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During my research I came across and article online or a page even on this website, but it talked about how in the late second century they 170ad to 200ad that they were removing apostolic support for plural marriage. Indicating that there was support.

If someone possible has can you please share it with me.

And I have seen a couple people talk on the subjects of lesbians and bisexual and how they don't really exist, which is hilarious to see those articles saying they are more likely to be with the opposite sex lol

But anyways inside of marriage, say a man has two wives, what is the stance of this website for or against intimacy between women under a man.

My understanding is that it's wrong and I don't see how it wouldn't be wrong, but others I have seen arguing in a way to make it sound not wrong? And that was maybe on the idea that technically they can't have sexual intercourse? that was awhile ago though.. so I wanted to get clarification.
And to be fair, it might have been a different website..

I just wanted to cover my bases and get some correction.
 
During my research I came across and article online or a page even on this website, but it talked about how in the late second century they 170ad to 200ad that they were removing apostolic support for plural marriage. Indicating that there was support.

If someone possible has can you please share it with me.

And I have seen a couple people talk on the subjects of lesbians and bisexual and how they don't really exist, which is hilarious to see those articles saying they are more likely to be with the opposite sex lol

But anyways inside of marriage, say a man has two wives, what is the stance of this website for or against intimacy between women under a man.

My understanding is that it's wrong and I don't see how it wouldn't be wrong, but others I have seen arguing in a way to make it sound not wrong? And that was maybe on the idea that technically they can't have sexual intercourse? that was awhile ago though.. so I wanted to get clarification.
And to be fair, it might have been a different website..

I just wanted to cover my bases and get some correction.
I believe you may be thinking about a discussion we had about a work by Tertullian that was a defense of monogamy. I think it may have spilled out into several threads at that time because that’s how BibFam rolls!

Let me see if I can find it. This is where he I desperately miss @FollowingHim as he could somehow go straight to it but I don’t understand the site the way he does.
 
During my research I came across and article online or a page even on this website, but it talked about how in the late second century they 170ad to 200ad that they were removing apostolic support for plural marriage. Indicating that there was support.

If someone possible has can you please share it with me.

And I have seen a couple people talk on the subjects of lesbians and bisexual and how they don't really exist, which is hilarious to see those articles saying they are more likely to be with the opposite sex lol

But anyways inside of marriage, say a man has two wives, what is the stance of this website for or against intimacy between women under a man.

My understanding is that it's wrong and I don't see how it wouldn't be wrong, but others I have seen arguing in a way to make it sound not wrong? And that was maybe on the idea that technically they can't have sexual intercourse? that was awhile ago though.. so I wanted to get clarification.
And to be fair, it might have been a different website..

I just wanted to cover my bases and get some correction.
Some of it is in this thread ; https://biblicalfamilies.org/forum/threads/polygamous-christian-in-roman-empire.17306/#post-277414

Honestly though, if this doesn’t have its own thread then it really needs it. If someone else doesn’t start it then I will.
 
But anyways inside of marriage, say a man has two wives, what is the stance of this website for or against intimacy between women under a man.
Man in the middle summed up the position of the site.
There are other threads that get into that in more detail with arguments for and against.
I would suggest not making rules that are not in the Bible. My opinion is such a rule regulating conduct between wives would cause stress or concern where none needs to be, about overstepping some boundary God never made. I think that tendency toward regulating may be fear based, where the man has heard of other men being left or replaced by a woman. It happened to my uncle who was married monogamously....left for a girlfriend. His ex later went back to a man and had another child too. In my uncles words, that happened to him because he was a complete arsehole. So, for whatever that is worth. My sisterwife and I are straight and I cannot imagine anything or anyone taking the place of my husband. He has no equal...so no replacement is possible.

Here is another thread discussing it.
 
During my research I came across and article online or a page even on this website, but it talked about how in the late second century they 170ad to 200ad that they were removing apostolic support for plural marriage. Indicating that there was support.

If someone possible has can you please share it with me.

And I have seen a couple people talk on the subjects of lesbians and bisexual and how they don't really exist, which is hilarious to see those articles saying they are more likely to be with the opposite sex lol

But anyways inside of marriage, say a man has two wives, what is the stance of this website for or against intimacy between women under a man.

My understanding is that it's wrong and I don't see how it wouldn't be wrong, but others I have seen arguing in a way to make it sound not wrong? And that was maybe on the idea that technically they can't have sexual intercourse? that was awhile ago though.. so I wanted to get clarification.
And to be fair, it might have been a different website..

I just wanted to cover my bases and get some correction.
The discussion over women being intimate with other women usually rests on the interpretation of Romans 1:26-27, For this reason God gave them up to vile passions. For even their women exchanged the natural use for what is against nature. Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful, and receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due.

