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When You Feel Like A Failure

DaPastor

DaPastor

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There are times that the pain that we may have experienced (or we are presntly experiencing) is so overwhelming that we just want to curl up under our blankets and fade away. We feel that there is no hope for us, and that we are unlovable. Today, you may feel like giving up! You may feel that you do not matter! You may feel that the world would be a better place without you! You may feel like you are the failure of all failures, the chief sinner of the world! You may feel like you have made so many poor choices that you are unredeemable! You may feel so rejected you feel so very all alone! You may feel like you do not have a friend in the world - even though many are around you! You may feel like you have cried a million tears.

I just want to say today that "God loves you with an everlasting love", and His plans for you are for good (though it does not seem that way right now). He desires to restore what the locust has eaten in your life, and just like Joseph, he desires to lift you up to the place that He has always planned for you - no matter how many times you have failed Him. Oh brother and oh sister, know this, you are loved completely. Today let go, turn your eyes fully back to the face of Jesus, the author and finisher of your faith, and you will see that He will come through - even if it seems like the midnight hour. May the presence of the everlasting God overwhelm you today and let you know just how much He really does love you! HE really does LOVE YOU!!! It is time to release the past and press on toward God's calling in your life. Blessings!
 
There are times that the pain that we may have experienced (or we are presntly experiencing) is so overwhelming that we just want to curl up under our blankets and fade away. We feel that there is no hope for us, and that we are unlovable. Today, you may feel like giving up! You may feel that you do not matter! You may feel that the world would be a better place without you! You may feel like you are the failure of all failures, the chief sinner of the world! You may feel like you have made so many poor choices that you are unredeemable! You may feel so rejected you feel so very all alone! You may feel like you do not have a friend in the world - even though many are around you! You may feel like you have cried a million tears.
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You took the words out of my mouth.

SweetLissa
 
We are all failures, Randy. We fail our friends, our family...we fail God, but that is a good thing because God uses those of us who are failures. If we never failed we would not be required to be dependent on God. If we were perfectly piously carved out of cream cheese, then we would not be able to minister to those who are hurting and are in the midst of a failure.

Many years ago, I was feeling particularly low about this very subject. I had just come back to Christ after years of not walking with the Lord. I was praying for God to "take me back."..and He did, but at the same time I was dealing with the consequences of some pretty big bad choices...I was pregnant and not married...and I had been arrested the week before for shoplifting! (My present friends at church find this very very hard to believe..lol) I knew that God had embraced me and welcomed me back to a relationship with Him, but not only was a receiving some harsh condemnation from others, but I was grieving because I knew that with all of my failures, He could not possibly use me. God brought along an elderly gentlemen...(a Catholic priest no less) who told me some very life giving words..he said that "God uses those the most who have fallen the farthest."

And I have found those words to be very true. God has used me. And I am so very grateful.
Thank you for bringing up this very important subject Randy. It has renewed in me a sense of gratitue to God for how far He will go to pursue His people.

With Much Love,
Love
 
Just wanted to say that your post touched me. Today was one of those days when I just felt "gloomy" and was questioning what my purpose is in this life and what am I supposed to be doing that I'm not doing? Thank you for that upbeat message.

Lacey Lee
 
DaPastor said:
There are times that the pain that we may have experienced (or we are presntly experiencing) is so overwhelming that we just want to curl up under our blankets and fade away. We feel that there is no hope for us, and that we are unlovable. Today, you may feel like giving up! You may feel that you do not matter! You may feel that the world would be a better place without you! You may feel like you are the failure of all failures, the chief sinner of the world! You may feel like you have made so many poor choices that you are unredeemable! You may feel so rejected you feel so very all alone! You may feel like you do not have a friend in the world - even though many are around you! You may feel like you have cried a million tears.
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Wow you described my life perfectly... Hoping someday I will be my old self again
 
This ol' redneck countryboy ain't into mushy stuff. :D But this I enjoyed reading and sometimes can relate to.
Thanks

Dairyfarmer
 
Tisn't how far you fall, Love. It's how high you BOUNCE that matters! :shock:
 
We are made to bounce, for sure, but sometimes we need someone to help breath life back into our deflated lives. This is one reason you and I exist, to place our arms around each other and say, "Hey, you can make it", and not give up on others after they have stumbled, sinned or failed terribly. Too many times we run from those who have fallen hard into sin. For some reason we seem to lack the attitude of Christ, that is, love, acceptance and forgiveness! We seem to actually blend more with the Pharisees than we do with the disciples. We find that we more easily see the sins of others rather than the broken spirit of the one sinning. Sure, we will willingly help those outside the body of Christ. Afterall, they do not understand what is truly right or wrong. However, if it is someone in the body of Christ, we will jump on them with a hammer and three nails. We reason, "They should have known better"! We forget that Scripture exhorts the spiritual to help restore the fallen with a spirit of gentleness. We forget that we are all fallen creatures, self-centered by nature, and hoping deep inside that there is someone who really loves us - inspite of our sin. If you are hurting, know that there are people here who do truly care. If you have sinned, know that we love you inspite of your sin. If you lack a friend, there are people here that truly do care for you. If you are weeping, we desire to weep with you. We truly want to be an extension of the hands of Christ to see the healing of the broken hearted.
 
