One thing that most people fail to recognize in life is that it's not just a matter of who you've actually
met. What needs to be considered is all of those people whom one
hasn't met -- and most significantly considered should be all of the people one has crossed paths with but has not met. It's not simply happenstance that one hasn't met them; in most cases, one hasn't met them not only because one hasn't initiated contact with them but much more likely the situation that those people haven't wanted to meet
you, not because you're uninteresting or abominable or anything highly nefarious.
I know I'm probably making most people's minds fill up with silly string, but what I'm pointing to is that it's easy to become effectively invisible to the very people one claims one is looking for. That invisibility results from not being the type of person who the type of person one wants would want to engage with. People all the time make repeated claims about what they want or who they want -- and then claim there aren't people out there who meet their expectations -- but they are basically lying to
themselves about truly wanting that experience or that relationship, because they're insufficiently willing to do whatever it would actually take to get what they say they want. Translation: they don't want what they say they want as much as they just want to complain and garner pity.
@Smilesgalore, I'm not asserting that all of the above applies to you, but my guess is that it does to at least some extent. In your various posts these last couple days and especially in one above . . .
. . . you have described yourself as a young woman who has thoroughly absorbed the Kool-Aid of feminism and its related progressivist philosophies. In a sense, it's laudable when a young woman prepares herself to be independent as a back-up plan in case men let her down, but what that approach's most prominent feature is that it's a sure-fire self-fulfilling prophecy -- especially after a young woman invests the time and energy into getting a degree and/or establishing a career, because after that, to reverse course and become primarily a wife and husband is to not only (a) risk transforming the education/career expenses into a lost investment but (b) risk being labeled by her fellow feminists as a sell-out.
What also exists in statements like, "Relying on a man is not something I ever considered reasonable," is a PROFOUND inability to see the forest for the trees. The foundational truth in life is that women cannot escape the fact that they rely on men.
Every woman relies on men. Feminism hypnotizes many of us into believing that women can successfully pretend to be independent just because they can point to some individual accomplishment or, better yet, point to some individual failure on the part of some individual man -- but the entire world that women depend on to have anything other than a short, terrible, dangerous, disease-ridden life has been organized by men; includes a whole host of inventions that were 99% invented by men; is designed, developed and built by men; maintained and repaired by men; and predominantly
financed by men. The biggest magic trick in the last half a century is the one that has allowed men to forget the magnitude of the contributions they make to our world and persuaded those same men to let women get away with pretending that they don't even owe us their gratitude in return.
If you truly want to find a man you can rely on, your best bet is to refrain from dating those boys who are glad to pledge fealty to progressive feminist ideals and instead concentrate on becoming the type of woman that a man who knows his true worth in the world would recognize as the kind of woman he would want to have at his side. My prediction is that, if you do that, the more you do so, the more you'll start meeting men you can depend on who will want to interview you for the position of helpmeet.
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