Dear Inquisitive One,
I am having a bit of a problem here with your reasoning to "control" the situation with your wife and her desire for you to not look at the nudity pictures, and here is why:
1. It is very, very rare that nude pictures of women are those of some average- looking, over-weight women. You say they are beautiful, so I can only assume here that you are correct...they are most likely very beautiful...
2. The Bible states in I Peter 3:7-8, "Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:" I do not see your attitude and defensiveness abiding with scripture here. Is your stubbornness in refusing to consider her request based on selflessness, dwelling with her according to knowledge and giving her honour as the weaker vessel? There is a judgment stated here as well...if you do not abide by I Peter 3:7-8...guess what? Oh, actually no guessing here even needed because it is clearly spelled out stating, "...that your prayers be not hindered..." I think the Lord was pretty clear on this point.
3. I don't know if you really get why your wife is opposed to the nudity pictures. I don't know your wife and if she has voiced to you why she does not want you to continue with this habit. But, from a woman's perspective (and I would venture to say from MOST women’s perspectives), by you pushing your right to do whatever it is you think is right, in this case, soft porn, you are causing your wife a number of problems: a) You are building mistrust, as she most likely sees your activity in this as a wandering eye (not poly related, but rather, dissatisfaction with her). b) She is most likely feeling very self-conscious and insecure, especially during times of intimacy. c) She is most likely thinking that it is the nude women you are picturing in your head while being intimate with her and that comparison alone will shut down your wife’s heart and vulnerability toward you. Points a-c are just some of the thoughts women have to contend with if their husband is looking at pictures or watching videos of pornography of any kind.
4. Let me ask you this…where are you getting the nude pictures of these women? Are they from magazines like Hustler or Playboy? Or are they directly off the internet? The magazines are resources for still-life pornography and their very purpose is for sexual arousal. If magazines are your source, how are you able to skip through all the other photos and articles without them getting into your memory? If you close your eyes until you get to the “just nude” pictures, I would have to call bull pucky, since you have to look to find the ones that qualify as just harmless nudity of beautiful women. If your resource in finding nude women is through watching videos, that also means you are skimming through God only knows what to find these “suitable” pictures you consider to be no big deal, as they are just beautiful women you are admiring, right?…seriously??? I “seriously” doubt you are being honest with yourself or your wife.
5. I have a friend who found out her husband was getting on porn sites and also found magazines he had hid from her. It nearly destroyed their marriage. She told me that prior to discovering this about her husband; they had been talking about having a child. She told me that there was no way she would bring a child into this world and their household with him looking at any kind of pornography. She told me how devastating it was when they were intimate, because all she could think of was how her husband was probably fantasizing about all the women he had looked at and how her body self-esteem and insecurity due to comparison was just too much for her to handle. She shared with me that having a child was off the table because there was no way she wanted her child exposed to porn being acceptable in their home of any sort and with the possibility that once he/she was old enough and was able to surf the internet, it was very likely it would bring up a link or saved picture that would put that child in one bad situation or another, i.e. he/she would look and never tell they found it out of shame and curiosity, and also, the shock it could cause discovering that one of her/his parents were looking at that stuff in the first place, to name just a few repercussions.
6. Once the damage has been done to your wife’s self-image, security, and feelings that you are not satisfied with her, how do you purpose ever restoring oneness with her? Helping your wife to become secure in your love is only one step toward her accepting a lifestyle of plural marriage. By looking at the pictures of beautiful naked women, you may very well discover she will have a much more difficult time with any sisterwife, because you have laid a foundational stone in your marriage that you aren’t satisfied with her. So, in her mind, she may possibly think you are adding women to your repertoire as a way of replacing your dissatisfaction with her with someone who is more satisfying to you.
7. Seriously, Inquisitive One, the whole thing is likened to watching a horror movie. Once you have watched it, it is inside your head; even the parts you tried to close your eyes to but caught a glimpse of anyway. Now that your wife is aware of your “I have the right to’s,” you have pretty much opened Pandora’s Box. I really wish you had gotten some advice and help with this BEFORE you opened this can of worms with your wife. Now that she knows you care more about what you have the “right to,” than her, that judgment stick may be one she will never be able to get past, even if she says she has…trust is broken…your defensiveness and demand that you can do whatever you want and you have the right to do so…speaks volumes to her of what she most likely sees as questionable integrity.
Maybe, just maybe, you might seriously want to consider all this and pray that the Lord heal this situation between you and your wife, lest the enemy uses it to divide and conquer for his satisfaction.
Also, maybe some of the women here on the board could expand on their viewpoints of how they would hypothetically feel if this was happening to them and their husbands. It would be interesting to start an anonymous poll of the ladies on all these points. Hmmmmm…That’s a thought.
I pray God’s will be done here and that His mercy and grace will prevail in your relationship with your wife.
Sincerely,
Deborah
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