This is a really great question! I have struggled with this question myself. I do not think there is a right answer to this as there are so many different factors in each family. For example something that one might consider a weakness or fault in a man might be something that is no big deal or is even endearing to another lady, depends what it is of course! Also the lady might not listen to you and just resent you for saying it!
Once I realize something new(that I consider a less than desirable trait in my eyes) about my husband, I have thought "hey, she could have warned me about this!!" and then I think that it would have been a little wierd although I know I would have appreciated the heads up. She says it was not her place. I remember when I first came to live with the family and she would tell me neutral or even positive things about him (like his tastes in food, habits, etc.) and I woud think it was a little impertinant like "Oh, she thinks she is the hubby
expert, does she?" hahahaha :lol: my own insecurities came out and also a little jealousy about the length of their relationship! See, the whole thing is so hard and emotional. It always is when girls are involved!!! (see what this family has gone through with me!
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I think if you are a very diplomatic person who knows how to rub people the right way then go for it. If not, then feel her out first-for example you might say, "Do you like mashed potatoes" if she makes a face then don't say that it is hubbies favorite food!
at least not yet. She will come to that realization soon enough and have to deal with it. If she finds out on her own she may feel empowered because she is going through her own process of getting to know her own husband, see? If it is something MAJOR that you think she should know then going to hubby and telling him about your worries about what she should know is best. After all he is responsible for his marriage with her ultimately.