While there are explicit commands and examples against men being sexually involved with other men, no such commands or examples exist regarding women. Sin is the violation of God's Law, so where there is no law against females being intimate there is no sin.
I would suggest not making rules that are not in the Bible. My opinion is such a rule regulating conduct between wives would cause stress or concern where none needs to be, about overstepping some boundary God never made.
Very sound advice 👌
 
Some of it is in this thread ; https://biblicalfamilies.org/forum/threads/polygamous-christian-in-roman-empire.17306/#post-277414

Honestly though, if this doesn’t have its own thread then it really needs it. If someone else doesn’t start it then I will.
Thank you! I'll check it out.


The discussion over women being intimate with other women usually rests on the interpretation of Romans 1:26-27, For this reason God gave them up to vile passions. For even their women exchanged the natural use for what is against nature. Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful, and receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due.

While there are explicit commands and examples against men being sexually involved with other men, no such commands or examples exist regarding women. Sin is the violation of God's Law, so where there is no law against females being intimate there is no sin.

Very sound advice 👌
And that reason is definitely one of them, exchanged the natural use for what is against nature.

I see that this could be argued that women were giving themselves over to animals which was against nature, but the correlation vs men leads people to consider it the same.

Man in the middle summed up the position of the site.
There are other threads that get into that in more detail with arguments for and against.
I would suggest not making rules that are not in the Bible. My opinion is such a rule regulating conduct between wives would cause stress or concern where none needs to be, about overstepping some boundary God never made. I think that tendency toward regulating may be fear based, where the man has heard of other men being left or replaced by a woman. It happened to my uncle who was married monogamously....left for a girlfriend. His ex later went back to a man and had another child too. In my uncles words, that happened to him because he was a complete arsehole. So, for whatever that is worth. My sisterwife and I are straight and I cannot imagine anything or anyone taking the place of my husband. He has no equal...so no replacement is possible.

Here is another thread discussing it.

Thank you for the reply! your link is broken btw. Now I'm not 100% convinced that this is not covered under sexual immorality. As it's not really natural, and could be argued that lust is still involved as the covenant is between the woman and her husband, just as it is spiritually with the congregations. The intimacy happens in the inner chambers and that belongs to the man. The congregations are not in covenant with each other, but to the husband.

This is one of the reasons I'm looking for some meat on the subject and deep thought and understanding taking in many examples throughout the scriptures.
 
I see that this could be argued that women were giving themselves over to animals which was against nature, but the correlation vs men leads people to consider it the same.
The article linked in the other thread clears up a lot.
 
Thank you! I'll check it out.



And that reason is definitely one of them, exchanged the natural use for what is against nature.

I see that this could be argued that women were giving themselves over to animals which was against nature, but the correlation vs men leads people to consider it the same.



Thank you for the reply! your link is broken btw. Now I'm not 100% convinced that this is not covered under sexual immorality. As it's not really natural, and could be argued that lust is still involved as the covenant is between the woman and her husband, just as it is spiritually with the congregations. The intimacy happens in the inner chambers and that belongs to the man. The congregations are not in covenant with each other, but to the husband.

This is one of the reasons I'm looking for some meat on the subject and deep thought and understanding taking in many examples throughout the scriptures.
You can get meat on this topic if you search around the site a bit, but I’d say that it’s a bit tangential to the overall proposition of polygyny. It’s often used as a wedge as well (“…see, they had me almost convinced on the possibility of polygyny, but now they want to get all freaky in bed…bunch of pervs…). Polygyny doesn’t necessitate such female relations.
 
The link worked when I tried it.


You will find some meat on the subject at the article linked in that thread!
I still cannot go to that link, maybe my account is still to new

Polygyny doesn’t necessitate such female relations.

This I agree with, I think privately a man can run his house however he sees fit as the authority to do that has been placed upon him, either good or bad intentions, either things in the law or not.

However in the overall sound doctrine that cannot be refuted. Polygyny cannot be refuted on scriptural basis, but female relations can in relation to all of the pictures and shadows and natural functions of creation.
 
However in the overall sound doctrine that cannot be refuted. Polygyny cannot be refuted on scriptural basis, but female relations can in relation to all of the pictures and shadows and natural functions of creation.
I can tell you've never seen the "function" in nature that happens when does, ewes, or cows come in heat. Other does, ewes, and cows ride them making their hormonal state OBVIOUS.

It is handy when you don't keep a bull and need to know when to get that cow bred!

Again, ain't nothing happening with one cow jumping on the other.....except that the other animal is sensitive to the needs of the animal that is lookin' for attention.

Feel free to stress all you want about pictures, shadows and functions. Or what other people may think. Just remember YHWH didn't forget any needed law, and He said not to add or take away.

His instructions include burying your poop if you go in the hills too!

Nuff said!
 
 
Polygyny cannot be refuted on scriptural basis, but female relations can in relation to all of the pictures and shadows and natural functions of creation.
If you are willing to rely on scripture alone to defend polygyny, please also be willing to stick with scripture alone, i.e. with what is actually written, regarding female relations.

