I'm posting this on Family issues(been on the sidelines for a while).Time seems to not change our wish in extending our family: ),and now we're wondering does anyone have experience in introducing children to this change in family relations?Have you met resistance,acceptance or what?Is it insane to consider a sw when there are already 6 children?Any insight greatly appreciated,bless you all.
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Several young children and a new sw?
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Well ... If y'all and your six children are living under a bridge, now may not be the best time to court a sister wife. If you're financially secure, then who cares how many kids y'all got? And if they do, why would it matter to you?
Good luck and God bless you folks.
Good luck and God bless you folks.
motherof3boys
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What does SW mean? Sorry for a perhaps dumb question...
The younger the children, the easier it is. The older the children the harder it is. Unfortunately, I know from experience.
BTW: SW means sister wife. I really wish the christian poly community would come up with a term that didn't have such FLDS connotations
Katie
BTW: SW means sister wife. I really wish the christian poly community would come up with a term that didn't have such FLDS connotations
Katie
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sola scriptura said:I really wish the christian poly community would come up with a term that didn't have such FLDS connotations
"Co-wife" ???
motherof3boys
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Thank you so much for the response...I was lying in bed last night and went "0h my goodness, duh!" and knew it was sister wives. I had about an hours sleep the night before because my 4 year old has pinkeye and a hacking cold then I went on to work that morning and watched my best friends 8mth old baby girl for 5 hours. I clearly needed some sleep!
fairlight suggested:
But what substitute words will so succinctly convey what we mean? When one uses the term "wife," most people think (and rightly so) of someone who has gone down to the courthouse with her fiance and obtained permission from the government to marry, then they stood before a government-authorized official and said some "shoobie-doos."
When I think of the lovely Navajo Princess who is my legal wife (we did the legal thing many years before I discovered the truth about Biblical Family Values) I think of her as my lifetime covenant partner in serving the Lord.
If a man has more than one such partner, maybe they could call each other "sister-partners." Or maybe "covenant-sisters."
But back to one of AnnaH's original questions:
Seriously, though, there should be no problem in this. But the Church has taught false, non-Biblical expectations to the past zillion generations.
A little girl is taught that she will someday grow up and become the only wife of Prince Charming, who will then worship her as if she was a goddess. That false teaching came directly from the goddess-worshiping pagan religion of Greece, was adopted by the pagan Romans, was enshrined in Roman secular law, and sometime between AD 950-1100, Roman secular law about marriage was adopted by the Roman Catholic Church and declared to be "christian" with absolutely no Scriptural justification for doing so.
Since the RCC had near-absolute political power for a number of centuries, the false monogamy-only doctrine was made secular law by all countries under their political control. Since the US traces its roots back to those same countries, the various States, as well as the Federal Government, adopted monogamy-only laws. It is taught as the "norm" at every level of education - Head Start, preschool, K-12, College, Sunday School, most parents (at least, those who bother to teach their kids at home), etc.
So, as has been said already, it will be easier for the younger kids, but more difficult for the older, since they have been exposed to more years of false teaching than the younger kids.
And no, IMHO, it is not insane. It will be a challenge, though.
Since "husband," "wife," and "marriage" are words not found in the Hebrew and Greek of the Bible, maybe we should get away from using those three words in any form, even as in "sister-wife" or "co-wife." (See Dr. Allen's articles about the origin of the three words.)
But what substitute words will so succinctly convey what we mean? When one uses the term "wife," most people think (and rightly so) of someone who has gone down to the courthouse with her fiance and obtained permission from the government to marry, then they stood before a government-authorized official and said some "shoobie-doos."
When I think of the lovely Navajo Princess who is my legal wife (we did the legal thing many years before I discovered the truth about Biblical Family Values) I think of her as my lifetime covenant partner in serving the Lord.
If a man has more than one such partner, maybe they could call each other "sister-partners." Or maybe "covenant-sisters."
But back to one of AnnaH's original questions:
Isn't it a bit insane to have any children? :lol:
Seriously, though, there should be no problem in this. But the Church has taught false, non-Biblical expectations to the past zillion generations.
A little girl is taught that she will someday grow up and become the only wife of Prince Charming, who will then worship her as if she was a goddess. That false teaching came directly from the goddess-worshiping pagan religion of Greece, was adopted by the pagan Romans, was enshrined in Roman secular law, and sometime between AD 950-1100, Roman secular law about marriage was adopted by the Roman Catholic Church and declared to be "christian" with absolutely no Scriptural justification for doing so.
Since the RCC had near-absolute political power for a number of centuries, the false monogamy-only doctrine was made secular law by all countries under their political control. Since the US traces its roots back to those same countries, the various States, as well as the Federal Government, adopted monogamy-only laws. It is taught as the "norm" at every level of education - Head Start, preschool, K-12, College, Sunday School, most parents (at least, those who bother to teach their kids at home), etc.
So, as has been said already, it will be easier for the younger kids, but more difficult for the older, since they have been exposed to more years of false teaching than the younger kids.
And no, IMHO, it is not insane. It will be a challenge, though.
If you like you can go to this link/page:
http://www.biblicalfamilies.org/resources
In this page about half way down is a powerpoint presentation that discusses the very issues of terms. It is titled Polygyny and the Law.
As Dr. Marv noted:
In the presentation you can see the history of these terms, where they came from, how they have been used and how they indeed do differ from the actual biblical terms in the original language of the Bible. The Bible used a two word system not a single word system to describe the relationships. My man and my woman were the exact terms used by the biblical writers and by the Lord.
Too, when we get into husband, wife, and marriage we are actually using terms that are legal in nature in and of themselves. They were created by the government in the old/middle age English era and thus those terms reflect a different worldview than the biblical worldview. Plus in some places they are or almost are class protected terms and using them without the "license" can cause some problems. It is thus safer and even more precise to the literal renderings of Scripture to return to a two word system or something of the like.
Remember in the Song of Songs we find one of the most powerful love books known to human history and yet nowhere in that book do we find husband, wife, or marriage even as translated in the English Bible.
http://www.biblicalfamilies.org/resources
In this page about half way down is a powerpoint presentation that discusses the very issues of terms. It is titled Polygyny and the Law.
As Dr. Marv noted:
In the presentation you can see the history of these terms, where they came from, how they have been used and how they indeed do differ from the actual biblical terms in the original language of the Bible. The Bible used a two word system not a single word system to describe the relationships. My man and my woman were the exact terms used by the biblical writers and by the Lord.
Too, when we get into husband, wife, and marriage we are actually using terms that are legal in nature in and of themselves. They were created by the government in the old/middle age English era and thus those terms reflect a different worldview than the biblical worldview. Plus in some places they are or almost are class protected terms and using them without the "license" can cause some problems. It is thus safer and even more precise to the literal renderings of Scripture to return to a two word system or something of the like.
Remember in the Song of Songs we find one of the most powerful love books known to human history and yet nowhere in that book do we find husband, wife, or marriage even as translated in the English Bible.
Thank you for all your wise words and insight,I used the term 'sw' for want of a better word..Covenant sisters has a nice feel to it: ).And yes,people with a large number of children are probably a bit batty to begin with :lol: .I truly don't know where this road leads us but i'll follow God and my husband in this.