- I am willing to submit myself to the expectations of the BF site and forum, or accept revocation of posting privileges if I violate protocol.
- In matters of plural marriage (only) I am willing to submit myself to counsel, direction, and rule by those seasoned veterans of PM worthy of being considered elders.
- Since I have no experience in PM, and can only see through my glass darkly, I need to digest the counsel of those with proven track records of maintaining a unified plural family (it need not be a perfect family, but one in order).
- I am willing to implement rulings by these elders as I know they have a sncere desire to see a future PM succeed and be a good testimony to the non- believer or non-practitioner.
- I reserve the right to revoke my submission should any or all of the elders prove themselves to be unworthy of such submission (moral, and/or biblical shortcomings) or should their rulings prove to be consistently unreliable.
I think everything MOJO has said is right and important. I do have a question, however. In some ways this view of 'submission' feels like a cell-phone plan. Policy isn't bad, but as I was reading Proverbs this morning I was struck by all of the sayings about having the courage to rebuke and the willingness to accept it:
A wise son hears his father's instruction, but a scoffer does not listen to rebuke. (Pro 13:1 ESV)
Whoever says to the wicked, "You are in the right," will be cursed by peoples, abhorred by nations,
25 but those who rebuke the wicked will have delight, and a good blessing will come upon them.
(Pro 24:24-25 ESV)
10 A rebuke goes deeper into a man of understanding than a hundred blows into a fool. (Pro 17:10 ESV)
5 Better is open rebuke than hidden love. (Pro 27:5 ESV)
Conversely, the absolute worst character in Proverbs is the 'scoffer' . . . who is characterized by a fist shaking arrogance. . . who is beyond hope of correction:
7 Whoever corrects a scoffer gets himself abuse, and he who reproves a wicked man incurs injury.
8 Do not reprove a scoffer, or he will hate you; reprove a wise man, and he will love you. (Pro 9:7-8 ESV)
Worse yet is the fact that he is basically characterized as one who refuses to listen to rebuke:
A wise son hears his father's instruction, but a scoffer does not listen to rebuke. (Pro 13:1 ESV).
Really Listening, is something that I think should be listed before MOJO's 'willingness to submit.' . . . and in a lot of ways listening may be more difficult for us as men: especially if we feel threatened or shamed in an interchange. Without those having courage to rebuke, we cannot improve. Lacking the ability to consider and accept rebuke . . . puts us in a category where we don't want to be. Thoughts? Thanks, guys.