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Gail

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I suppose this is really off topic but I really think plural marriage is the answer for many people both christian and non christian. Truth is very important so I must tell you all that I am not christian. I follow a traditional Native American spiritual road and I am a student of Buddhism. I joined this site because many years ago I would have become part of a plural marriage. My husband found another woman whom he fell in love with . I could have loved her like a sister and been her best friend but she refused to accept me and my husband left me for her. Had there been a community I could have gone to perhaps things would have turned out differently. God had taught me many lessons and I advocate plural marriage. Men and woman are different and their roles in life are different. I am very happy to be able to express these things. I would appreciate any and all comments.
Blessings to all,
Gail
 
Well, Gail, thanks for finding us, and I hope that we can reflect the love of Jesus in our manner and our speech for you to consider making Him a part of your life. Many of us have had interesting journeys which bring us to this point in our lives. For me, I am blessed to know that I have a Friend and Companion who is always with me. I appreciate the teachings of Buddha, and have Native American heritage in my own family, and have explored that spiritual aspect of my heritage. Having weighed those concepts with a Living Savior, constantly present, and with an eternal hope, I have found tremendous peace as the Buddha proscribed, and my place in the order of the universe as to my Native American heritage.

Be blessed my dear. If you ever need prayer, let me know~

Blessings

Doc
 
Welcome Gail, I am not Christian either but like you, I am a supporter.

Bels
 
Hello Gail,
I found this site 1 year ago this month. I decided to leave for a while and came back because I realize the people on this site are very comforting as well as get right to the point. I have felt the prayers in my life from these wonderful people and can actually see the effects from them. I do not like to question why God lead me to this site, but to me it is strange that there is someone so loving and forgiving of my miss-steps in life but still cares enough to push me in His own way. I trust the people here whole heartily .... Since I know the power of prayer first hand, I will pray for you to enjoy this site and that you can find what you are looking for here.

Take Care,

Jenna :mrgreen:
 
Dearest brothers and sisters, There is no space or time that separates one who believes in God. I can feel the love that this site projects. I do not question how I came here but am glad I am here. Thank your for the kind and wise words. Prayers and blessings to all
 
I think plural marriage would be much better for our society, Christians and non-Christians alike. You story is a great example. I am convinced that over all, women would be happier, as well as the children. When you talk to most women today, their greatest fear is abandonment. That is what divorce reinforces for them. That fear usually starts because the father left when they were little as a result of divorce. Certainly that is what my life has been like. I was taught not to trust or submit to men - even by my father and step-father!! It is divorce that is wrecking us, not alternative forms of marriage.

And yet, I find it hard to take the leap and seriously pursue PM. I know it is because I was raised in this culture and it is so ingrained in me that it is hard to imagine such a situation could ever go well. But I think that is partly just my pessimism about human nature. Seems the more people you have involved in something, the more rocky the road. That is another reason why I am glad I found this site. I am hoping that by talking to people (women in particular), I can conquer my pessimism by hearing real stories about things working out and problems being solved (and how to avoid the big bumps).

So, yes, I think PM would be good for non-Christians, too.
 
Diener, I read your words and can see where you are coming from and it is a valid position. For myself I see plural marriage as a safety net. So many of the worlds cultures have plural marriage. I see the comfort of having loving sister wives that would be a friend and helper. Western society places an emphasis on sex and sensuality. This is such a small part of a relationship. The main part , at least for me is the sharing of responsibility. In raising children in a spiritual, moral and ethical home that has compassion for all of Gods creators. Jealousy is a feeling that is problematic in plural relationships. That is because there are feelings of this is mine or I possess ect. In reality nothing belongs to us. only our bodies. God has created everything. The way we act and honor God is what we give back to him. So I f a loving, sincere God fearing woman should happen to come into a families life who is not jealous and willing to share all of the responsibilities of a plural relationship. it then becomes a blessing. Thank you for letting me share my thoughts. Blessings
 
I love your post, Gail! Yes, this is what I am hoping to become more and more by being sanctified as a result of a PM. There are things in my heart that just aren't being "pruned" because I have very limited relationships outside of my family. I think that is something new to our modern times - not being connected intimately with other people - because our modern times are filled with filling up our "empty" time with pleasure and leisure instead of talking to each other!

As nervous as I am about changing the status quo, I really do see such a woman as a "dream come true". Having such a beautiful spirit in the house would change my life for the better because it would help me grow in love and service to not only my God and my husband, but to my sister-wife, as well. Not that she will be perfect, but on the contrary - so that when she does act "human" I find I am overwhelmed with love and compassion instead of selfish ambition. Then I have learned to truly love. I think that maybe a sister-wife is a more direct means to understanding what 1Cor 13 is all about (that is what we call the Love chaper) than just being in a monogamous marrige.

1 Corinthians 13:
1 If I speak in the tongues[a] of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.




I hope you post often on the forums. I love hearing what you have to say.
 
Dearest Sister (Diener), Your spirit radiates the love you have been holding inside for such a long time. I believe any woman who comes to your family would be blessed a thousand fold. We are the potters clay and God will mold us into an image of what he wants so we may do his work. His work is in the home, in fellowship and in shearing his love that comes thru us. Be blessed in all that you do.
 
You are very kind. I can only hope that what you say is true. I feel the same way about you. You create a warm glow on this site!
 
I consider myself a questioning Christian. I sometimes have trouble separating philosophy, theology, doctrine, and faith. However, I feel a strong daily connection to a Creator God, I believe Jesus was sent by God to live and die for the betterment of His creation. (This seems to opt me out of Buddhism, but I find much truth in the teachings of the Buddha) Religion has often corrupted this for their own means, instead of humbly accepting this in its perfect simplicity. All of my life there has been periods of exploring other faiths, of which I believe have also been blessed with Godly acceptance and revelations of truth. I read somewhere that all true paths of faith lead to the same source, and do not feel I am brilliant enough to argue this.

Saying this, I cannot remember a time when Plural Marriage seemed like a bad thing to me. How could God find any marriage ventured into with love and the faith of its success a sin? If this choice were available and acceptable in this country, many divorces could be avoided and many families would find an expanded happiness and security while traveling this life. Women bonding and supporting each other inside of a family relationship is the most normal and natural situation most of us can imagine. Families with strong moral male leadership always always do better than those without that resource. That male could be the Grandfather, Father, or Husband and have a similar effect. But without it, even the strongest of women become overburdened and exhausted. While many of those strong women raise good families on their own, it would be so much easier for them with a strong male partner in the picture. And even when women reach a point in life where small children are no longer an issue, even those at 60 and above, the benefits of an extended marriage can bring a special glow to those golden years.

I could say so much more, mostly about my own situation, which I will do but not on this series of posts about non-Christian PM because it would be off topic. But reading the prior posts makes my heart glad that I have found this site, and the really good people that participate and offer thoughts on the true human condition. I so look forward to the New Year’s Retreat and hope that we can find future fellowship in the Asheville NC area.

God Bless
 
Indreamergal,

Beautifully said and heartfelt. Thank you for sharing such intimate thoughts.

Blessings
 
After much thought I feel i cannot contribute to this forum as I am not Christian. I have enjoyed reading what people say. and I support plural marriage but from my perspective it would have to be a spiritual relationship and not a religious one. In my writing I would not want to mislead anyone because this is a lifeway. and as such must be committed to fully. I can feel the love and sincerity in this forum so I am very glad to have participated as much as i have. Thank you so much and blessings to all
 
I know I will be sad to see you stop posting. I still like hearing what you have to say. But I understand if you find it uncomfortable. You will be missed.

May God bless you!

Cheers,
Laurie
 
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