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Plural Marriage Polygamy in Kenya and East Africa

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"79% of respondents polled know of a man in a polygamous marriage." -Quote from video below on poll done (in Kenya?) by global research group http://www.ipsos.co.ke/ (I can't find the research paper).

Published Sept 9, 2013:

"A new survey conducted by Ipsos Synovate says 64% of Kenyans support the legalisation of come -we-stay relationships that have lasted over six months as proposed by the Marriage Bill, while 36% are against it. Under the proposed Marriage Bill, Chiefs will have the power to consider cohabitation – popularly referred to as “come-we-stay” arrangements – as marriages, and will be required to register them as such." - http://www.kimmediagroup.com/compon...nyans-want-come-we-stay-legalised-survey.html
 
Wednesday, February 26th 2014. [I'm guessing "MP" means Member of Parliament.]

Kenya: Members of the National Assembly want to amend the Marriage Bill to remove what they see as a final barrier to polygamy.

The offending clause for male MPs is Section 44 of the Bill, which proposes that under customary law, men should seek the consent of their spouses before marrying a second wife.

The Bill passed through its second reading in the House Wednesday, even as controversy raged over how much say women should have on their husbands’ choice to get them co-wives.

Although the Bill has wide ranging provisions touching on marriage, the clause on polygamy has assumed a life of its own, with debate in the House and in the public zeroing in on the controversial clause. During debate last week, the chairman of the National Assembly’s Legal Affairs Committee Mr Samuel Chepkonga said they had considered an array of opinions before the decision to introduce the amendment that may see the controversial clause deleted when week, the chairman of the National Assembly’s Legal Affairs Committee, Samuel Chepkonga, said they had considered an array of opinions before the decision to introduce the amendment that may see the controversial clause deleted when the Bill comes before the Committee of the Whole House.

Predictably, the reaction during debate was sharp and immediate, with mostly male MPs supporting the amendment, terming the consent clause “impractical and unrealistic” in the context of African culture.

Among them was Westlands MP Timothy Wanyonyi who told the House that it would be unrealistic to expect the modern woman to give her consent in such cases. “I do not think this is practical because modern women will not give consent to this, and this is why in most cases you will find that men are defined as potentially polygamous.”

He also took issue with a clause that imposes a five-year sentence on any man who goes ahead to marry a second wife without the consent of the first wife. Wanyonyi termed the penalty too harsh and proposed that it be reduced to six months.

He argued that a woman could give consent and later change her mind.

But Kiambu Woman Representative Anne Nyokabi defended the clause by highlighting the issue of “other” families emerging on the death of men who were thought to be in monogamous unions. She told the House that the consent clause would stem the tide of secret marriages.

“When a woman and a man contract a marriage we expect as women that you are getting into a monogamous situation when you have a marriage in a church, but many times you find that when the husbands are six feet under, there are five or six different parallel families,” Nyokabi told the House.

Also at the centre of the debate on the contentious clause is the issue of property. During the debate, Kilome MP Regina Muia told the House that the consent clause would protect first wives who risk losing shared property.

“All the time, women are victims. They have no property. You marry and after some time you think that you can divorce that woman and you go and look for another person,” she said in reference to men.

Muia added: “This Bill is favouring men only. It is like women do not exist and we are there only to bear children and nothing else. We do not play any part in these families. I disagree with the Bill,” she said.

The debate has also drawn the interest of the public and other opinion shapers.

Maendeleo ya Wanaume Organisation Chairman Nderitu Njoka has termed the debate “superfluous”, arguing that requiring a man to seek the consent of his first wife before taking another wife is akin to blocking him from practicing polygamy.

“There is no woman in the world who would allow her husband to take a second wife,” Njoka told The Standard on phone.

According to Njoka, polygamy for an African man is “a right”.

“The Constitution should not even talk about polygamy. Over 90 per cent of men are polygamous,” Njoka said.

MPs opposing the amendment claimed that people get into marriages as monogamous relationships and argued that such unions should not be “hijacked” without the consent of the wife.

Taveta MP Naomi Shaban also said she supports the Bill and told fellow women that they should not fear giving consent based on fears over sharing of property.

“People do not have any reason to worry when their spouses come to inform them that they are going to get another wife. It is easier and more acceptable because they know that their matrimonial property is protected,” she told the House.

Njoka concurred, saying the issue of property should not be an important consideration. He argued that the issue of sharing of property is clearly defined in the Matrimonial Property Bill.

