Ditto
Would ya'll want the same for your daughters at such a young age, if that's what they wanted? I'm not asking that to be a smartass, just genuinely curious because I hold an entirely different opinion and want to see it from another perspective.
Yes, my logical mind would want that for them if it was the right man.
I can genuinely say yes. One of my daughters started her family at 18. It was probably a year too late. Another one started hers around 19 and it was definitely 2 years too late.
Wow, I didn't even think either of you even had children that old lol I appreciate the answer.
Lol I think that explains perfectly my struggle as well when it comes to my niece. I appreciate the insight.
Those two daughters aren’t Moriah’s children although her oldest daughter is 21 and her middle daughter is 17 and is definitely ready to be running her own home and has been for several years, Ali though I persona think 16 is the bare minimum age a young woman should be getting married. I personally prefer an engagement around 16 and setting up house somewhere around 17; although long engagements also seem like a waste of time.
This is the anticipated issue we face with my husband's new father in law. She was a mother, very much thinking like a serious adult about life, and 25 years old.....BUT because of primarily the age difference, my husband is likely to be thought of as someone who abused his position as her boss, or manipulated her into a relationship with him. The biggest reason I believe this thinking is so prevalent is that people hear about the abnormal and abusive practices of particular religious groups that practice polygyny, yet rarely ever are aware of the healthy families that do two (or more) wife families right. Because the publicity goes to the abnormal, the average person's exposure to the whole concept is prejudiced and badly skewed.
Maybe it's because the person thinking that way has suspect motives for wanting to do the same.
Entirely possible. One does tend to judge by one's own standard. A fact that made me wonder when my grandpa was worried about us grandkids "getting into trouble" in our teens....what HE would have done at our age!Maybe it's because the person thinking that way has suspect motives for wanting to do the same.
Definitely a good point. However is has me curious, maybe people are more suspicious of his motives the second time around because they feel as though he's already married and being selfish or looking to replace/upgrade his current wife. This is a concern of many of the first wives when polygamy is brought up, so it's only a natural reaction for people on the outside looking in as well i'd assume.
I'm sure this is commonly felt and assumed, but I think this is just because of 2000 years of monogamy only making any other possibility look wrong.
This concern is very real and probably exists because 2000 years of forced monogamy has made it easy for men to avoid responsibility for their relationships. If a first wife leaves he still only has the responsibility of one. If a "Christian" man has an affair he's told he should repent and break off that relationship. He still only has one wife....he is forced by society to keep his relationship quantity at one legitimate relationship. Others are WRONG with this lense, and so a man wanting another must be messed up.
Yes, exactly. This reminds me, I was listening to a YouTuber yesterday, she claimed that Polygamy was abusive. Obviously there is abuse in Polygamy but there is also abuse in monogamy and in many other relationships. If her issue is with abuse then she needs to speak out about abuse in all forms, not just center in on Polygamy. I couldn't even finish listening to the video because it was so ridiculously biased.
People seem to think that if you are in polygamy it's because you were forced there. No woman would choose that, so they must've been forced to do so and that is abusive. So for some, the very idea that women are in polygamy is abusive. They don't think it's possible that we could actually choose it, and if we did, it's probably because we were brainwashed, which is more abuse. Obviously they're wrong, but that's the position they're starting from, so you can't get them to say anything good about polygamy at all.
That's exactly what she said, she also claimed that women in Polygamy were insecure lol. Seriously? How much more secure can you get than choosing to live plural marriage.
Sorry for commenting again but I wanted to express how much joining this forum has really opened my eyes to how often other Christians and modern churches do this to not only men but to everyone. All while completely ignoring what the Bible actually says.
When our family situation changed our single 23 year old son started bringing the subject up with those in his circle of friends in a strictly theological way. He was talking about it with a couple guys one night when some of the gals walked up and asked what they were talking about. He just said controversial stuff and would have left it at that, but one gal wanted to know (or at least thought she did)