Randy, this is probably the finest and most fundamental post that I have read anywhere, so far {I haven't read everything yet :-)}. This topic hits on the greatest opportunity that we have to show Christ to our brethren. A friend, now with the Lord, Calvin Hill shared with me the difficulties he had in the ministry after his wife divorced him. He said, "the Christian church is the only army in the world that shoots its own wounded". I don't know if this is original or not, but the principle is right on target. I do know that for me, it rested on understanding Gods love for me. In 1981 I fasted and prayed for 3 or 4 days, for understanding if God really cared about what was happening in my life. You would think a pastor would have a handle on that issue, but the standard, pat answers just seemed meaningless in the middle of trials. I needed something more tangible than textbook, popular themes. I received a blessing from God at that time that has helped me for the last 28 years. It was nothing specific to my immediate situation, but He showed me that it is His nature to be good and do good things for His children, no matter what it may look like at the time. Today I rest in my Lord's being exactly who He is. God IS LOVE!!! He has never and will never deviate from His nature. A dear friend repeats frequently, "God cannot, not be good to His children". Since God treats me that way, I can treat my brethren with the same grace, love and compassion that He does me. After all, I am their brother, not their parent and we are in this together. Every child of God needs the love of Gods family consistently.
Thank you for such a blessed post. I know it has been forged in the furnace of experience. Bless you, my brother.
 
Randy,

I understand your feeling, brother. I am the poster child for the annual failure telethon. How many times have I stumbled? How many times have I fallen? How many times have I cried out in darkness to a seemingly brass heaven, asking for the sweet mercy of release from the bonds of this flesh?

And yet, even in darkness, there is Light.

Failure is the crucible that the Lord uses to crush us, refine us, purify us, so that there may be nothing left but Him. Do we then seek failure? No....it seems to find us without any assistance on our part.

I have learned that failure is part of the journey....we learn from it, we grow from it, and we will continue to fail until that blessed day that we remove this temporary cloak of flesh, and put on the robes of righteous eternity.

Failure, therefore, makes us the humans that we are. Failure is the bitter root transformed by the sweetness of God's forgiveness. Failure becomes compassion, boldness, patience, hope....all the fruit of the Spirit.

Do not fear failure....do not run from it. Rather, embrace it. Hold it tight. Smother it with God's forgiveness.

God uses failure to make us more like Him.

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What if I stumble?
What if I fall?

Is this one for the people?
Is this one for the Lord?
Or do I simply serenade for things I must afford?
You can jumble them together, my conflict still remains
Holiness is calling, in the midst of courting fame

Cause I see the trust in their eyes
Though the sky is falling
They need Your love in their lives
Compromise is calling

CHORUS:
What if I stumble, what if I fall?
What if I lose my step and I make fools of us all?
Will the love continue when my walk becomes a crawl?
What if I stumble, and what if I fall?

What if I stumble, what if I fall?
You never turn in the heat of it all
What if I stumble, what if I fall?

Father please forgive me for I can not compose
The fear that lives within me
Or the rate at which it grows
If struggle has a purpose
On the narrow road you've carved
Why do I dread my trespasses will leave a deadly scar

Do they see the fear in my eyes?
Are they so revealing?
This time I cannot disguise
All the doubt I'm feeling

What if I stumble?
Everyone's got to crawl when you know that
You're up against a wall, it's about to fall
Everyone's got to crawl when you know that

What if I stumble?
Everyone's got to crawl when you know that
You're up against a wall, it's about to fall
Everyone's got to crawl when you know that

I hear You whispering my name [You say]
"My love for You will never change" [never change]

What if I stumble, what if I fall?
You never turn in the heat of it all
What if I stumble, what if I fall?
You are my comfort, and my God

Is this one for the people, is this one for the Lord?

----------------DC Talk
 
There is no doubt that our failures are meant to drive us to His cross, His mercy, and His forgiveness - His Amazing Love. Oh my God, thank you for your Amazing Love:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DMLH67y7C5E&feature=fvw

May we be sharers of His Amazing Love to everyone we meet. Knowing our own frailties, may we be those who commit to never beating up other believers who have fallen into a miry pit - no matter how deep that pit may be! The next one may be one of us! May we, with the hands of Christ always be ready to love those that others cannot - even if we are misunderstood as one condoning the wrongful action. It is time for us to learn how to practice Amazing Love.
 
Amen!

Thanks so much to all of you, who have shared your wise & compassionate thoughts regarding these very Truths!!!! We need to try with God's help to walk better in these Truths, reaching out to our brothers & sisters. Offering them a hand up in Christ & not a hand out of holier than thou condemnation. Therefore there is No condemnation for those of us in Christ Jesus! There is of course, a healthy/balanced dose of Godly Conviction at certain seasons of our lives. Lets all try to do our best to "Walk the Talk & Speak the Truth in Love," in Yeshua's version of True Godly Love, not in our fallen-human version of it. I know that I myself fail many times in these areas! ;) Thanks again to all, who have taken the time to share their heart in these areas with this topic.

Warm Wishes,
Faithful Servant
 
Thanks Doc for your sharing your heart and that song. I have heard that song many times, and it is a reminder of how much we really need our Savior
 
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