What I have observed over the 6 going on 7 years is many would like a second or third wife. I have not seen it happen successfully very often. Why is that? Is it because there is to much world in the woman? Because she is too liberated? Because she has been broken from life? Is it because she is so desperate to find love that she accepts the first man to ask. What about men, do the single men want more than one wife so badly that they don’t take the time to get to know her, they don’t seek His face in the decisions. Do they want to prove they are a man of worth my marrying as man as possible before learning how to take care of the first one. Sometimes they need to learn to be a godly man before ever having the first one.
When I first met the BibFam group a few ladies accused me of Family hoping. I was hurt and bewildered by this statement. My initial experience was that I was a single woman learning about this new understanding of what a Biblical marriage was. When the men who were looking to add on to their family found out a single woman was at the camp there were many who wanted to talk to me. I was overwhelmed to say the least. I didn’t and at times still don’t know if I talk to someone even just saying Hi, is that marking me as off limits from any man talking to me? Does it make me appear as a tease or flirt? I had a woman ask me why I wanted to have another woman’s husband and one who actually called me a home wrecker! And that was at a family retreat. I don’t share this to shed bad light on a great retreat. This way of life is not the way of western culture and women are not taught the Biblical values of being a godly wife in their father’s homes. We are taught that we have to do and be all. We are taught that patriarchy is abusive and demeaning to women. Many men are taught they must exert power and control over their wife to bend her to their will. Those are ALL false teachings the world has taught us. If we want happy healthy families we need to teach the single people how to be the way God created us to be. So they can join a family and build happy Biblical Marriages.
I would love to help with this if you deem me worthy. I think that there are many in this group that could teach a subject or two. Train them up in the way…. Proverbs 22:6 we have to be instructed. I hope this helps shed light on some of what a single woman and some single men may need a little something extra.