Feel free to stress all you want about pictures, shadows and functions. Or what other people may think. Just remember YHWH didn't forget any needed law, and He said not to add or take away.

His instructions include burying your poop if you go in the hills too!
^^^^ I would encourage you to read the above carefully. God gives explicit instructions about even the most basic human needs and functions, even down to dealing with poop. He gave clear and irrefutable commands against male to male relations, so He didn’t forget to give a law against female to female relations.

If you are willing to depart from scripture alone at any point, you lose the right to appeal to scripture alone for every point. Shalom
 

That article link worked and that is the kind study I like, so I appreciate you sharing that with me.

I don't really bother myself with what anyone thinks, I just want to be in sound doctrine before Yah.
 
There were several threads talking about female - female relationships and possibly it happened inside other threads by changing topics.

It's proven topic which drives engagement here.
 
Here are some threads about lesbians:



 
If you are willing to rely on scripture alone to defend polygyny, please also be willing to stick with scripture alone, i.e. with what is actually written, regarding female relations.


^^^^ I would encourage you to read the above carefully. God gives explicit instructions about even the most basic human needs and functions, even down to dealing with poop. He gave clear and irrefutable commands against male to male relations, so He didn’t forget to give a law against female to female relations.

If you are willing to depart from scripture alone at any point, you lose the right to appeal to scripture alone for every point. Shalom

Lets just grant that it's only from scripture alone, I would like to ask a few questions and then pose a problem with the logic.
Most of the scripture references I will assume you know and thus will not quote them.

But lets start off with. Plural marriage is completely biblical, we have witness to men having more then one wife, we have Yah describing himself with more then one wife(including sisters) we have Yah giving wives to king David, in so much that he would have given him more. So we have the witnesses to that. 2 or 3 every word shall be established.

Now lets use the "Not real cheating" post as a standard. Women are allowed to go lick each others hidden spots and it's not sin because there is no written law that says specifically that.

Now lets take that study of Romans 1:26-27 that basically proves it's more or less talking about anal.

So the argument goes that because a penis is not involved then technically there is no law so no sin.

Yahusha spoke on this topic of lust, that it's not just the act itself mentioned in the OT it's actually the lust in the heart after the woman regardless of the physical act that causes one to commit adultery in his heart.

We know the law is spiritual.

But with the lust there is no penis involved, it's all in the mind right, and the sins that first happen always start in the mind.
So now can women lust? of course they can... and I hope this is not your position that women can't lust.. and that she's comparable to cows humping each other to show they are sexual active.. But this is not consistent to say that if there is no penis involved it's not sin. You are missing the spirit of the law. In the case of lust, regardless of physical properties of the body it's the desire of something that is perverse. This is why spiritually when they started serving other gods or even thinking about it, they were committing adultery not physically right.

And this standard makes sense.

Nahum 3:5
“ Behold, I am against you,” says the LORD of hosts;
“ I will lift your skirts over your face,
I will show the nations your nakedness,
And the kingdoms your shame.

Because not everyone is suppose to even see the nakedness.

Titus 2:5 to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.

What does pure mean? pure in spirit, in the heart first and foremost.

1 John 2:16 For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world

The lust of the eyes and of the flesh is not just for men

Israel as the congregation is spoken of as a women or two women etc. But they spoken as they are lusting and so Yah gives them over.
The women is lusting and therefore it's sin.

If a woman lust for a man it's sin?
If a women lust for an animal to have sex with it's sin?
If a women lust for an angel to have sex with it's sin?
Women lust after women This is okay?

Regardless of the authority given to her or not, her heart needs to be circumcised.

Man lust after man sin.
man lust after woman sin.
Man lust after animal sin..
Man lust after angel sin..

It's the same standard... Yah does not change his standard.. remember there is no male or female in the spirit where we shall go.

If a woman has this dichotomy of the same standard of holiness, purity that Yah has set. Then it's the same standard.

Now back to the "real cheating" post.

You argue that it's ok for a woman to go out and share her nakedness with another woman because there is no penis..
Yet that's the same as the shame that is used.

Are biological sisters allowed to be intimate with each other? there is no law so no sin?
If a man marries them are they then allowed?
Are men allowed to lick each other? because there is no law no sin?
What about men being intimate with women but no penetration? That still throws out the spirit.
Can a brother pleasure her sister? without penetration?
The spirit of the law is being completely thrown out..
It's basically justifying all indecency and is most definitely not pure.
There is a boundary that has been missed and I'm trying to find that.

At most what I can see is that Yah gave women to man, and man gets to make rules for his wives going down the authority chain. But women are not permitted by default to do anything outside of the covenant of a man with any women at all. And under his house he takes upon all guilt of his wife/wives as he is the one in charge.

Hopefully this is written out comprehendible enough to understand my position.

I would have to say no. I have never known a man to have two penises.

I laughed at this...
 
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