There are some quality women who would really like be married, but are stuck in neutral going nowhere. For whatever reason, there aren't any guys pursuing them. I feel for these women. They might end up being "leftover", and never marrying, or marrying too late to bear children. It would be good if they at least knew that polygyny is a legitimate option for them.
My wife and I have a close friend that fits this category. She is twenty-nine years old, and would love to have gotten married years ago, and had a family by now. Her clock is ticking, and there don't seem to be any prospects on the horizon. Her friends have all gotten married, and are having children. Still, she waits.
She is shy, introverted, and "bookish".
Furthermore, she is of average appearance and is a little on the chubby side. She isn't morbidity obese or anything. She's is just heavy enough that most men will look past her, and not consider her as potential wife material.
Furthermore, she is a thoughtful, and knowledgeable Christian. She wouldn't want to date a non-Christian man. She wouldn't really want a shallow, superficial, or immature Christian man.
She has a pleasant, cheerful, and agreeable personality, but is serious minded, and isn't bubbly, chatty, or flirty.
As a result, there just aren't any guys pursuing her. In fact, she has never dated at all.
She didn't waste her twenties partying, fornicating, borrowing thousands of dollars to pursue worthless college degrees, or chasing a meaningless career. She is just shy, a "homebody", and a bit chubby.
I understand. Back when I was a single man in my twenties, I would have liked her as a friend, but not thought of her as girlfriend or wife material.
As an older and wiser man, with two decades of marriage under my belt, I see that she has a lot of excellent qualities, and would potentially make a very good wife.
Now, I see her beauty, and am delighted by her company every time my wife and I spend time with her.
1. She is intelligent and well read. I have intellectually stimulating conversations with her.
2. She loves children. She teaches children at church, and tutors children after her day job. She would love to homeschool any children that God might give her.
3. She likes to cook, bake, and would love to be a homemaker
4. She is very diligent. She works hard, and manages her time well
5. She is a talented artist
6. She understands that the Bible designates the husband as the head of the household, and She holds to Christ by faith.
7. She likes the rural country life
8. She is very meek, modest, and chaste
9. She is financially responsible, hates debt, and lives modestly below her means.
10. She has very beautiful blue eyes.
11. She has practical and marketable job skills. She could operate a home based business, or help her husband with his business.
12. While she isn't "a smoking hot babe", I certainly find her physically attractive and desirable.
13. She is young enough to bear several children if she marries relatively soon.
This young woman really seems to fit well with my wife and I. In spite of the 15+ year age difference, our personalities seem to mesh very well.
She generally goes out of her way to come to sit by my wife at church. We have had her to our house for dinner a number of times, and the hours fly by with all of us enjoying the company. A couple years ago, she stayed at our home for a couple days when her air conditioner was broken during hot weather. It was a delight to have her there, and she really seems to enjoy our company. She especially enjoys my wife's cooking (my wife is a great cook). She has also cooked for us (and is a good cook).
We know her parents, and like them very much. They also like us very well. (Though they would probably hate me if they knew that I thought about their daughter in the context of poly)
This young woman and my wife are dear friends and love each other very much. They are both kind and tender hearted. Neither would ever want to hurt anyone. They also have tons of common interests, and love spending time together.
My wife and I often pray that God would bring the right man for this woman. Some part of me wonders if it might ever be possible for me to be an answer to that prayer. (It would take a miracle from God)
My wife has often said she wished she had a sister, and that she longs to have deep female friendship. I think this friend could help meet that desire.
Also, remember that my wife and I are childless. It could be such a blessing if God were to bring children into our home via this woman. I really my family could bless her, and she could bless us.
I also think this woman thoroughly enjoys my company. I would guess that she also finds me attractive as a man.
(I would never want to do anything improper towards her, and she would never want to do anything improper with me)
Most of our social interactions have been with the three of us, but my wife and this gal have also done things together from time to time.
If polygyny was socially acceptable (it isn't), and if my wife was willing (she definitely is not), I would seriously consider pursuing this young woman.
I'm pretty sure this young woman has never thought about polygyny. I'm sure she doesn't know that it is lawful. She is smart enough, and Biblical serious enough that she would probably get it if someone explained it to her.
