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RealmUncertain

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So I think it is settle for me that the Bible allows for polygynous marriages.
But knowing its allowed versus actually succeeding at it is a whole different ball game. I think the knowledge is freeing, but let be honest the universal testimony of almost everyone is that marriage is a very difficult task. Managing one marriage is monumental not to speak of more than 1.

Are there any people who have actually succeeded at this for a few years and have time to offer mentorship on marriage.
Not necessarily Polygyny but proper Biblical family. I have learnt a lot about marriage and family my whole life but usually from people who am thinking in my mind I don't want my marriage to look like theirs, or in recent years am realizing the advise is almost exactly opposite from what's in the Bible leaving you only the option to discard the Bible.

So what the best way to get good mentorship on Biblical marriage from people who have had reasonable success in this area.
I know it's a lot to ask as they are probably spending the time on their family. But perhaps there is someone out there able and willing to provide the example.
 
RealmUncertain said:
So I think it is settle for me that the Bible allows for polygynous marriages.
But knowing its allowed versus actually succeeding at it is a whole different ball game. I think the knowledge is freeing, but let be honest the universal testimony of almost everyone is that marriage is a very difficult task. Managing one marriage is monumental not to speak of more than 1.

Are there any people who have actually succeeded at this for a few years and have time to offer mentorship on marriage.
Not necessarily Polygyny but proper Biblical family. I have learnt a lot about marriage and family my whole life but usually from people who am thinking in my mind I don't want my marriage to look like theirs, or in recent years am realizing the advise is almost exactly opposite from what's in the Bible leaving you only the option to discard the Bible.

So what the best way to get good mentorship on Biblical marriage from people who have had reasonable success in this area.
I know it's a lot to ask as they are probably spending the time on their family. But perhaps there is someone out there able and willing to provide the example.
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Hi, and welcome to about the only place online where you might find such answers.

RealmUncertain said:
But knowing its allowed versus actually succeeding at it is a whole different ball game.
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You are are correct, however only in as much as you learn about anything new. Knowing you are allowed to get your pilots licence verses actually becoming a successful captain of a 747 is just as much a whole different ball game. Success comes to those who persevere and do the hard work.

RealmUncertain said:
Are there any people who have actually succeeded at this for a few years and have time to offer mentorship on marriage.
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You are on the right track. Proverbs 13:20, He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will be destroyed. Stick around the forum, build some contacts, and go to some retreats where you can walk with the wise men. Best wishes for your journey.
 
It says you are honest and didn't damage accepted the scripture, rather you accepted plural marriage as biblical.
You were already where most of us were before polygyny looking at the marriages of others and not wanting to end up where they seem to be. My husband and I did that many years ago. We looked and saw very few still married, and some of those not modeling right relationships. I have an aunt I love dearly, but she controls her husband with her pretended superior spirituality, and the whole family is impacted by this.
As the saying goes, God doesn't call the equipped, He equips the called. It has been a few years since my husband married his second. All of us have divorced parents....and we are working our way through life together.
It is crazy in a way how most who marry expect to succeed, in spite of the failures of parents and friends....but then who would ever attempt what they did not believe was possible?
I found a couple resources helpful in understanding the differences between feminine nature and masculine nature. The differences in how we think and process are not insignificant, they are SUBSTANTIAL!
Those resources helped me see how often I was judging my husband's actions or intentions TOTALLY WRONG! It is rather disconcerting, but better to figure it out. Too often we think we know someone, but our assumptions cause us to not really perceive their true nature.

If that sounds interesting you can look at Magnetic Femininity by Allie Duzette and The Keys to the Kingdom and The Queen's Code by Alison Armstrong.

I can only think that relationships are stronger with a more accurate understanding of each other.

May you grow the type of marriage you seek in mentorship.
 
Mine this forum.
Just as men had to move tons of ore for every nugget that they found, there are tons of nuggets surrounded by millions of tons of dirt (and worse) in these many threads.
Study as if your entire future depends on it, because it probably does. This truth has a way of changing families and entire family trees. It is not a truth to be toyed with.
 
The Revolting Man said:
You are in the right place. We have a number of families who have been practicing for a very long time. The opportunities for mentorship are available.

Spend some time in the forum and develop some relationships and attend a retreat!
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Highly second going to a retreat. They are a great blessing, a lot of fun, and everything else is more effective when you interact with people you have met face to face.

You are in a good spot, where you realize the truth, but also have the wisdom to know that actual practice is not an easy or simple thing.
 
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