What is in polygyny for me?
I have heard this so often from women. They say, "I understand what He gets out of it, but what is in it for me as a wife? And why would a woman want to come into a family that already has a wife?"
After a lot of thought I have come to a few conclusions:
God created women as emotional creatures. Men, not so much. Men generally have a low tolerance for talk, emotions and other things that women seem to need. Another woman in the family can fill these needs in a very special, Godly way. We all know that "talk" can become "gripe" and "man bashing" but it can also be a way for women to learn from one another. The bible tells us that it can be wise to seek the counsel of others (as long as it is Godly.) The bible also tells us that older women are to instruct the younger women in how to love their husbands and care for their homes. The Proverbs 31 woman is a fantastic woman. She is also one that I personally will never be able to compare to. But imagine if you have a home with two or more wives, those wives can combine to become the "Proverbs 31 woman" in composite. That relieves us of stress of having to achieve that super woman status and the comfort of having a companion that will help us during difficult times and also who will comfort us in times of need. Just like Aaron held Moses' arms up during the battle, this woman would be our closest companion who will hold our arms up during the storms of life.
In all of us is a little Mary and Martha. I am more like Martha, but would love to be a little more like Mary. I am so driven by the pressures of the world to perform and make everything perfect that I rarely have time to sit with Mary at Christ's feet and just be with Him. But with a willing partner (sister-wife) each of us can contribute to the nuts and bolts of daily life, freeing all of us up to spend more time with our passions. I would love more time to enjoy the life I work so hard to achieve.
I have been walking this journey for 6 years now. I have gone through many different aspects of acceptance of why my hubby would choose to have more than one wife. We have made mistakes and had heartbreaks but through it all we have learned. And we have learned mostly that God is in all of it. He is shaping us every day and creating our lives in ways that we could never have imagined. I pray that every woman on this board will come to a deeper understanding of God's love through this journey.
Anyone have any other thoughts?
I have heard this so often from women. They say, "I understand what He gets out of it, but what is in it for me as a wife? And why would a woman want to come into a family that already has a wife?"
After a lot of thought I have come to a few conclusions:
God created women as emotional creatures. Men, not so much. Men generally have a low tolerance for talk, emotions and other things that women seem to need. Another woman in the family can fill these needs in a very special, Godly way. We all know that "talk" can become "gripe" and "man bashing" but it can also be a way for women to learn from one another. The bible tells us that it can be wise to seek the counsel of others (as long as it is Godly.) The bible also tells us that older women are to instruct the younger women in how to love their husbands and care for their homes. The Proverbs 31 woman is a fantastic woman. She is also one that I personally will never be able to compare to. But imagine if you have a home with two or more wives, those wives can combine to become the "Proverbs 31 woman" in composite. That relieves us of stress of having to achieve that super woman status and the comfort of having a companion that will help us during difficult times and also who will comfort us in times of need. Just like Aaron held Moses' arms up during the battle, this woman would be our closest companion who will hold our arms up during the storms of life.
In all of us is a little Mary and Martha. I am more like Martha, but would love to be a little more like Mary. I am so driven by the pressures of the world to perform and make everything perfect that I rarely have time to sit with Mary at Christ's feet and just be with Him. But with a willing partner (sister-wife) each of us can contribute to the nuts and bolts of daily life, freeing all of us up to spend more time with our passions. I would love more time to enjoy the life I work so hard to achieve.
I have been walking this journey for 6 years now. I have gone through many different aspects of acceptance of why my hubby would choose to have more than one wife. We have made mistakes and had heartbreaks but through it all we have learned. And we have learned mostly that God is in all of it. He is shaping us every day and creating our lives in ways that we could never have imagined. I pray that every woman on this board will come to a deeper understanding of God's love through this journey.
Anyone have any other thoughts?
