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please pray........multiple mother-in-laws

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ServantoftheLord

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I have one wife and four women who claim to be my mother-in-law. Two are childless and very jelouse of my mother-in-law (wifes biological mother) they tend to be pushy controling attack our marriage and values especially my leadership as a husband since they are feminist. Not to mention try to push my wifes biological mother out of the picture. (I get along great with her) And the childess ones insist on showing up. Allot. This month for example. Please pray that when they show up in a few days they will not be pushy, attacking our values marriage or my leardership in my family nor bring non-chrstian influances into our family. (No they are not practicing Bible believers)

Thanks, prayer is the best way to prevent life potential problems before they start as well as advoid unessary worry. Phil. 4:6 1 Peter 5:7
 
If they are showing up at your house then you might want to consider telling them that they are not welcome. You do have the right to decide who is welcome and who is not on your own property.
 
Re: multiple mothers-in-law; please pray

Welcome to Biblical Families, fellow Michigander. :)

May God grant you the wisdom of a Solomon in handling these mothers-in-law, no matter how literal or figurative the connection.

Maybe they just have a need to feel important. Listening costs you nothing and you needn't pay heed, but if they feel heard they may decide you're the smartest fellow they know! ;)
 
Thanks mystic, my wife feels that is good advice... i will give it a try.... in the past they will complain that someone mutually know by those in the conversation believes in marriage and marrying those your physically involved with , not in having fornicatious flings before going on to someone elsr. So i speak up that it is very good if they are going to be one they should be married and cite a scripture verse and they insantly become a volcanic eruption claiming i was judging them for all the times they have comitted adultry. Even though i told them i never mentioned you just said the person they were tearing down did what was honnarble and right in marrying...even so the vulcano kept erupting...
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I agree with both Wesley and Mystic, listening cost nothing and a conversation opens doors of thought. Being in your house, the place that is your families sanctuary. You have not only the right but the responsibility to set and enforce the rules of the house. Let these women know the are welcome at your "table" as long as the are respectful of the house rules. In my house we do not scream and yell or slam doors if you can not discuss things like a rational adult we don't discuss it until you can. All are welcome at my "table" until they disrespect me ,my house, our my ability to lead my "HOUSE"
 
Jack P. said:
I agree with both Wesley and Mystic, listening cost nothing and a conversation opens doors of thought. Being in your house, the place that is your families sanctuary. You have not only the right but the responsibility to set and enforce the rules of the house. Let these women know the are welcome at your "table" as long as the are respectful of the house rules. In my house we do not scream and yell or slam doors if you can not discuss things like a rational adult we don't discuss it until you can. All are welcome at my "table" until they disrespect me ,my house, our my ability to lead my "HOUSE"
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The concept of "my house" seems to be lost on a lot of people in American today. It is a concept that they need to be reminded of and, I have to agree with you, in the case of a Christian it is our responsibility, not just a right, to do the reminding. (1 Timothy 5:8)
 
Jack p. I wrote them and said almost the same thing you said about your house rules last time and and they blew up... claimed that it hurt other relitivesfeeling because i said they werent allowed toscream at mine wife or attack our marriage... iam hopieng theydont come over when they are here... we might end up just visiting with us at a park or some nutral third party ocation
 
Thanks for the advice everyone.... i dont know who else to seek it from as most people mother in law expeirance isnt from several who are jellouse of each other... also pray for my wife as they try to play on her emotions feelings and then then temper... the relitive they claimed got her felling hurt they couldnt yell at her is one of her grandmas who told her on the phone they were llying and she agreed with me.... but she was so worked up she didnt.even listen to her....
 
There is a funny side of there snafu i will share lest you thonk it is all drama ( though it seems that way at times...and it didnt seem funny wheni it happened) back when we used to livelike a mile or two from all the want to be mother in laws. We had a yard sale. One j. Had stopped by probably tomake sure we didnt sell any of her junk she always forsed on us after it stopped working for her and jellous of any money we made even though she was richer than the restcombinded.Well another wanabe. B. who claims she is my mother in law./wifes mother.. drive by in a pick up with a couch in the back. Stops by the side walk and yells look at the sofa i got you! Imidiantly j. Gets in her vehical and drives off. Then b. Says it smell terible and i am bringing it to the dump for a friendbutj. Doesnt know that and you watch she will go and find a fancier one and buy it just so she can be the one.You kept the couch from. Sure enough she showed up later saying she bought one without ever asking. Our oppinion saying she had already paid a friend for it so we better takeit.
 
Also please be praying j. Will yield to our wishes to stop calling herself my wifes mother my mother in law and telling others they are her grandchildren. My wife has said she is an insult to her real mom and biologically she is an aunt of my wifes and we have asked her to call us her nieces and newphews but she just does it the more infront of me even unless my wifes real mom is around.
 
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