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Non-practicing Polygamists

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Kathryn

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This may be a stupid question, but to me it seems like an obvious one.

One of the biggest problems discussed on this site is finding and dealing with additional wives. I just read a post from a woman who's been wanting her husband to take a second wife for TEN years! There's another post from a man in his sixties. It's entirely possible that some couples may long to practice polygamy all their lives and never find a second wife.

While I'm sure we'll never have a consensus, I'd just like to hear some ideas.

What do you think about non-practicing polygamists?
 
To my knowledge there are more non-practicing polygamists than there are practicing ones. The goal with websites like this is to gather us all together in one spot so that we can exchange ideas, friendship and information. Maybe by reaching out this way people will find a way to add the wife that they desire. And it may be possible for a woman to find a family that she wants to join. I just happened recently with a group of people that might never have met except for knowing about this website.

SweetLissa
 
Kathryn,

I am going to send you a PM copy of a post that I just wrote for the Gentlemen only section, since I am sure you will not read it. :D It addresses the problem at hand for me and probably many in the same boat. It is going to take the hand of God to bring this about. It is not yet time, though the time is at hand for Isaiah 4 to come to fruition. That is why the enemy fights so hard against it, since it means certain demise for him. What you see now in the natural is not the way it will be in just a few years. I believe that this thing will happen so fast that it will make your head spin. 'In that day' people will wake up to the enemy's plan and turn to God, then there will be an explosion of Biblical PM. That day is soon to come. This is just the appetizer to the main course. Hold on to your hat! :D

Be blessed,''

Ray
 
Well I am not living the lifestyle nor am I married, but I would like to put my opinion out there.

I think that if a man and woman want to be in a polygamist relationship that is great, but I also that that you have to wait until the right one comes a long and you can't go out and be hunting all the time to always turn up a dead end.
I think if it is meant to be for people that God will send them someone. Also if a man and woman are seeking someone they should both look and see what they find. I mean it never hurts to look but you have to let it happen natural. I think everything happens for a reason and if you let God do his job then some how that special person, be it a 2nd or 3rd wife, will find their way to you.
 
kimberlymars9 said:
Well I am not living the lifestyle nor am I married, but I would like to put my opinion out there.

I think that if a man and woman want to be in a polygamist relationship that is great, but I also that that you have to wait until the right one comes a long and you can't go out and be hunting all the time to always turn up a dead end.
I think if it is meant to be for people that God will send them someone. Also if a man and woman are seeking someone they should both look and see what they find. I mean it never hurts to look but you have to let it happen natural. I think everything happens for a reason and if you let God do his job then some how that special person, be it a 2nd or 3rd wife, will find their way to you.
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Personally, I think Kimberlymars9 hit the proverbial nail square on the head in the quoted post. You do indeed have to wait until the right one comes along, and I think that applies to marriage generally, whether polygyny or monogamous. I know it did in my case.

I married my wife when I was 34 and she's the "one and only" so far. Being a Christian, I lifted my single status up to the Lord while proving that I didn't trust fully in Him by going out and trying to make meaningful relationships happen on my own. Not surprisingly, this approach didn't work. But when I fully surrendered and quit tryihg to "help God out," He quickly provided me with a wife whom His blessings flow through in abundance.

I learned my lesson about letting God do His job. It may not even be His will that we become a poly household. If it is His will, it will happen. If it isn't His will, then I am totally content to have been led on a journey of edification, one that brought me to a place where I can view my brothers and sisters in Christ, who happen to be in poly marriages, to be what they really are -brothers and sisters in the faith.

T-C
 
I am constantly amazed at the level of maturity that I see here on the forums. I know that God is at work in an AWESOME way here.

Blessings,

Doc
 
T-C, I can second the point from your testimony, but from the other end of the street. I failed myself for many years and two attempts at marriage my way. I failed so miserably that I was through with marriage, but then God told me to marry my current wife and made my life turn 180 degrees in the right direction as far as marriage goes. It is still hard, but it is soooo worth it!

Be blessed,

Dr. Ray
 
I originally did not post on this thread. As a man who has had a second wife for over ten years, it did not "seem to apply" - although those of you who have read these forums for a longer period may be familiar with at least part of my own story.
("Dealing with the Beast" is probably the last such saga installment:
viewtopic.php?f=29&t=302)

But given the situation, where my own wife B was attacked by family, 'the world', and the Adversary to the point where she is currently in rebellion to our Covenant, perhaps I can comment as "non-practicing" to some extent. I clearly pray (and again, as always, covet the prayers of others so inclined) that the situation is not only temporary, but as brief as suits His will. I am open to the possibility of whatever other options God may have for me and us as well, but will leave that up to Him, and in His time.

A far-too-brief summary (the longer one would have to be a book, and perhaps that will eventually be forthcoming ;) ) of my own experience would be this:

I have learned much from my successes, and perhaps more so even from some failures, during the process of seeking to walk in obedience to Him. My original marriage is without question far stronger as a result of what He has taught us, and my marriage to B remains as well. Even in abandonment, I will not deny her as my wife. The battle belongs to Him, and for the time being is fought only with the weapons of faith and prayer. He "chastens those He loves", for which I am thankful, and hopeful.

Those who seek to be guided by Him must learn to remain "teachable", because, thankfully, there will always be more to learn. And there is quite a journey ahead.

Blessings in Him,

Mark
 
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