Just wondering how some of you who have experience with PM went about bringing all of you together: how did you propose, how did you make the union "official" (that is, did you exchange vows, hold a ceremony, or just simply start living together?). Just curious, and noodling around with some ideas, thanks.
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"Sealing the Deal" (a question about details)
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we have never done it and have nothing but theories. 
but having said that: i would beg you to consider a covenant (in actuality a contract) that spells out the expectations of all parties.
the jewish marriages had "ketubahs" that were hand made in needlepoint and very beautiful. they became part of the decoration of the house.
having a ceremony/celebration is something that i would also think a good idea. let the women plan it together, it is part of the nurturing nature that they are blessed with.
but having said that: i would beg you to consider a covenant (in actuality a contract) that spells out the expectations of all parties.
the jewish marriages had "ketubahs" that were hand made in needlepoint and very beautiful. they became part of the decoration of the house.
having a ceremony/celebration is something that i would also think a good idea. let the women plan it together, it is part of the nurturing nature that they are blessed with.
I have no practical experience, either, but I would want the event to be special, sacred and marked on the calendar. She should get to feel the same way I did when I married my DH (dear husband). Even if it doesn't mean much to the man, I think the women find it important and an opportunity to further bond. She should get to have an anniversary with pictures and old love letters and dreams about the future. Like steve has said, what you would do in a monogamous situation, you should do in a poly situation. Probably a good idea to stick with until you are all living as one family.
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we saved up and went to Fiji .... can you say P-A-R-A-D-I-S-E ????? :lol: :lol:
But as other posters said, each woman has their own relationship with the man and it should be just as special as the first woman's.
But as other posters said, each woman has their own relationship with the man and it should be just as special as the first woman's.
IT'S OFFICIAL!!! Mr. Froggie and Ruth are engaged! The whole thing is just surreal--- in a fantastically supernaturally inspired way, of course. We have had family time, combined couples dates, and Ruth and Mr. Froggie have had some time for just the two of them, talking and growing the love they already had for each other from just a "siblings in Christ" love to a romantic love. Today we bought rings. Mr. Froggie and I were intending to just get one for Ruth, but she wanted to get one for Mr. Froggie, so she picked one out, and I "helped." Then she insisted that she get one for me that matches hers, so that's special. Then, when Mr. Froggie finished paying for Ruth's ring, he turned to her and said, "Okay, give me your finger;" and he put it on her. We all exchanged hugs in the jewelery store, and I was so excited I actually got a bit teary-eyed. 
So then the rest of the trip in town, I pointed out to them, "Okay, remember this day: it's the day you got engaged. Did you catch that? You're engaged!" Then at one point when we were alone, I asked Mr. Froggie, "So how does it feel to be engaged?" And he laughed and said, "Weird!" Then I got to throw the words "fiance/fiancee" around too. :lol:
We haven't set a date for the "big day" yet, but we have some planning to do. Right now they just want a day or two to comprehend the fact they are engaged. :lol: But we did talk briefly about the honeymoon, and Ruth insists she wants me to come with them at least for the first night.... I don't think so. I think they really just need that time all to themselves, and I will stay home and take care of the children. :shock:
I also asked them about what they want to do for a "ceremony," and they were completely blank. I suggested exchanging vows... they didn't seem to think it was all that necessary, but I helped them a little bit with the traditional "to love, honor, and cherish..." speel. They just nodded and looked at me like that was a no-brainer. :lol: And we will sip sparkling wine and eat cake.
Meanwhile, however.... I have asked them to "be good" and not go any further than hugging, kissing, cuddling, and holding hands until we've had our little ceremony. They promised to behave themselves. (Boy, I sure hope we can get it done soon--- this romance is budding super fast!) 
The whole thing is just surreal--- in a fantastically supernaturally inspired way, of course. We have had family time, combined couples dates, and Ruth and Mr. Froggie have had some time for just the two of them, talking and growing the love they already had for each other from just a "siblings in Christ" love to a romantic love. Today we bought rings. Mr. Froggie and I were intending to just get one for Ruth, but she wanted to get one for Mr. Froggie, so she picked one out, and I "helped." Then she insisted that she get one for me that matches hers, so that's special. Then, when Mr. Froggie finished paying for Ruth's ring, he turned to her and said, "Okay, give me your finger;" and he put it on her. We all exchanged hugs in the jewelery store, and I was so excited I actually got a bit teary-eyed. So then the rest of the trip in town, I pointed out to them, "Okay, remember this day: it's the day you got engaged. Did you catch that? You're engaged!" Then at one point when we were alone, I asked Mr. Froggie, "So how does it feel to be engaged?" And he laughed and said, "Weird!" Then I got to throw the words "fiance/fiancee" around too. :lol:
We haven't set a date for the "big day" yet, but we have some planning to do. Right now they just want a day or two to comprehend the fact they are engaged. :lol: But we did talk briefly about the honeymoon, and Ruth insists she wants me to come with them at least for the first night.... I don't think so. I think they really just need that time all to themselves, and I will stay home and take care of the children. :shock:
I also asked them about what they want to do for a "ceremony," and they were completely blank. I suggested exchanging vows... they didn't seem to think it was all that necessary, but I helped them a little bit with the traditional "to love, honor, and cherish..." speel. They just nodded and looked at me like that was a no-brainer. :lol: And we will sip sparkling wine and eat cake.
Meanwhile, however.... I have asked them to "be good" and not go any further than hugging, kissing, cuddling, and holding hands until we've had our little ceremony. They promised to behave themselves.
(Boy, I sure hope we can get it done soon--- this romance is budding super fast!) Yesterday, Mr. Froggie's new pinky ring slipped off his finger while he was in the shower! Don't worry, he rescued it just in time, and discovered it does indeed fit over his left ring finger afterall, right next to his first wedding band, though it is just a wee bit tight.
Last night at work, one person with a sharp eye asked him why he is wearing two wedding rings. He simply answered, "My wife gave it to me," and left it at that. Then another person who was present at the conversation quipped, "It's because he has TWO wives!" :shock: Oh, if they only knew.... :lol:
Don't worry, he rescued it just in time, and discovered it does indeed fit over his left ring finger afterall, right next to his first wedding band, though it is just a wee bit tight. Last night at work, one person with a sharp eye asked him why he is wearing two wedding rings. He simply answered, "My wife gave it to me," and left it at that. Then another person who was present at the conversation quipped, "It's because he has TWO wives!" :shock: Oh, if they only knew.... :lol: