I'm currently reading book Positive Intelligence. Basic idea of book is existence of 10 psyhcological saboteurs. Judge as main one with 9 helpers.
You here are so real example of saboteur hyper-rational.
Let's give example:
Wifey is cooking and husband grabs her from behind. Wife should "relax into husband" because:
1. Lord says so, it's husband want. It's rules.
Perfect example of hyper-rational. Logic and thinking are only thinks that matter. Off course, such mind is perfectly fine with rules.
How about this:
2. To sense his desire for her, to sense being wanted.
Truth is: "I think, I exist". Truth is also: "I feel, I exist".
From hyper-rational sabouter perspective feelings and emotions are so .
@steve, @Keith Martin and @HomesteadWife
I sense so much focus on ideal archetype and "It's total catastrophype if we leave archetype for a second". How about leaving bloody rules and logic behind and experiencing love?
Like dancing. Man still has to lead. But good dancer is sensitive to female's movement and wishes. Interesting, bodies moving in unison without his barking orders.
Movement, passion, cooperation instead of bureucrat opening rule book.
And for finale, one heretical thought:
Would Lord prefer you being less obsessed with following rules and more willing to spend time with Him for Him and practice experiential experience with Him?
Remember, Pharisees were master rule followers. Still got spanked.
I can't speak for anyone else mentioned. In general my personality type tends toward logic (female INTJ) and less about emotion.
That being said my husband and I are dancers. We were in a dance competition and placed in the finals the first night we met, so obviously in our relationship there was a response to each other on a Passionate emotional and physical level. To dance well you have to start out with knowing basic rules, steps, and practicing them consistently again and again in order for them to become part of how you move and dance. Once you know and have internalized these thing you have greater freedom and emotional expression when dancing. You can play, passionately respond to your partner on a more emotional and intuitive level, and be more creative together BECAUSE you have the grounding in basic rules and are not constantly stepping on each others toes. You both understand the basics and the leader can truly lead because the follower knows how to respond to his cues and vice versa.
Having a relationship with the creator for me is about love. His love for me by sending Yeshua even though I did not deserve it.
Love is not all about emotion though. Often love is shown by action rather than words and emotions (because those cannot constantly be present). Getting swept up in emotion can lead to following heart and coming to unbiblical personal belief system. Where because you feel it is right you ignore what YHVH actually said about the subject.
Because you love you want to do what the other person desires and what makes them happy. A relationship with YHVH often starts with, what is in it for me (salvation). Gradually as you grow in your relationship you want to do everything you can to please Him, thus following more of the guidance(rules) He has laid out to do so. Not because of fear, but because of a passionate love and desire to know, love, and serve Him more fully because of all He has done.
In day to day life I try to do what I have come to believe is right because I know it will lead to greater love.
Yeshua criticized the pharisees not for observing the rules, but forgetting the heart behind them. That of doing your best to do what He wants out of love. Even if we are constantly messing up He knows we are trying.
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