Awesome. The reality can be hard to argue against. But there are those who will continue to refuse to accept the truth so they'll attack the messenger.
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Handling a gender confused child.
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Because he wants a wife that values truth and will live "by the book," that son of ours chooses to see our family situation as a filter instead of a detriment or liability.
I like the way he thinks!
Filters are a good thing. Like using a sieve to filter wheat from chaff.
Lately I've been watching videos of people who jump from mountains with squirrel suits...
And I liken that to getting married in this life.
The skydiver is all in when he jumps. There is no turning back, no second thoughts, no do-overs. That moment when he jumps is one of those things that cannot be undone and the fact that he is willing to take that risk filters him from the many people who would never dare try such a thing.
In our fellowship there is a lot of pressure for a new wife (especially a plural) to have a baby. It's an outward sign of her inward commitment to her husband and family. And once she's pregnant and she's had a child then there is no turning back, no second thoughts, no do-overs. You're all in.
And it is precisely this kind of woman who is being filtered from this life. She can't commit. She is looking for a way out before she even gets started. She can't even allow herself to imagine that someone else would want what she has been taught to fear.
Is it all her fault? I'm going to say no. She's likely been surrounded by socially acceptable effeminate men all her life and she could never imagine committing to someone who doesn't inspire or command that kind of loyalty. <<< I relate to this.
It takes an extraordinary man to overcome this kind of thing and to show a woman like this that she can have a better life by trusting someone who has demonstrated that her trust will not be misplaced.
I pray she meets one someday.
Lately I've been watching videos of people who jump from mountains with squirrel suits...
And I liken that to getting married in this life.
The skydiver is all in when he jumps. There is no turning back, no second thoughts, no do-overs. That moment when he jumps is one of those things that cannot be undone and the fact that he is willing to take that risk filters him from the many people who would never dare try such a thing.
In our fellowship there is a lot of pressure for a new wife (especially a plural) to have a baby. It's an outward sign of her inward commitment to her husband and family. And once she's pregnant and she's had a child then there is no turning back, no second thoughts, no do-overs. You're all in.
And it is precisely this kind of woman who is being filtered from this life. She can't commit. She is looking for a way out before she even gets started. She can't even allow herself to imagine that someone else would want what she has been taught to fear.
Is it all her fault? I'm going to say no. She's likely been surrounded by socially acceptable effeminate men all her life and she could never imagine committing to someone who doesn't inspire or command that kind of loyalty. <<< I relate to this.
It takes an extraordinary man to overcome this kind of thing and to show a woman like this that she can have a better life by trusting someone who has demonstrated that her trust will not be misplaced.
I pray she meets one someday.
Her family was Mennonite many years ago when her they bought sheep from us. She's still Christian, but certainly fellowships with the more modern kind of gals and has adopted a more modern attitude and view.
She probably will marry, but with so many of the more modern Christian men lacking....ummm ....backbone? She may not end up with the right marriage dynamic or knowing how to build up her husband.
I have a cousin that just divorced after 4 unhappy years. These days the men aren't manly, and the women aren't submissive. Those women end up fighting the would be head of house for control.
Sad disasters abound.
It is unfair as things go but it always comes back to the men, doesn't it? If they fall short then it falls to the women to make up the difference and then things are no longer working according to God's plan. Women become the leaders and men the followers. It's just not the way it should be.