Among other provisions of the Marriage Bill are the procedures of objection in the event that there is opposition to two people getting married. It also sets out general principles for dealing with matrimonial disputes.

Nakuru East MP David Gikaria said he would support the Bill “for the benefit of my daughters whom I know one day will get married and they will be protected by this law once it comes into effect”.

Men who violate the consent clause are liable to a jail term of five years.

Original at http://www.standardmedia.co.ke/?article ... e-in-bill/ and Copyright © 2013 The Standard Group. Permission to use quotations from this article is granted subject to appropriate credit being given to http://www.standardmedia.co.ke as the source
 
Such a restriction would be against the creation ordinance of patriarchy. I hope they will not give in to that spirit of Jezebel.
 
JayJ: Which restriction aren't you in favor of? Permission must be given by first wife?

Their discussion is what the USA needs to have - for example health care benefits for second wife, etc. Let's watch where they end up and how they got there so we can learn from their successes & mistakes!
 
A brother in Kenya has told me the majority is against the bill so there is not much chance of it passing.

JAG: Yes, the requirement of the 1st wife's approval (5 yrs. in prison otherwise!) is what I had in mind.

The Creator established His Law as an intrinsic element of the creation; we live out of harmony with that to our own detriment. Man - natural man - is at enmity with God's order and wants *his* order instead.
 
It passed...

Nairobi, Kenya March 21, 2014 — Members of the National Assembly extended Thursday's sitting to pass controversial amendments to the Marriage Bill despite spirited opposition from female MPs. Male MPs ganged up to delete the clause that had required a husband in a customary marriage to seek consent from his wife before marrying a second wife.

MPs also deleted a clause that required a partner who had promised marriage to pay damages. Emotions ran high during the debate, with male MPs supporting the clause saying it could be used to extort money from men in the country.

MPs Aden Duale, Jakoyo Midiwo and Junet Mohammed said it was against tradition to seek consent to marry a second wife and claimed their female colleagues had an ulterior motive in trying to push for the clause. "I want my Christian brothers to read the Old Testament, King David and King Solomon never consulted anybody to marry a second wife," said Duale.

"When you marry an African woman, she must know the second one is on the way and a third wife... this is Africa," added Suna East MP Junet. Mumias East MP Benjamin Washiali told the House: "I am a son of the second wife of my father, if this Bill was in place, I would not be in this world."

"The reason why men are jittery is because these people want to take our wealth," Jakoyo stated. However, female MPs passionately opposed the deletion of the clause saying many families could be affected financially as a second wife might claim all the wealth after the demise of the husband.

"We know that men are afraid of women's tongues more than anything else, but at the end of the day if you are the man of the house, and you choose to bring on another party (and they may be two or three) I think it behooves you to be man enough to agree that your wife and family should know," Narok County Woman Representative Sopian Tuya said.

Nominated Bishop Robert Mutemi added: "In a marriage a man and wife are one and the same, so you must inform your wife when you are going to take a second wife."

The MPs also deleted a clause that had required a partner who had promised marriage to pay damages.

In deleting the amendment, the MPs said courting should be about love and not tied to monetary gains.

The debate was characterized by religious undertones and at one time the Leader of Majority Aden Duale threatened to walk out the House if his amendments were not carried.

He threatened to walk out of chamber after his amendment to scrap compulsory registration of marriages was defeated.

The Garissa Town MP had also proposed an amendment not to set the age of marriage as that would affect Islamic marriages, an amendment that was also rejected by the House.

During Thursday's extended sitting amendments to the Marriage Bill also ensured that people of the same sex do not get married in Kenya.

Justice and Legal Affairs Committee Chairman Samuel Chepkonga moved the amendment to the Bill to remove a clause that had recommended that marriage of people of any other faith and beliefs could also be recognized, a clause MPs said could be abused.

MPs have made it mandatory for those who want to stop a Christian marriage to put their reasons in writing despite opposition from other MPs that it might discriminate against Kenyans who don't know how to write but have valid reasons to stop the intended marriage.

http://allafrica.com/stories/201403210493.html
 
Well, they didn't quite pass "it" - i.e. that part of the bill which would have compelled men to get approval from their wife for polygyny was dropped.

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Nairobi: Kenya's parliament has passed a bill allowing men to marry as many women as they want, prompting a furious backlash from female lawmakers who stormed out, reports said on Friday.

The bill, which amended existing marriage legislation, was passed late on Thursday to formalise customary law about marrying more than one person.

