Good morning Sweetlissa,
Thanks again so much for being such an open & willing vessel of Godly wisdom through the sharing of your own poly journey with your family!
It's such a blessing to have these added insights into the poly life. It helps me to understand what all is involved in following Yeshua's will & plan for our family, if pm is what He calls us too. It still seems to be allot to fully wrap my mind & heart around at times, but then I do experience times of Peace & Excitement of what the Lord might have planned for us!
So moving along here, just curious as to weather or not both your & T's family know that you're all living in a poly marriage/family? You had shared about the beginning of your poly life and getting to know one another, and spoke of shared duties during the holidays. Did the family members realize or know what was happening at that point, that you all had joined or were in the process of joining together as one family? How did that go, or is it safe to assume that whole thing is still a work in progress?!
As our lives are such a work in progress, a learning journey anyways!
I'd like to know how your dh felt and handled the beginning of your poly life. Did he share times of mixed feelings, confusion or concern about the whole process & if pm was a "calling from God to do so?" I always think about my dh's feelings/concerns, if Yeshua ever does convict & confirm to us both to pursue pm. As I've shared in the past, my dh has conflicts within his soul as to weather or not it would be a form of cheating on me or possible sin. He goes back & forth with all of this. His love & devotion to me and our kiddos is so sweet & strong, and I so value and love that in him! That devotion is what helps me to be reassured that his love & devotion would remain secure if Yeshua does lead us to pm. But dh worries what will happen to our relationship if we do have a sw, he worries how he can emotionally & financially handle a poly family. Which I'm glad these are concerns of his, as he doesn't take this lightly, realizing what a huge effect for better or worse that the poly life could have on our family for generations to come!
If pm is something that Yeshua calls us to in the future, I would like to be involved in the whole process. As much as dh would feel comfortable with my input, thoughts & ideas. Wouldn't you agree that open communication and honesty are a key factor here, especially in the beginning stages of pm? Dh has also shared that he wouldn't feel comfortable without my input or without us being in agreement with the whole thing. We've discussed different topics/issues that could come up, and have agreed that we'd like for me to be able to meet the possible sw right from the beginning. In doing so, giving us time to know one another & develop a friendship, level of respect & trust first and foremost. Sort of like "putting all of our cards on the table," and learning what everyone's intentions, hopes & dreams are, etc. Dh has also expressed a desire for me to be present in the beginning stages of getting to know each other, and not wanting to go on any dates per say alone right away.
So what about it ladies? What have your experiences been like in the beginning of your poly journys? What did or didn't work for your families? Any shared testimonies/experiences or "what not to do list," would be greatly appreciated!
Take care all, as I look forward to gleaning new Godly insights with this topic. Enjoy your week ahead & go forth in His Name, being a blessing to others and, in doing so being blessed along the way!
Faithful Servant
