forgiveness has has offered, and his offer to help you make right choices.

By the way there are still other single and married men available. Do not expect every man to accept you, a woman can only marry one man anyway, so once you get married you might not have to struggle looking for a husband again.

Someone pointed out a typo I made where I used, can but should have used should.

My point about the one husband thing is that you should be comforted that once you find the one, your hard work searching might be over, and perhaps there is a better husband for you and God knew that since you are only supposed to marry one man, he intended to give you a better one.