Balance is an allusion, so I’ve been told.
Worry more about priorities and keeping things (and people) decently and in order. (I’m not teaching a doctrine, this verse helps me reevaluate my time, my family, and me when I’m dealing with overwhelm).
One thing we did was put our kids to bed at 7:00/7:30 p.m. most nights. This gave my husband and I time to ‘be married’ and it not be midnight before we could have a complete conversation or have fun snuggling on the couch. There’s such a pull to be full on Mom and be distracted from your man, but arranging your day to revolve around him and his work/time schedule will make a difference. (Also, YOU don’t have to be the source of their entertainment.). When my hubby came home from work, our time was his. So I tried to have three must important things done first thing in the morning. It makes it hard to keep up on chores and school, but those things can get caught up on or dismissed for real life. Something I see that saddens me is, when the children start showing up the husband is neglected or put to the back burner. Don’t let that happen. Simply evaluate your day and what or who is causing issues.
For me, time in the evening was such a struggle, I was wore out, kids were on my last nerve...I worked on that issue and it made a huge difference, then worked on other things- I made dinner at lunchtime. That was a game changer- the kitchen was cleaned up and ready for my husband to walk into a no mess situation, I used my highest point of energy to do what I didn’t want to do later. Kids can wash the dishes after the meal because the dishes were then minimal...
gotta go for now.