If she knew it to be lawful, and if my wife gave her blessing, I think she might consider it.
For now, I must focus on seeking Christ,. blessing my wife, and praying about the future.
My wife and I have a close friend that fits this category. She is twenty-nine years old, and would love to have gotten married years ago, and had a family by now. Her clock is ticking, and there don't seem to be any prospects on the horizon. Her friends have all gotten married, and are having children. Still, she waits.
She is shy, introverted, and "bookish".
Furthermore, she is of average appearance and is a little on the chubby side. She isn't morbidity obese or anything. She's is just heavy enough that most men will look past her, and not consider her as potential wife material.
Furthermore, she is a thoughtful, and knowledgeable Christian. She wouldn't want to date a non-Christian man. She wouldn't really want a shallow, superficial, or immature Christian man.
She has a pleasant, cheerful, and agreeable personality, but is serious minded, and isn't bubbly, chatty, or flirty.
As a result, there just aren't any guys pursuing her. In fact, she has never dated at all.
She didn't waste her twenties partying, fornicating, borrowing thousands of dollars to pursue worthless college degrees, or chasing a meaningless career. She is just shy, a "homebody", and a bit chubby.
I understand. Back when I was a single man in my twenties, I would have liked her as a friend, but not thought of her as girlfriend or wife material.
As an older and wiser man, with two decades of marriage under my belt, I see that she has a lot of excellent qualities, and would potentially make a very good wife.
Now, I see her beauty, and am delighted by her company every time my wife and I spend time with her.
1. She is intelligent and well read. I have intellectually stimulating conversations with her.
2. She loves children. She teaches children at church, and tutors children after her day job. She would love to homeschool any children that God might give her.
3. She likes to cook, bake, and would love to be a homemaker
4. She is very diligent. She works hard, and manages her time well
5. She is a talented artist
6. She understands that the Bible designates the husband as the head of the household, and She holds to Christ by faith.
7. She likes the rural country life
8. She is very meek, modest, and chaste
9. She is financially responsible, hates debt, and lives modestly below her means.
10. She has very beautiful blue eyes.
11. She has practical and marketable job skills. She could operate a home based business, or help her husband with his business.
12. While she isn't "a smoking hot babe", I certainly find her physically attractive and desirable.
13. She is young enough to bear several children if she marries relatively soon.
This young woman really seems to fit well with my wife and I. In spite of the 15+ year age difference, our personalities seem to mesh very well.
She generally goes out of her way to come to sit by my wife at church. We have had her to our house for dinner a number of times, and the hours fly by with all of us enjoying the company. A couple years ago, she stayed at our home for a couple days when her air conditioner was broken during hot weather. It was a delight to have her there, and she really seems to enjoy our company. She especially enjoys my wife's cooking (my wife is a great cook). She has also cooked for us (and is a good cook).
We know her parents, and like them very much. They also like us very well. (Though they would probably hate me if they knew that I thought about their daughter in the context of poly)
This young woman and my wife are dear friends and love each other very much. They are both kind and tender hearted. Neither would ever want to hurt anyone. They also have tons of common interests, and love spending time together.
My wife and I often pray that God would bring the right man for this woman. Some part of me wonders if it might ever be possible for me to be an answer to that prayer. (It would take a miracle from God)
My wife has often said she wished she had a sister, and that she longs to have deep female friendship. I think this friend could help meet that desire.
Also, remember that my wife and I are childless. It could be such a blessing if God were to bring children into our home via this woman. I really my family could bless her, and she could bless us.
I also think this woman thoroughly enjoys my company. I would guess that she also finds me attractive as a man.
(I would never want to do anything improper towards her, and she would never want to do anything improper with me)
Most of our social interactions have been with the three of us, but my wife and this gal have also done things together from time to time.
If polygyny was socially acceptable (it isn't), and if my wife was willing (she definitely is not), I would seriously consider pursuing this young woman.
I'm pretty sure this young woman has never thought about polygyny. I'm sure she doesn't know that it is lawful. She is smart enough, and Biblical serious enough that she would probably get it if someone explained it to her.
If she knew it to be lawful, and if my wife gave her blessing, I think she might consider it.
For now, I must focus on seeking Christ,. blessing my wife, and praying about the future.
... but seriously
