Support Advice for supporting first wife in accepting polygyny.

[MeganC]

Do you even have time for one wife, nevermind two?

If situation moves from barely seeing wife to practically never seeing wife, why would first wife accept this?

With an additional wife and her additional income, even small, that would free up the husband to have more time with the family.

 

[Joleneakamama]

Do you even have time for one wife, nevermind two?

If situation moves from barely seeing wife to practically never seeing wife, why would first wife accept this?

What he is describing is the same thing I experienced as a first and only (for 25 years) wife. I cooked, cared for animals, cared for children, nursed the babies, anwered the business phone, worked in the garden. In the summer I was too exhausted for intimacy by the time the chores were done and the kids were in bed. I remember very distinctly feeling that I could have more QUALITY time with my husband if someone else was here to help....and she might also get more QUALITY time than she would as an only wife.
I was never wanting less of my husband, but rather thought mutual support would be a benefit for all involved.
It takes time to establish a business. It takes time to raise children to ages where they can be relied on to take care of their chores without supervision and following up on them. Havin a large family means going back to baby stages every couple of years.

Everyone has the same number of hours in a day. The gain is that it doesn't take twice as long to make twice as much food, and an extra "grown up" on the team is way more + than - for sure!

 

[MeganC]

Havin a large family means going back to baby stages every couple of years.

 

[MemeFan]

With an additional wife and her additional income, even small, that would free up the husband to have more time with the family.

What he is describing is the same thing I experienced as a first and only (for 25 years) wife. I cooked, cared for animals, cared for children, nursed the babies, anwered the business phone, worked in the garden. In the summer I was too exhausted for intimacy by the time the chores were done and the kids were in bed. I remember very distinctly feeling that I could have more QUALITY time with my husband if someone else was here to help....and she might also get more QUALITY time than she would as an only wife.
I was never wanting less of my husband, but rather thought mutual support would be a benefit for all involved.
It takes time to establish a business. It takes time to raise children to ages where they can be relied on to take care of their chores without supervision and following up on them. Havin a large family means going back to baby stages every couple of years.

Everyone has the same number of hours in a day. The gain is that it doesn't take twice as long to make twice as much food, and an extra "grown up" on the team is way more + than - for sure!

I wasn't commenting housework, but his work. He has two side businesses. His work is minimum 60, maybe reaching 80 hours if he had some longer travel and overtime. He didn't mentioned he needs both side businesses for survival.

I understand wanting to start your own business and control your destiny, but two is too much. Better to concentrate on one.

And they certainly eat free time on weekend.