Awesome, @FollowingHim!
And there's the line, although it's probably really just "Keep your hands and feet and everything else to yourself." It hasn't stopped most of them from crossing that line, but I taught all my children what I believe to be the case: kissing is most definitely sex. We can't all get away with being Bill Clinton, but boy do we try! Defining sex down to only being when a penis is inside a vagina (or an anus); some I know don't even count it as sex if a rubber is used. But the truth we all know inside us is that petting is definitely sex. When we engage in it, we are very purposefully encouraging the exact type of arousal designed by our God to lead us to be fruitful and multiply, so when it comes down to it the only fully appropriate time to engage in such behavior is when the creation of permanent commitment is already behind you.
I would further emphasize that by stating that, if one has never experienced a sexual episode one fully intended before it got going to end something short of risking pregnancy that one just didn't have the wherewithal to hold back from, then one has seriously missed out on one of life's greatest pleasures. But that means that, in order to do the big compromise of "only going so far," one has to learn to suppress one's natural impulses in a way that develops self-repression habits that are perhaps so hard to break one never gets one's full functioning back.
If kissing isn't sex, then one is wasting one's time -- or one may as well be kissing one's great-grandmother.
I would probably have a different take on that, because there's real value in being able to delay gratification, and there's also real value in being able to fully appreciate one's profession. Personally, I don't care if my (male or female) general practitioner or proctologist fantasizes about ravishing me (at least he'd be more likely to be less rough than some of the people I've had to endure -- I'd rather have a prohibition against proctologists with big thumbs, for that matter).
I tend to agree with you, but I was wanting to know what @Mojo thinks, and my question was inspired solely due to his use of "repeated" in the phrase. I have had friends who adhere to the Greco-Roman sensibility regarding homosexual behavior: as long as they have sex with their wives more often and have a greater desire for male-female sex than male-male sex, they believe it is entirely permissible for them to occasionally engage in such fun with other males, the younger the better.
Some of this is hopelessly tied up in the matter of unraveling the knots that Constantine and the Roman Church inserted when they sewed together Christianity and paganism.
This reminds me of a Christian sex ed talk that I watched as a teenager, where the lady made a great point. She said that everyone wanted to know where the line was (in terms of what level of petting of a girl/boyfriend would be ok etc). She said something like "I'm not going to tell you the line. You all just want to know where the line is so you can go right up to the line on the first date, and then having gone there already you'll end up on the other side." Her concluding advice was intentionally simply "Keep your pants on".
And there's the line, although it's probably really just "Keep your hands and feet and everything else to yourself." It hasn't stopped most of them from crossing that line, but I taught all my children what I believe to be the case: kissing is most definitely sex. We can't all get away with being Bill Clinton, but boy do we try! Defining sex down to only being when a penis is inside a vagina (or an anus); some I know don't even count it as sex if a rubber is used. But the truth we all know inside us is that petting is definitely sex. When we engage in it, we are very purposefully encouraging the exact type of arousal designed by our God to lead us to be fruitful and multiply, so when it comes down to it the only fully appropriate time to engage in such behavior is when the creation of permanent commitment is already behind you.
I would further emphasize that by stating that, if one has never experienced a sexual episode one fully intended before it got going to end something short of risking pregnancy that one just didn't have the wherewithal to hold back from, then one has seriously missed out on one of life's greatest pleasures. But that means that, in order to do the big compromise of "only going so far," one has to learn to suppress one's natural impulses in a way that develops self-repression habits that are perhaps so hard to break one never gets one's full functioning back.
If kissing isn't sex, then one is wasting one's time -- or one may as well be kissing one's great-grandmother.
It's fine to conduct a medical examination of another guy's penis, but if while doing it you feel the temptation to "examine" it with your mouth or anus, you need another job.
I would probably have a different take on that, because there's real value in being able to delay gratification, and there's also real value in being able to fully appreciate one's profession. Personally, I don't care if my (male or female) general practitioner or proctologist fantasizes about ravishing me (at least he'd be more likely to be less rough than some of the people I've had to endure -- I'd rather have a prohibition against proctologists with big thumbs, for that matter).
c) Can't see any number mentioned in scripture, so by default one entry to the forbidden zone is the line.
I tend to agree with you, but I was wanting to know what @Mojo thinks, and my question was inspired solely due to his use of "repeated" in the phrase. I have had friends who adhere to the Greco-Roman sensibility regarding homosexual behavior: as long as they have sex with their wives more often and have a greater desire for male-female sex than male-male sex, they believe it is entirely permissible for them to occasionally engage in such fun with other males, the younger the better.
Some of this is hopelessly tied up in the matter of unraveling the knots that Constantine and the Roman Church inserted when they sewed together Christianity and paganism.