The proposed bill had initially given a wife the right to veto the husband's choice, but male members of parliament overcame party divisions to push through a text that dropped this clause.
Kenya's President Uhuru Kenyatta must first ratify the polygamy bill before it takes effect.

Kenya's President Uhuru Kenyatta must first ratify the polygamy bill before it takes effect. Photo: Reuters

"When you marry an African woman, she must know the second one is on the way, and a third wife ... this is Africa," MP Junet Mohammed told the house, according to Nairobi's Capital FM.
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As in many parts of Africa, polygamy is common among traditional communities in Kenya, as well as among the country's Muslim community, which accounts for up to a fifth of the population.

"Any time a man comes home with a woman, that would be assumed to be a second or third wife," said Samuel Chepkong'a, chairman of the Justice and Legal Affairs Committee, the Daily Nation newspaper reported.

"Under customary law, women or wives you have married do not need to be told when you're coming home with a second or third wife. Any lady you bring home is your wife," he added.

Men fear 'women's tongues'

Female MPs stormed out of the late-night session in fury after a heated debate.

"We know that men are afraid of women's tongues more than anything else," female legislator Soipan Tuya told fellow MPs, according to Capital FM.

"But at the end of the day, if you are the man of the house, and you choose to bring on another party - and they may be two or three - I think it behoves you to be man enough to agree that your wife and family should know," she added.

A clause in which a partner who had promised marriage but then backed out of the wedding could face financial damages was also dropped, as male MPs argued it could have been used to extort cash.

They also argued that marriage should be based on love, and not have a financial cost placed upon it.

Parliamentary majority leader Aden Duale, a Muslim, said that men marrying more than one woman was part of the Islamic faith, but also highlighted Biblical stories to justify Christians not asking their wife before taking another.

"I want my Christian brothers to read the Old Testament - King David and King Solomon never consulted anybody to marry a second wife," Duale told the house.

Women are not allowed to marry more than one man in Kenya.

The bill must now pass before the president to be signed before becoming law.

AFP

http://www.canberratimes.com.au/world/k ... hvlhe.html

Read more: http://www.smh.com.au/world/kenyas-parl ... z2wrzBynJl
 
Soipan Tuya twists the issue a lot in her objection to what has been passed. She says a man shouldn't be afraid of women's tongues, and any woman has a right to know that her husband has taken a second wife. I cannot see how anyone could object to that. But it wasn't the actual question.

The real question is whether the first wife must give her consent, not just be informed of it. It's a question about who is in charge of the family: is the husband in charge and able to make all decisions, or is the family a democracy where major decisions must be agreed to by all? This is a very controversial issue, and when a government legislates on it this has implications for religious freedom. The amendment neatly sidesteps this problem to ensure the wording is compatible with any religious position. To stick with the original wording could have caused religious tensions in a diverse country, not very wise, so the men have chosen the path of peace, leaving the question of leadership in the home down to individual families rather than dictating this religious question by law. They have thus avoided potential tensions and conflict, and thereby benefited women who would have been ultimately harmed should that have occurred. Regardless of our individual views on that issue, the liberal legal position taken is prudent in the social context and any potential harm caused by the law is outweighed by the greater potential harm that it avoids. So logical arguments against it will eventually fall over, if all factors are considered - hence why Soipan misstates the issue to form an emotive reaction instead.
 
Thanx for this thread and the resulting discussion.
 
Brought to my attention by Clyde Pilkington (Patriarch Publishing House):

Women’s Group Applauds New Kenya Law Legalizing Polygamy

(CNN) -- A new law that went into effect in Kenya this week makes it legal for a man to marry as many women as he wants. And a leading women's group is applauding it.

President Uhuru Kenyatta signed the polygamy measure into law Tuesday, formally recognizing what has long been a cultural practice in the nation.

"We are happy with the law because finally all marriages are being treated equally."
Christine Ochieng, executive director of Federation of Women Lawyers.

"Marriage is the voluntary union of a man and a woman whether in a monogamous or polygamous union," Kenyatta said in a statement.

Polygamy already is a common fixture among many cultures in Kenya and in some other African countries. The bill, the group said, is long overdue because polygamous unions were previously not regarded as equal to regular marriages.

By Faith Karimi and Lillian Leposo, CNN
May 1, 2014 (Abridged)
http://www.cnn.com/2014/05/01/world/afr ... ygamy-law/

http://mad.ly/51f1a3?fe=1&pact=22269466928
 
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