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Should polygynous families live under one roof or two?
- Thread starter PilgrimJustPassingThru
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Maybe this too personal, but would you mind sharing some of the reasons you changed your mind? I'd love to hear more about your experiences because it sounds like you've been doing this a long time. I'd appreciate whatever advice you have to share. It would be really helpful to hear from someone who has a lot of experience.
I’d rather not, it can vary according to each family’s circumstances.
Suffice it to say that in my opinion, one size (method) does not fit all situations.
That's fair. And I imagine the dynamics are very different when it have more than two women.
Very much so.
It sounds like too much for me. It's probably like having kids. Having a large family sounds great until you start getting more kids and you realize that you don't have enough time to give them each the attention you want to.
Ugh. I need an edit button...
You cannot raise each of nine the way people raise an only child. Those in large families don't get to have their way as much. They learn to care for others.
My kids can’t understand how family gatherings as a kid sometimes involved about 50 people crammed into a 1,200 square foot house and only one bathroom! It got interesting. The boys used the backyard to piss against a tree. If things got too backed up in the cue to hold #2, you got in the car and drove to MickeyDs.
Christmas with cousins, second cousins, great uncles and aunts with noise, laughs, and chaos was unbelievable!
I wouldn’t trade any of that upbringing for all the cash in America.
I know people who only have one child because they couldn't physically have anymore, and their children are caring, and often very smart and mature because they were raised around adults mostly. Sometimes putting all of your time and effort into one child can have a similar outcome.
My point was only that you cannot put all your time and effort into one child when you have nine. In my case our oldest was 20 when my youngest was born 6 years after her nearest sibling.
I was raised in a family of 7 children and a father who spent most of his time on the road.
None of us feel cheated, we didn’t understand the idea of being self-centered.
Yes, the focus was the family, not self. I am from a family of 10 siblings and there are 2 sets of twins 2 years apart. Both my parents were working their farm while raising the 10 kids who were all close in age. But yes, it was different then because my mother didn't have the distraction of an automatic washing machine, dryer, microwave oven, or numerous other modern conveniences. We all had to work very hard or starve.