Hello Everyone,
I have been just reading through the forum threads for the past couple of days as an unregistered person and have gained so much insight and appreciation for all that I have learned through reading that I felt I had to register and say hello.
I am newly single at 34 after ending a three year relationship in January. I have never been married and I just began putting myself out there in the realm of dating or possible courtship again in just the past couple of months. I was actually looking for a monogamous relationship because that is where my experience lies but have not found anyone I have really been able to form a connection with. A friend of mine saw this and wanted to help and so proceeded to post an ad on my behalf on an online dating site. One of the people that replied to the ad was a man who was interested in a sister wife to get to know and possibly join their family. My friend knew I was pretty open-minded but wasn't sure if I would be interested in this particular arrangement but sent their reply on to me anyway.
I didn't know much about poly families or relationships other than what I have seen through the show Sister Wives and documentaries on the subject but being open-minded I responded to the reply and as I began speaking with the man and his wife I begin to learn that they were genuinely good people and that we had a lot in common. I also learned that they have been married for 20 years and that their reasoning for a poly lifestyle was not religious based but was actually an idea that the wife presented because she could no longer have children and they had always wanted a large family. She also liked the idea of a sister wife for the sake of a built-in friendship that comes with the sister wife relationship. After long discussions he agreed it was a good thing too and they decided to look for a potential sister wife.
After learning about poly relationships only through television I wasn't sure what to expect or if this was really for me but as I mentioned I am open-minded and the more I got to know them, the more I wanted to know more about them. I made my first visit to see the family last weekend. Although they live in a different state they live within a few hours driving distance so it is great for being able to build a relationship such as this so we can have more frequent interactions.
I wasn't sure what to expect during my visit but it was actually great. We got along better than any of us could have imagined and their two children have also really taken to me as well and have since asked when I will be returning for the next visit. The two children are very open to the idea; one is 6 and he likes the idea of having two mommies and since I have visited he has asked many times if that will be me because he likes me so much. The other child is 16. She is very open-minded to the idea and says she is perfectly okay with it. She said she actually hopes I can loosen her mom up a bit and help her to have more fun and to bring more fun to the family because I am a different age than their parents (I am 34 and they are in their early 40's). I have been told that she also likes the idea of me joining the family already and also asks when I will be visiting again.
The husband and I get along really well and have a lot in common and are enjoying getting to know each other better. The wife and I also are very much enjoying each other and have many things in common. They say I seem to balance them out because there are a lot of things that she and I are interested in that he is not and many things that I know that I could teach her and many things that she knows that she could teach me. There are also many things that he and I have in common that she and he do not. They also say that they really enjoyed my time there and it seemed like I brought a "calm" to the entire family. They are looking forward to getting to know me better and spending more time with me with the prospect of my joining their family.
I must admit I am also looking forward to spending more time with them and getting to know them more as well. I'm still not certain how I feel about possibly being part of a plural marriage but I am open to exploring if this is what God would have for my life. There are a million questions I have, and a million thoughts running through my mind because this is so very different from what I was expecting and what I thought I was looking for and would be taking life as I know it and turning it completely upside down. I need to learn more about the family and the lifestyle before making any major decisions and need to pray about it because of not only those factors but also because although this family is great, they do not share the same faith as I do (I am a Christian and they do not really practice any active faith although they said they really don't know why and are also open to all of the children choosing whatever faith they want).
It is a lot to take in at the moment so I am taking it day-by-day and am glad that I have had your posts to learn more. I will be leaving this afternoon for my second visit with this family and I am nervously excited to see where this journey will go.
Thanks for taking the time to read my story and for being such a help so far through your posts. I look forward to learning more about all of you and your journeys through this site.
I have been just reading through the forum threads for the past couple of days as an unregistered person and have gained so much insight and appreciation for all that I have learned through reading that I felt I had to register and say hello.
I am newly single at 34 after ending a three year relationship in January. I have never been married and I just began putting myself out there in the realm of dating or possible courtship again in just the past couple of months. I was actually looking for a monogamous relationship because that is where my experience lies but have not found anyone I have really been able to form a connection with. A friend of mine saw this and wanted to help and so proceeded to post an ad on my behalf on an online dating site. One of the people that replied to the ad was a man who was interested in a sister wife to get to know and possibly join their family. My friend knew I was pretty open-minded but wasn't sure if I would be interested in this particular arrangement but sent their reply on to me anyway.
I didn't know much about poly families or relationships other than what I have seen through the show Sister Wives and documentaries on the subject but being open-minded I responded to the reply and as I began speaking with the man and his wife I begin to learn that they were genuinely good people and that we had a lot in common. I also learned that they have been married for 20 years and that their reasoning for a poly lifestyle was not religious based but was actually an idea that the wife presented because she could no longer have children and they had always wanted a large family. She also liked the idea of a sister wife for the sake of a built-in friendship that comes with the sister wife relationship. After long discussions he agreed it was a good thing too and they decided to look for a potential sister wife.
After learning about poly relationships only through television I wasn't sure what to expect or if this was really for me but as I mentioned I am open-minded and the more I got to know them, the more I wanted to know more about them. I made my first visit to see the family last weekend. Although they live in a different state they live within a few hours driving distance so it is great for being able to build a relationship such as this so we can have more frequent interactions.
I wasn't sure what to expect during my visit but it was actually great. We got along better than any of us could have imagined and their two children have also really taken to me as well and have since asked when I will be returning for the next visit. The two children are very open to the idea; one is 6 and he likes the idea of having two mommies and since I have visited he has asked many times if that will be me because he likes me so much. The other child is 16. She is very open-minded to the idea and says she is perfectly okay with it. She said she actually hopes I can loosen her mom up a bit and help her to have more fun and to bring more fun to the family because I am a different age than their parents (I am 34 and they are in their early 40's). I have been told that she also likes the idea of me joining the family already and also asks when I will be visiting again.
The husband and I get along really well and have a lot in common and are enjoying getting to know each other better. The wife and I also are very much enjoying each other and have many things in common. They say I seem to balance them out because there are a lot of things that she and I are interested in that he is not and many things that I know that I could teach her and many things that she knows that she could teach me. There are also many things that he and I have in common that she and he do not. They also say that they really enjoyed my time there and it seemed like I brought a "calm" to the entire family. They are looking forward to getting to know me better and spending more time with me with the prospect of my joining their family.
I must admit I am also looking forward to spending more time with them and getting to know them more as well. I'm still not certain how I feel about possibly being part of a plural marriage but I am open to exploring if this is what God would have for my life. There are a million questions I have, and a million thoughts running through my mind because this is so very different from what I was expecting and what I thought I was looking for and would be taking life as I know it and turning it completely upside down. I need to learn more about the family and the lifestyle before making any major decisions and need to pray about it because of not only those factors but also because although this family is great, they do not share the same faith as I do (I am a Christian and they do not really practice any active faith although they said they really don't know why and are also open to all of the children choosing whatever faith they want).
It is a lot to take in at the moment so I am taking it day-by-day and am glad that I have had your posts to learn more. I will be leaving this afternoon for my second visit with this family and I am nervously excited to see where this journey will go.
Thanks for taking the time to read my story and for being such a help so far through your posts. I look forward to learning more about all of you and your journeys through this site.
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